Best Watch If You Dare Podcasts (2024)

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Episode 139: Midsommar w/ special guest Heather Murray 2:31:46

7d ago2:31:46

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Aaron's wife Heather returns to the show to discuss 2019's folk horror film "Midsommar" written and directed by Ari Aster. They talk about whether or not the morality of Dani's choices in the ending matter, what it means to find true freedom, and "The Wicker Man's" massive influence on this film and folk horror as a whole. They also get into the va…

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171 | Anaconda 1:15:31

11h ago1:15:31

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No step on snek! It's snek szn and we're reviewing ANACONDA, the tight 1997 thriller. Was it a charmer or did we fail to squeeze excitement out of it? We'll also discuss creature features in general, *that* accent, and if there's any philosophical difference between this and other big snake/shark movies. Plus: Steven reviews THE COFFEE TABLE, Patri…

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The Case of the Escaping Thong and Wandering Balls 44:49

1d ago44:49

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Send us a Text Message. ***Warning*** Bobby is hammered Hello, darlings! Buckle up for another electrifying episode of "Not Well" with your favorite disaster duo, Bobby and Jim! Tonight's show is serving up a cocktail of chaos, comedy, and maybe a touch of public indecency. As you hear this, we’re probably knee-deep in Pride festivities, or as we l…

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HOW Does an Addict Get to Real, Lasting SEXUAL & EMOTIONAL Sobriety & Recovery? 40:01

3d ago40:01

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Episode 234 comes in response to TWO situations/questions sent to PBSE by porn/sex addicts in recovery. Here’s a brief overview of each— The first has been addicted to porn since he was 14 and is now well into his adult years. He was in a relationship for 3 years before disclosing his addiction. In his own words he says—Since then I have lied about…

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What’s the Point in Staying with a Porn/Sex Addict? What’s in it for the Betrayed Partner? 32:37

10d ago32:37

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In Episode 233, Mark & Steve respond to a very heart-felt submission from a betrayed partner, who asks some very hard questions about her relationship with a partner who is a porn/sex addict in recovery. Here's what she submitted to PBSE— Hi Mark and Steve, I’m feeling a lot of apathy in my marriage and I don’t understand the point in staying. I’ve…

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Who Needs Deodorant at a Musk Party When You Have Sulfuric Burps and Dry Mouth Nightmares? 45:45

15d ago45:45

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Send us a Text Message. In this outrageous episode of "Not Well," Bobby and Jim dive into a whirlwind of unfiltered hilarity and unexpected revelations. They start with Bobby's new venture, Sugar Daddy's Creamery, which prompts a bizarre yet amusing discussion on homemade ice cream flavors. The conversation spirals into chaotic territory, touching …

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The PBSE/Dare to Connect Approach vs 12-Step Support Groups 33:02

18d ago33:02

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In PBSE Episode 232, Mark & Steve respond to a listener's experience and questions with regard to the approach to Betrayal Trauma healing that PBSE and Dare to Connect take, vs. the experience in 12-Step groups. Here's what the partner of a porn/sex addict submitted to PBSE— Is it me or are the approaches of partner-oriented 12-step fellowships the…

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Episode 138: Saint Maud w/ special guest Angela 1:53:09

22d ago1:53:09

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First time guest Angela joins Aaron and Derek to discuss 2019's psychological horror film "Saint Maud" written and directed by Rose Glass in her feature directorial debut. They get into how the movie explores adult spirituality juxtaposed with trauma, the nature of isolation and repression, and how Maud blends various Christian beliefs. They also t…

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Watching Your Kid's Half Ass Achievements Isn't as Fun as My Night in the Dark Room at the Eagle 1:08:05

22d ago1:08:05

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Send us a Text Message. In this episode of Not Well, hosts Bobby and Jim celebrate Pride Month with a humorous and cringeworthy intro, discussing LGBTQ+ identity and a quirky butter shop deal. They share their reactions to a listener's voicemail, sparking a deep discourse on public harassment, emergency responses, and Pride Month's diverse reaction…

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Because He’s a Sex Addict—even in Real Recovery—I will still Never Be Enough For Him! How do I Cope with That?! 32:28

25d ago32:28

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Episode 231 comes in response to a very raw and real submission by a PBSE listener who is the partner of a sex addict. Here's what she vulnerably expressed— I’m the partner of a sex/porn addict who has a 3-4 year history of lying about being in “recovery.” Even to sponsors, men groups & therapists. My experience has always been my discovery, never …

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170 | The Bridge Curse 1:01:47

29d ago1:01:47

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This week the gang takes in the Taiwanese found-footage-or-is-it film THE BRIDGE CURSE and attempts to unravel its— two? four? six? eight? — stories. We also inadvertently start World War III. If that's not enough: Chris reviews The Twilight Saga, Patrick catches up to LATE NIGHT WITH THE DEVIL, and Steven reviews CIVIL WAR and INFESTED. Join the c…

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Seduction Games, Wiener Hunting, and Alleyway Secrets 53:25

29d ago53:25

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Send us a Text Message. In this lively and unfiltered episode of "Not Well," hosts Bobby and Jim dive into a myriad of topics, blending humor, personal anecdotes, and candid discussions on controversial issues. The episode kicks off with the hosts bantering about their recent experiences, including unexpected and awkward encounters with strangers. …

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What Does “Real Restitution” for Serious Betrayal in a Relationship Look Like? 38:57

1M ago38:57

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In Episode 230, the betrayed parter of a porn/sex addict submitted her situation and some questions to PBSE surrounding the CRITICAL issue of "restitution." Here's how she expressed it— Over the course of our 25 year long marriage, my husband had two emotional affairs, a decade and a half long porn addiction and a 2 year long physical and emotional…

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Episode 137: Demons (Dèmoni) w/ special guest James Hales 2:07:48

1M ago2:07:48

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On this episode, James Hales returns to discuss 1985's Italian supernatural horror film "Demons" (Italian: Dèmoni) directed by Lamberto Bava and produced by Dario Argento with Aaron and Derek. They talk about Bava's involvement with the project in comparison with Argento and other collaborators, how the movie seems to genre hop, and several of the …

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She went from cute little pop star to Bleach-Blonde, Bad-Built, Butch Body Lowe's lesbian 1:14:55

1M ago1:14:55

1:14:55

Send us a Text Message. Hosts: Bobby and Jim Opening Remarks: Bobby and Jim open the episode with casual banter, Bobby imitating Paris Hilton's voice. They express excitement for the episode, mentioning it's a bonus episode. Brief discussion about Paris Hilton's real voice and Bobby’s past obsession with her. Main Segments: Reacting to Political Dr…

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Do I Have to Accept that my Addict Partner, even in Successful Recovery, could Betray Me Again?! 37:13

1M ago37:13

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In Episode 229, Mark & Steve answer some very TOUGH questions asked by a partner seeking to heal from the betrayal trauma caused by her porn/sex addicted partner. Here's what she sent in to PBSE: Do I just have to accept he can never be faithful? That an addict will always be an addict so he will always have to fight the want of others? There will …

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05/17/24 - A galactic implosion of incompetence 36:14

1M ago36:14

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Mark Blyth, political economist at Brown University's Watson Institute for International and Public Affairs, and Carrie Nordlund, political scientist and Assistant Dean for Undergraduate Programs at Brown University, share their take on the news. On this episode: 2024 election update: Biden struggles to get his message to Americans, while Trump’s h…

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My Parrot Bit Me While I Stuffed a Ziploc Bag Filled With Vaseline in the Mattress 55:15

1M ago55:15

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Send us a Text Message. The latest episode of "Not Well" features a lively and diverse array of topics including biting parrots, unconventional mattress activities, the phenomenon of whiskey dick, and humorous pool party antics. Bobby and Jim also share their thoughts on circuit gays, their experiences in high school, and amusing stories from their…

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As a Partner, I’m Falling and Drowning—HOW DO I STOP! How do I TAKE BACK MY POWER?! 37:20

2M ago37:20

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In Episode 228, Mark & Steve get SUPER passionate talking to the partners of porn/sex addicts! Over the past several weeks, PBSE has received a number of heart-wrenching submissions by listeners who are partners falling and drowning in the overwhelming intensity of betrayal trauma and being in a relationship with a porn/sex addict. Unfortunately, i…

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Episode 136: May w/ special guest V.P. Morris 2:16:30

2M ago2:16:30

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The Spoop Bois Derek and Aaron are joined by author V.P. Morris ("ShadowCast," "The Dead Letters Podcast," and "Dead Ringer") to discuss 2002's psychological horror film "May" written and directed by Lucky McKee. They talk about the duality of empathy and disgust for the May character, how underappreciated Anna Faris is as an actress, and the magic…

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Todd Likes The Inverted Dick. So There's Somebody For Everybody 44:08

2M ago44:08

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Send us a Text Message. In this episode of "Not Well," the hosts engage in a vibrant and eclectic discussion that spans a wide array of topics, reflecting the podcast's signature mix of humor, candor, and edgy commentary. The episode kicks off with tales from a recent trip to Mexico, highlighting the hassles of dealing with customs and the quirky i…

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I Need My Sex Addict Partner be “all-in” with Recovery, and to Stop Throwing Me Under the Bus with Family & Friends! 36:26

2M ago36:26

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In Episode 227, Mark & Steve respond to an amazing submission from a PBSE listener who is facing an incredibly hard, overwhelming and toxic situation in her relationship with her sex/porn addict partner. One of the things that was so impressive about her submission is how balanced and reasonable she was in describing her partner and the situation. …

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This Is Why I Go to Gay Campgrounds That Are Nude: Because Then You Don't Have to Dress Up 1:03:21

2M ago1:03:21

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Send us a Text Message. Tune in to this week’s episode of "Not Well" where hosts Bobby and Jim navigate the chaotic and often hilarious realities of gay life with unapologetic honesty and sharp wit. In "Embracing the Chaos: Humor and Real Talk," listeners are treated to a no-holds-barred discussion that spans the complexities of health, personal an…

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How Can I Share my Authentic Feelings when my Addict Partner Reacts with Depression, Anxiety and/or Shame? 39:21

2M ago39:21

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In Episode 226, a PBSE listener asks a very common question about her interactions with her porn/sex addicted partner: Hello, I just recently started listening to your podcast and I was wondering if you have, or if you could talk about, how to approach communicating our authentic feelings when our porn addict partner also struggles with depression …

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169 | Revenge of the Pontianak 1:07:39

2M ago1:07:39

1:07:39

The lady in red is dancing with me, cheek to cheek. Too bad she's a Pontianak! That's right, this week the village is being haunted by a either a ghost, demon, vampire, or witch: it's the REVENGE OF THE PONTIANAK and we'll discuss all the chilling details. Plus: Steven reviews LATE NIGHT WITH THE DEVIL, Patrick discusses his playthrough of CONTROL,…

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Episode 135: The Fly w/ special guests Heather Wixson and Patrick Bromley 2:03:14

2M ago2:03:14

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On this extra special episode, Patrick Bromley (critic, host of "F This Movie!" podcast, contributor on Bloody Disgusting, Daily Dead, and Corpse Club) returns to the show and the horror chick Heather Wixson (author and former horror journalist) makes her first guest appearance to discuss 1986's body horror masterpiece "The Fly" directed by David C…

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You Can't Put Your Own C*ck On A Pedestal 56:14

2M ago56:14

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Send us a Text Message. In this episode of "Not Well," hosts Bobby and Jim engage in a candid and freewheeling conversation that spans a wide array of topics, reflecting their podcast's ethos of exploring hot topics and deep dives into various societal issues. Their dialogue traverses the lighthearted to the serious, offering both humor and insight…

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Can Porn/Sex Addicts be Habitual Liars—even about Small Stuff—and How Can They Stop? 36:44

2M ago36:44

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Episode 225 comes from a heart-felt submission by the partner of a porn/sex addict. She reports that he is in solid, serious recovery, but he just can't find a way to become consistently honest! Here's part of what she submitted— It's just a default position (lying) that he takes to everything, whether about his addiction history or about nothing a…

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I Don't Care If You Identify As A Goddamn Hobbit With Size D Tts And A Dck 53:44

2M ago53:44

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Send us a Text Message. The recent episode of "Not Well" offers a rich tapestry of discussions that traverse a wide array of experiences and reflections, encapsulating both the personal and the universal aspects of the gay experience. Early in the episode, a candid discourse emerges around the persistent fears of contracting HIV—a fear deeply ingra…

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Should We Consider a “Sex Fast”? And IF so, HOW do we NOT become “Disconnected” in the Process? 32:25

2M ago32:25

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In Episode 224, Mark & Steve discuss a topic that many couples face—the addict in recovery is trying to stay sober from his use of porn and other sex addiction outlets. At the same time, his partner is seeking her own path of betrayal trauma healing. in the midst of their individual efforts is the issue of their "sexual relationship." How can a cou…

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Episode 134: Arachnophobia 2:32:18

3M ago2:32:18

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After an unexpected hiatus, Aaron and Derek are back to tackle 1990's spider attack horror flick "Arachnophobia" directed by Frank Marshall in his directorial debut. They talk about Aaron's severe arachnophobia, how fun the cast is, and what it was like filming with real spiders. They also get into trusting health experts, wishing movies like this …

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Earthquakes Won't Stop Banjee Bitches from Smoking Candy Cigarettes on the Front Porch or Having A Sexual Revolution 1:08:56

3M ago1:08:56

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Send us a Text Message. In a particularly engaging episode of "Not Well," hosts Bobby and Jim delve into a rich tapestry of topics, highlighted by Bobby's recent escapades in New York City and Jim's distinct take on several universally relatable subjects. The episode is a vibrant mix of humor, personal stories, and societal observations that listen…

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04/11/24 - Light banter and philosophical malaise 36:04

3M ago36:04

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Mark Blyth, political economist at Brown University's Watson Institute for International and Public Affairs, and Carrie Nordlund, political scientist and Assistant Dean for Undergraduate Programs at Brown University, share their take on the news. On this episode: What Truth Social going public means for Donald Trump’s finances How Trump is navigati…

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168 | It's Alive 1:01:38

3M ago1:01:38

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This week the gang gets keen on 70s cinema with IT'S ALIVE, a tale of child-rearing gone wrong. Join us as we attempt to decipher the film's political angles, whether or not the protagonist is a good guy or not, whether we should wait for post-credits scenes at the movies. Plus: Patrick and Steven review TRUE DETECTIVE: NIGHT COUNTRY and Chris revi…

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Now that my Sex/Porn Addiction is Out in the Open, my Betrayed Partner is Lashing Out! How do we Navigate this?! 34:07

3M ago34:07

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In episode 223, Mark & Steve address a submission by a PBSE listener who is in long-term recovery from his porn and sex addiction. At the same time, after many years of gaslighting, lying and multiple layers of betrayal, his spouse is understandably and significantly struggling in the relationship. Here's how he describes the situation— Hey guys! R…

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Big Pharma's Coin Grab, Plane Lady Cocktails, & Life's Bizarre Plot Twists 1:06:16

3M ago1:06:16

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Send us a Text Message. Hey there, our fabulous "Not Well" listeners! It's your favorite dynamic duo, Bobby and Jim, back at it again with another episode that's sure to have you laughing, thinking, and maybe even clutching your pearls a little bit. So, let's dive right in, shall we? We couldn't resist starting off with the hot mess express that is…

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Both Partners Have a Porn Addiction History. One is Pursuing Real Recovery and the other Refuses to do so; Now What? 33:41

3M ago33:41

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In episode 222 of the PBSE podcast, hosts Mark and Steve delve into a deeply personal and challenging topic after receiving a unique submission from a listener. The episode focuses on a couple where both partners have a history of porn and sex addiction, but only one is actively pursuing recovery. The submission details the struggles of trying to s…

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167 | X 1:12:31

3M ago1:12:31

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Join us for a discussion of Ti West's X, a throwback '70s-set slasher about an elderly woman attacking a group of new pornographers. We discuss whether this film has deeper themes up its sleeve and how well it executes them, the unconventional franchise it's spawned, and how it relates to DEATH WISH and THE BACHELORETTE. Plus, Steven and Patrick di…

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Bulge Bands and Wh*re Cutoffs: Dressing for the Attention You Want 59:19

3M ago59:19

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Send us a Text Message. Hey everyone, it's your hosts Bobby and Jim here with another wild ride of an episode of "Not Well." We've got a jam-packed show for you today, filled with everything from personal anecdotes to societal musings. First off, we want to give a shout out to our sponsor, Dr. Scholl's Skin Tag Remover. If you're looking to get rid…

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How Can "Love" and "Attraction" Evolve Through Disclosure and the Recovery/Healing Process? 35:54

3M ago35:54

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Episode 221 comes in response to the heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener struggling after the disclosure of her porn and sex addicted partner. Have you ever felt the flame of love flicker and feared it might go out? That's the heart of our latest episode where we peel back the layers on rekindling romance in the wake of a porn/sexual addiction…

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Grab Life by the Bulge: Unzipping the Secrets of Flaccid Confidence, Digital Flirting, and the Twists of Modern Gay Banter 59:32

3M ago59:32

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Send us a Text Message. "Grab Life by the Bulge: Unzipping the Secrets of Flaccid Confidence, Digital Flirting, and the Twists of Modern Gay Banter" embarks on an unabashed journey into the heart of contemporary gay dating, social dynamics, and self-empowerment. This episode doesn't just scratch the surface but dives deep into the fabric of what it…

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How Can my Family & Friends Support Me & My Partner in Recovery? How Much Should We Share & with Whom? 30:10

3M ago30:10

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In Episode 220, Mark & Steve talk about a challenge in porn/sex addiction and betrayal trauma healing that is all about a "third party"—the family and friends of the addict and partner. Here's a situation submitted by a PBSE listener— Hey guys. Would you consider doing a podcast episode about advice for friends or family trying to support the addic…

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Episode 133: Cube 2:14:17

4M ago2:14:17

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On this episode, Derek and Aaron tackle 1997's Canadian independent sci-fi horror flick "Cube" directed and co-written by Vincenzo Natali. They talk about the themes of paranoia and hopelessness, the simple yet effective aesthetic of the setting, and how the filmmaking choices worked around having a small budget. They also get into the amateur perf…

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