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Episode Notes [01:14] Unexpected Email from Employer [05:49] The Deferred Resignation Program [06:34] Initial Reactions and Concerns [08:01] Evaluating the Offer [08:21] Enhanced Standards of Conduct [08:55] Personal Reflections and Concerns [12:21] Seeking Advice and Making a Decision [13:01] Option One: Do Not Resign [14:56] Option Two: Resign [16:44] Insights from Conversations [21:30] Making The Decision [23:51] Final Thoughts and Gratitude Resources Mentioned Sebastian Junger The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson Donald Trump Elon Musk Steve Bannon Russell Vought Derek Sivers Sumner Crenshaw Brian Fretwell at Finding Good Chad Littlefield The Thought Leaders Practice by Matt Church Simon Cowell Beauty Pill Producer Ben Ford Questions Asked Is it legitimate, and can it be trusted? How are you feeling? What questions come to your mind? Where does your mind go? Are you seeking safety? Would this have been an adrenaline rush as you raced to send the resignation response? What an "enhanced standard" regarding loyalty and trustworthiness was? What are these new "enhanced standards?" Are they beyond what my Constitutional oath requires? If I don't resign, how bright will the target on my back glow? My leadership has supported all my work, but would termination direction come from higher up the chain of command? What would you recommend if we talked over coffee? What questions would you ask? How would you use listening? How would you use silence? How is this scenario playing out in your mind and body? What is coming to the surface for you? How might that influence what you are about to say to me? What are the chances of my name popping on a list and getting fired? How about the chances of being part of an official Reduction in Force and early retirement? Would the administration make a better offer? What do I know about the pending job market? What did I expect the workplace to be like and did I want to be there as the contractions took place? Will the administration pay me through the end of September or will they renege? Can I sufficiently build the Curated Questions business to transition by 1 October? - Do I have the faith or confidence to step into this future as a sole practitioner and grow Curated Questions into all I envisioned? Was this purpose calling? What would I expect the job market to look like at the end of summer if I hadn't developed the income streams to maintain our lifestyle? What is your recommendation? Did it change from your initial recommendation? Where in your body are you feeling the uncertainty? Are you processing this scenario in parallel with your decision as if you had received the email? What additional questions should I have considered? Who else should I have consulted with? How would you have changed my risk rating? What is the correct length of the pregnant pause before making an important announcement? What processes would you use in my circumstance, and what would be different? What questions are at the top of your list to get to a decision? Who would be the members of your pantheon you would counsel with to gain clarity? Apart from the heady analysis, what other key practices would you include in your journey through a similar situation?…

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Ever wonder why so many ADHDers just get each other? It’s because we share some pretty unique traits—some well-known, and others you might not have realised are part of the ADHD experience.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 lesser-known but super relatable ADHD traits, including:

A deep love of learning (but only when it interests us!)
Justice sensitivity
Zero patience for people who don’t own their mistakes (while we over-apologise for ours)
Overcommitting before thinking it through (because everything sounds exciting in the moment)
Making unexpected connections & seeing patterns others miss

🔗 Want to learn how to work with your ADHD brain? Visit https://www.navigatingadultadhd.com

111 episodes

Navigating Adult ADHD

#104 5 ADHD less well known ADHD traits we share

Navigating Adult ADHD

published 14 days ago

MP3•Episode home

Ever wonder why so many ADHDers just get each other? It’s because we share some pretty unique traits—some well-known, and others you might not have realised are part of the ADHD experience.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 lesser-known but super relatable ADHD traits, including:

A deep love of learning (but only when it interests us!)
Justice sensitivity
Zero patience for people who don’t own their mistakes (while we over-apologise for ours)
Overcommitting before thinking it through (because everything sounds exciting in the moment)
Making unexpected connections & seeing patterns others miss

🔗 Want to learn how to work with your ADHD brain? Visit https://www.navigatingadultadhd.com

111 episodes

#Fitness #Mental Health #Xena Jones #ADHD #Adult ADHD #Living With Adhd #Thrive With Adhd #Adhd Support #Adhd Awareness

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#105 Safe People & Safe Places for Adults with ADHD 22:10

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Ever notice how draining it is to be around certain people or in certain environments? Like, your ADHD batteries go from 80% to dead real fast ? That’s not in your head, my friend. Your nervous system knows when you’re safe… and when you’re not. In this episode of Navigating Adult ADHD , we’re talking about the importance of safe people and safe places —what they are, why they matter, and how they impact your ADHD brain (spoiler: a lot ). I’m sharing personal stories (including that time I was living in London with flatmates who made home feel anything but safe), plus practical ways to notice who and where feels good to your nervous system—and who or what doesn’t. You’ll learn: ✨ What makes someone a safe person (and why even people you love aren’t always it) ✨ How to recognise your safe places —whether it’s your car, the toilet, or a cozy corner ✨ Why safety is crucial for ADHD brains to regulate, recharge, and thrive ✨ How trusting your gut will help you create more safety in your life If you’ve been feeling constantly on edge or exhausted from masking, this episode is your permission slip to seek out the people and places where you can just be you . And hey—if you’re looking for a safe place to land? Come hang out with us in the Navigating Adult ADHD Facebook community. We get it. To join & find additional support visit: www.navigatingadultadhd.com…

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#104 5 ADHD less well known ADHD traits we share 26:54

14 days ago26:54

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Ever wonder why so many ADHDers just get each other? It’s because we share some pretty unique traits—some well-known, and others you might not have realised are part of the ADHD experience. In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 lesser-known but super relatable ADHD traits , including: A deep love of learning (but only when it interests us!) Justice sensitivity Zero patience for people who don’t own their mistakes (while we over-apologise for ours) Overcommitting before thinking it through (because everything sounds exciting in the moment) Making unexpected connections & seeing patterns others miss 🔗 Want to learn how to work with your ADHD brain? Visit https://www.navigatingadultadhd.com…

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#103 5 Surprising Ways ADHDers Get Dopamine 20:39

21 days ago20:39

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Ever picked a fight over something ridiculous (like how to grate a carrot)? Or found yourself deep in gossip even when you really didn’t want to be talking about other people? Or maybe you’ve lost hours staring at the wall, completely lost in a daydream? If so, you might just be dopamine-seeking without even realising it. In this episode, we’re diving into five surprising ways ADHDers get dopamine —from picking fights to overanalysing drama, and even skin picking or squeezing. I’ll break down why our ADHD brains engage in these things & how they impact us. 🚀 Plus, if this episode gives you a little dopamine hit, please return the favour & leave a quick review—it helps more ADHDers find the show! Check our navigatingadultadhd.com for more support & free resources…

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#102 ADHDers, We Need to Talk About the S-Word 18:15

28 days ago18:15

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Ever find yourself drowning in shoulds? 🚨 I should be more productive. 🚨 I should have my life together by now. 🚨 I should be able to do this like everyone else. But here’s the thing— "should" is one of the most toxic words for ADHD brains. It fuels shame, keeps us stuck, and makes us feel like we’re constantly failing. In this episode, we’re diving into: ✔️ How "should" creates a shame spiral that leads to avoidance, hiding, and self-criticism. ✔️ Why "should" actually makes us less likely to do the thing. ✔️ A real-life story of how I got trapped in a "should" spiral after being filmed for an ADHD documentary. ✔️ The thought-feeling-action cycle and how to shift your self-talk. ⚡ Plus! Doors to the Navigating Adult ADHD Membership are open for one more day! If you’re ready to stop spinning in shame & start applying what you’re learning here, come join us before doors close! → https://www.navigatingadultadhd.com/joinnow ✨ You’re not behind. You’re not failing. You’re just learning how to work with your ADHD brain instead of against it. 🎧 Hit play & let’s talk about it!…

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#101 5 Things to know & do after your ADHD diagnosis 19:28

5 weeks ago19:28

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Register for the upcoming Masterclass: 4 Steps to an easier & happier life after an ADHD diagnosis Just got your ADHD diagnosis? Feeling relieved, overwhelmed, or unsure where to start? I’ve got you! In this episode, I’ll walk you through 5 key things you need to know to work with your ADHD brain—including how to hack your interest-based attention system, boost dopamine naturally and why medication alone isn’t enough. We’ll also talk about the 6th sense you didn’t know you had (interoception!) and how hormones can impact your ADHD symptoms. Plus, you can grab the full guide — “10 Things to Know & Do After an ADHD Diagnosis” —for even more insights & ADHD-friendly strategies. https://www.navigatingadultadhd.com/checklist Welcome to team ADHD, my friend.…

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4 Steps to a Better Life After an ADHD Diagnosis [time sensitive] 9:21

6 weeks ago9:21

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***Register here for this free class*** "Why does it take me two hours to do something that takes someone else ten minutes?" If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone. Most ADHDers grow up thinking they’re lazy, don’t have what it takes, or just need to try harder —but the truth is, you’ve been working against your brain, not with it. And that’s exhausting. In this special episode, I’m sharing four game-changing steps that make life easier with ADHD —the exact things I wish someone had told me years ago. These are the keys to thriving with ADHD , and I’ll be diving into them inside my FREE masterclass : 4 Steps to an Easier & Happier Life After an ADHD Diagnosis Thursday, Feb 20th @ 12 PM NZST On Zoom (so yes, you can show up in pajamas—no judgment!) In this class, you’ll learn: * How to work with your ADHD brain, not against it * Emotional regulation strategies (because ADHD isn’t just about focus) * Dopamine management—your brain’s fuel for motivation & momentum * How to have your own back & stop self-sabotaging You’ll also get a workbook , a 7-day replay , and a chance to win ADHD-friendly giveaways for attending live. CLICK HERE to sign up. If you’ve been feeling stuck, frustrated, or overwhelmed— this is where you start.…

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#100 100 Positives of ADHD 31:21

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Register for the upcoming Masterclass: 4 Steps to an easier & happier life after an ADHD diagnosis Today, we’re celebrating a HUGE milestone—100 episodes of the Navigating Adult ADHD podcast! And because we ADHDers often need reminders of our strengths, I’m dedicating this episode to 100 positives of ADHD . From our creativity, resilience, and ability to see the world in unique ways, to our deep empathy, humour, and adventurous spirits. Tune in as I share 100 positive elements us ADHDers share, plus a brand-new checklist: “10 Things to Know & Do After an ADHD Diagnosis” (grab yours at navigatingadultadhd.com/checklist ) If you’ve ever doubted yourself, this episode is your reminder: ADHDers make the world brighter, bolder, and better. Let’s celebrate that! For more support visit: navigatingadultadhd.com…

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#99 Ask better questions, improve your ADHD life: Empowering Vs Disempowering Questions 28:17

7 weeks ago28:17

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Did you know the questions you ask yourself every day can shape how you think, feel & act? Our ADHD brains are constantly firing off questions—from “What time is it?” to “Why can’t I get my sh* t together?” But here’s the thing: disempowering questions lead to disempowering answers. In this episode, we’re diving into how the questions you ask can make or break your day—and even your life. You’ll learn: The difference between empowering vs. disempowering questions. How to notice when your inner dialogue is working against you. Why shifting to empowering questions opens the door to creativity, self-compassion, and emotional regulation. I’ll share practical tips to stop asking “Why am I such a mess?” and start asking “How can I have my own back?” Plus, you’ll hear 10 of my favourite empowering questions that have helped me—and my clients—thrive with ADHD. The difference between struggling and thriving often comes down to this simple shift: Change the question, change the answer. Grab your FREE CHECKLIST: 10 Things to know & do after an ADHD diagnosis.…

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#98 Why do I forget you love me? Emotional Permanence & ADHD 22:05

8 weeks ago22:05

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Do you ever find yourself questioning whether someone still cares about you when you haven’t talked or seen each other in a while? Or maybe you’ve wondered if a new relationship was real when you didn’t hear from them for a few days? If so, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving into emotional permanence —what it is, why ADHDers struggle with it, and how it impacts our relationships. From the constant need for reassurance to those "out of sight, out of mind" moments, we’ll explore how emotional dysregulation, working memory challenges, and our dopamine-seeking all plays a role. And don’t forget to grab your FREE CHECKLIST: 10 Things to know & do after an ADHD diagnosis…

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#97 Are you the Victim, Villain, or Hero of your ADHD story? 27:00

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In this episode, we’re diving into three roles that many ADHDers unconsciously take on—victim, villain, or hero—and how these mindsets impact the way we navigate life with ADHD. I’ll share how I spent years stuck in victimhood, blaming the world (and my ADHD) for my struggles, and how I learned to step into the hero of my own story. We’ll explore: The common signs of victim and villain mindsets. Why it’s so easy to fall into these roles, especially after an ADHD diagnosis. What it means to become the hero of your story—and how to get there. This episode is a no-judgment zone, my friend. It’s about getting honest with ourselves, embracing who we are, and taking that first step toward empowerment. ADHD is a big part of what makes you you , and it’s time to stop apologizing for your brain and start owning it. Let’s make ADHD work for you, not against you. For more support visit: navigatingadultadhd.com…

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#96 Late to the ADHD Party: Ruth’s Inspiring Journey & Wisdom for Neurodivergent Families 1:06:43

10 weeks ago1:06:43

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In this episode, we explore Ruth’s ADHD journey, from getting diagnosed at age 53 to her decision to seek coaching earlier this year. Ruth shares what life was like before her diagnosis, raising a family of neurodivergent children, and her current work as a teacher and consultant supporting neurodivergent kids and their families. We also dive into her remarkable achievements: launching a podcast, building a website, starting a business, and supporting families with neurodivergent kids—all while working full-time with ADHD! Ruth shares valuable insights for parents with ADHD raising neurodivergent kids, including how to find the right school for your child and many other practical tips & resources. Connect with Ruth here: Website: https://www.theneurodiverseeducationhub.com Podcast: Navigating Neurodiverse Education Facebook & Instagram…

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#95 Is It ADHD or Something Else? Understanding Co-occurring Conditions 22:01

11 weeks ago22:01

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Do you ever wonder if your ADHD struggles might be something more? In this episode, we dive into co-occurring conditions —the mental health challenges and learning differences that often show up alongside ADHD. With 50-80% of ADHDers experiencing another condition like anxiety, depression, autism, or learning disorders , it’s no surprise that symptoms can get complicated. I’ll share my personal journey with anxiety and undiagnosed ADHD, explain how to tell whether it’s ADHD or something else, and walk you through actionable steps to get the support you need. Tune in to learn how to untangle the symptoms and find clarity. Ready to work with your ADHD brain, not against it? Head to adhdhome.co.nz and join us today!…

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#94 Ditch Shame-Based Goals: The ADHD-Friendly Way to Follow Through 28:29

12 weeks ago28:29

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Have you ever set the same goal over and over again—only to give up a few weeks later? Whether it’s losing weight, saving money, or being a “better” parent, so many of us ADHDers struggle to follow through. And the reason might surprise you... In this episode, we’re tackling shame-based goals —why they don’t work, how they keep us stuck, and what to do instead. I’ll share my personal experiences with setting goals from a place of shame, how it backfired every time, and the ADHD-friendly strategies I use now to set goals I actually stick with and achieve . If you’re tired of beating yourself up and ready to start 2025 on a positive note, this episode is for you. We’ll cover 3 simple steps to unshame your goals so you can finally achieve them. Ready to follow through for real this time? Join ADHD HOME at adhdhome.co.nz and let’s make this your best year yet!…

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#93 Navigating ADHD Burnout with Ashley Cairns 56:59

13 weeks ago56:59

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Burnout is more than just feeling stressed—it's a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged stress, leaving you feeling empty, unmotivated, and disconnected. In this episode, we’re joined by Ashley Cairns, Founder and CEO of A Change for Better , Mental Health Counsellor, TEDx Speaker, and neurodivergent advocate (she's Autistic and ADHD!). Together, we tackle key questions about ADHD burnout: What are some of the signs and symptoms of ADHD burnout? How can we build resilience while navigating ADHD burnout? What role do mindfulness & joy play in recovery? How can you create your own personal resilience plan? We also dive into her impactful work at A Change for Better! *BONUS GIFT!!* You can also access her Burnout Presentation & resources HERE To connect with Ashley and A Change For Better visit: https://achangeforbetter.com/ https://acfbfund.org.nz/…

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#92 The ADHD Life Hack You Need: 8 Ways I Use AI Every Day 32:18

14 weeks ago32:18

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Let’s talk about a game-changer that can make life with ADHD easier: AI ! Increased stress (especially this time of year) often amplifies ADHD symptoms, making things like forgetfulness and overwhelm more common—but AI can step in to lighten the load. In this episode, I’m sharing 8 practical ways I use AI (specifically ChatGPT) to support my ADHD and simplify my life. From brainstorming recipes with random fridge ingredients to breaking down big goals into bite-sized tasks, AI has become my go-to tool for tackling executive function struggles and reducing stress. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: How AI can help with meal planning, replying to emails, and spell-checking. Ways to use AI for creative ideas, like gift suggestions or content creation. How AI supports big projects like hiring a VA or applying for jobs. Tips for asking AI for encouragement, advice, or even ADHD-specific research. If you’ve been skeptical about AI, like I was at first, I encourage you to tune in. This isn’t about replacing you—it’s about partnering with a tool that understands your needs and helps you thrive. Dive in to see how AI can work for your ADHD brain! Come & share how AI is helping you over on Instagram Check out ADHD HOME here…

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#91 Inconsistent success with ADHD 26:58

15 weeks ago26:58

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What if being inconsistent could actually lead to success? In this episode, I’m diving into the surprising power of inconsistent success & how it’s helped me achieve huge wins - like this podcast winning Bronze at the NZ Podcast Awards (thanks to YOU my friend!). Spoiler: It wasn’t because I followed a rigid, perfect, consistent plan! We’ll chat about: The societal myths around success, consistency & discipline (+ why they don’t work for ADHDers) Why embracing your inconsistency can help you make real progress How I’ve built success—messy, imperfect & ADHD-friendly P.S. If you’re ready to embrace your beautifully inconsistent ADHD brain & create a life that works for YOU, check out ADHD HOME - I’d love to support you! 🎧 Press play now to learn how inconsistent success could set you free.…

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#90 9 Common ADHD traits & how they show up in your life 33:42

16 weeks ago33:42

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Grab your FREE printable guide with all 9 traits outlined in detail *here* ADHD is often misunderstood because it manifests differently for everyone. As Edward Hallowell says, “People with ADHD don’t look any different from everyone else, our condition is invisible. But if you were to climb up into our heads, you’d discover quite a different landscape.” In this episode, I’m breaking down 9 of the most common ADHD traits and how they show up in daily life. From impulsivity & distractibility to time blindness & emotional rollercoasters, these traits can feel overwhelming—but understanding them is the first step toward working with your ADHD brain. Whether you’re newly diagnosed, exploring a potential diagnosis, or just curious about ADHD, this episode will give you clarity & practical insights. Mentioned in this episode: Free download: https://www.navigatingadultadhd.com/symptoms Join ADHD HOME: http://adhdhome.co.nz/…

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#89 A beginners guide to Adult ADHD 41:38

17 weeks ago41:38

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Congratulations & welcome to Team ADHD! If you’re newly diagnosed or starting to explore what ADHD means for you as an adult, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down the essentials of ADHD, from what it really means to how it impacts your brain & daily life. Here's what you’ll learn in this episode: What ADHD really is ADHD as a neurodevelopmental condition (but the label doesn’t quite fit) The 3 types of ADHD & how symptoms show up in everyday life How your brain Works differently The role of dopamine, serotonin & norepinephrine Executive functions (your brain’s GPS) Debunking ADHD myths ADHD is not about laziness or bad parenting Positive traits & some people you might know with ADHD Four steps I recommend to help you manage & ultimately thrive with ADHD This is just the beginning, my friend. Welcome to a journey of self-discovery, empowerment & learning to work with your ADHD brain - LFG! Want my help? Join ADHD HOME today Come hang out on Instagram…

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Feel better & get sh*t done [Introducing ADHD HOME] 8:57

18 weeks ago8:57

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In this special episode, I’m sharing something I’ve poured my heart into: ADHD HOME. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or like ADHD is holding you back, this is for you. We’ll dive into how ADHD HOME can help you manage your emotions, boost productivity & finally work with your ADHD brain—not against it. I’ll walk you through what’s inside, why it’s designed for ADHDers like us & how it can make a real difference in your life. Tune in to learn how to feel better, get sh*t done & thrive with ADHD. Join ADHD HOME today at ADHDhome.co.nz .…

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#88 Dopamine Boost: The Power of 5-Minute Wins for ADHD 23:37

18 weeks ago23:37

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In this episode, we dive into the transformative power of 5-minute wins for ADHD brains. Discover how small, manageable tasks can boost dopamine levels, enhance motivation & make a big impact on your daily life. Whether it's tackling a 'doom pile' of laundry or taking a quick walk, learn how you can boost your dopamine & get your brain onboard with mundane tasks & things you tend to avoid. Join me as we dive into working with our ADHD brains, boosting our dopamine & addressing the things we avoid. ADHD HOME is officially open!! Check it out *here*…

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BONUS: Why Emotional Regulation feels impossible - And what you can do about it 6:24

19 weeks ago6:24

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*REGISTER FOR THIS FREE TRAINING* Emotional outbursts, overreactions & spiralling into guilt and shame—it’s a cycle so many of us with ADHD know all too well. But here’s the thing: emotional regulation isn’t a lost cause; it’s a skill you can build! In this quick bonus episode, I’m sharing what’s possible when you learn to manage your emotions & EXACTLY how you can do that with my free class, From Chaos to Calm: Emotional Regulation for Adults with ADHD. Listen to hear why emotional regulation feels so hard, what’s at stake & how to take the first steps towards a calmer & more balanced you. Register for this free training happening this Saturday!…

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#87 12 things I wish my doc had told me about adult ADHD 30:33

19 weeks ago30:33

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When I was first diagnosed, I left the doctor’s office with a ton of questions. From the hidden ways ADHD shows up in adulthood to managing symptoms day-to-day, there’s so much more to understand. In this episode, I’m sharing 12 things I wish I’d known, including: How hyperactivity often looks different in adults The link between ADHD and other diagnoses like anxiety or depression Working memory challenges (hello, forgotten names and lost train of thought) Emotional regulation struggles, including frustration and rejection sensitivity The role of hormones, nutrition, and exercise in symptom management I hope these 12 things help you feel seen, understood & a little more prepared on your ADHD journey. For more support & to join ADHD HOME visit: xenajones.com…

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#86 The one question that can change how you feel 19:47

20 weeks ago19:47

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Do you find self spiralling into worst-case scenarios? Like, your boss sends an email asking for more details on something & you immediately think "I must have done something wrong—maybe I’ll lose my job?" Or maybe a friend reads your message but doesn’t reply & suddenly you’re convinced they don’t want to hang out with you anymore. For us ADHDers, it’s so easy to jump to conclusions, which lead to us feeling anxious, overwhelmed or rejected. But there’s one question that changed everything for me & I know it can help you too. If you’re ready to feel better, stop spiralling & get back in control, give this episode a listen. I think you’ll really love it. For more support: Join us inside ADHD HOME Come hang out on Instagram Visit our website…

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#85 When you're "too much" 18:46

21 weeks ago18:46

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You're too loud, too intense, too dramatic, too sensitive... sound familiar? Whatever your flavour of "too much" is, you are not alone. We hear these things so often as adult with ADHD & it can be really hard. When people say this it can cause us to feel so much shame. Shame is that feeling that "there's something wrong with me". But what if the problem is not you? The problem is someone else’s idea of who you should be… Check out our WEBSITE for more support…

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#84 How to be consistent when you have ADHD 23:23

22 weeks ago23:23

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As adult with ADHD we can struggle to be consistent. Consistently going to bed at a decent time, consistently working through our to-do list, consistently making progress on the book we are writing or the business we are wanting to launch. Any goal we have requires some form of consistency in order to be able to achieve it... right? In this episode I'm sharing with you the two simple things you can do to create consistent results in your life. These 2 things are how I've created a podcast every week for the last 84 weeks & how I’ve been able to exercise daily for the past 16 months. Instagram Website…

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#83 Emotional Regulation part 2: How to regulate your emotions 35:26

23 weeks ago35:26

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Have you ever just lost your temper & yelled at someone, only to regret it later? As adults with ADHD we can have difficulty managing our emotions & responding in healthy ways. But the good news is that we can learn to regulate our emotions & it's also very simple. Emotional regulation is not about NOT feeling or ridding ourselves of all negative emotions. It’s about creating the safety we need to feel our emotions & responding in healthy ways. In this episode you will learn HOW you can regulate your emotions & begin to practice this skill. Being able to regulate our emotions is the foundation of thriving with ADHD. Links mentioned: EFT Tapping video with Xena & EFT podcast episode #59 The Physiological sigh Last weeks episode - Step 1: How to identify when you are dysregulated Instagram - come & share you wins For more support from Xena visit: navigatingadultadhd.com…

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#82 Emotional regulation part 1: How to identify when you’re dysregulated 30:32

24 weeks ago30:32

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Yelling at the kids when you're frustrated Shutting down when your partner is trying to discuss something difficult Drinking to numb the anxiety you feel ... These are all common for us when we are dysregulated. Emotional dysregulation is a core symptom of ADHD & in my opinion it's one of the hardest to navigate. Most of us didn't learn about emotions in school, we weren't taught how to process them or respond in healthy ways. So we lash out, shut down or try to bottle it all up inside... We've simply been doing the best we can, with what we've had. Emotional regulation is a skill ( a life changing one!) that adults with ADHD can learn & develop. In this episode you'll learn: The 3 step process for regulating your emotions Why this skill is soooo important to practice How to identify when you are dysregulated For more from Xena check out: Instagram Facebook Website…

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#81 ADHD & Procrastination 28:33

25 weeks ago28:33

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While waiting for motivation, we eat, binge-watch, scroll through social media & sometimes engage in what I call 'productive procrastination' - doing everything other than the thing we need to be doing. ADHDers often struggle with procrastination, so if this is you my friend... you are not alone. Procrastination always happens for a reason. And it's NOT because we are lazy or we need to try harder (nope!). In this episode I am breaking down the 5 reasons adults with ADHD procrastinate which is SOOOO important to be able to recognise when it comes to reducing or eliminating our procrastination. If procrastination is something you struggle with, then this episode is for you. For more support visit: WEBSITE Instagram Facebook…

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#80 How to Reduce Ruminating & Overthinking with ADHD 26:44

26 weeks ago26:44

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Do you ever lay awake at night replaying something over & over in your head, thinking of all the things you should or could have done differently? Or on the drive home from lunch with friends find yourself obsessing over something your friend said to you? This my friends is overthinking & ruminating - two things that us adults with ADHD can have a hard time with. In this episode I am breaking down the 4 reasons why ADHDers do this (including one reason that is linked to our brains creativity network!) Plus the 3 things I do to stop myself from ruminating & going down the negative spiral (simple & easy things that actually work!) "It's a habit, just like smoking." And the best part is, we can learn to quit. For more support visit: Website Instagram Facebook…

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#79 A late diagnosis & ADHD Coaching with Julia Ford 58:53

27 weeks ago58:53