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Divorcing Dads

Four and a half months into the divorce, Mark and his ex have a stable parenting schedule, which seems to be mostly working. But behind the scenes, Mark is upset about his ex repeatedly violating boundaries that seem obvious to him, including entering his home without his permission. Our conversation also touches on how to continue co-parenting effectively even when upset with the ex and what to tell the kids when they ask if you still love their mom.
Topics include:
• Accepting the legitimacy of feeling uncomfortable about interacting with the ex
• When the ex wants ad-hoc visits with the kids
• The ex entering into the home without permission to see the kids
• Is my ex intentionally trying to make me upset?
• Co-parenting and coordinating about kids even when upset with the ex
• Setting clear boundaries and expectations with the ex by explaining things that seem obvious but maybe aren't
• Separating emotionally from your ex
• When your kid asks you if you love your ex
• Getting comfortable talking about the divorce with friends
• Self Care and routines with and without the kids

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