A podcast that gets to the bottom of social anxiety (why it holds us back, how it does so, and what we can do about it) so that you get to the top where you believe you’re worth knowing. The truth is that social anxiety can permeate all areas of your life to the point where you no longer know where “you” begin and where your “social anxiety” ends. Here are some of the topics I'm going to cover in this podcast: - Cognitive distortions & how they affect your social anxiety - Triggers and safet ...
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It’s easy to miscommunicate and to resort to passive-aggressiveness. We all do it, especially when we feel vulnerable, or the conversation is getting out of control and we don’t know what to do. But when that happens, it’s best to keep the passive-aggressiveness to a minimum as it could exacerbate the situation and throw more fuel to the fire. Here…
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The quickest way to not take things personally
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In this episode, I want to share the fastest way to avoid taking things personally. Do not let others' judgment of you take over your thoughts. For those of us with social anxiety, being personally attacked sticks with us forever - we internalize it. Well, from my experience, there is a way to not have that happen. Tune in and find out what my non-…
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I'm going to walk you through a TikTok video and we're going to dissect it, talk about what happened in it, and what I think should be the main takeaways. I think it's super relevant to social anxiety as there are a few lessons to take away from it. Here's the link to the TikTok video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLrdJs19/ Thank you for listening to …
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Going through the "dreaded low" to get to the high
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If you’ve ever made it to the gym at 6 am, you’ll know it’s practically impossible to wake up, but once you walk out of the gym, you feel like a million bucks. In this episode, I want to walk you through the "dreaded low" or the "dreaded zone" so that you can recognize it and push through it. Because the exciting high is waiting for you on the othe…
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How do you want people to remember you? This is something I’ve been pondering since the tragic death of a co-worker and her family a few years ago. And it made me think about David Brooks’ TED talk on working on your Eulogy resume. In this episode, I want to run you through a simple exercise to get you started and then you can build off on that. Th…
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I made my way by train to another city to meet my best friend for a movie date, but on the way there I encountered an unpleasant situation. One that I usually do my best to keep silent on (because of social anxiety). This time I decided to speak up for myself and those around me. I hope this inspires you to do the same if you run into something or …
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In this episode, I talk about how the concept of beauty, as it stands today, can negatively impact us and awaken Social Anxiety when we least expect it. Yes, it's subjective, and yes it's a sensitive subject, and I'm doing my best to approach it with care. There are 3 pieces of advice I want you to take away in this episode and hopefully learn to n…
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Are you forgettable? Depends on the path you take
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In this episode, I'm sharing an experience I had with feeling "forgettable" and how it messed with my head. I'm also walking you through how to manage yourself if you also have similar thoughts about yourself. I'm introducing you to two paths (secure vs insecure) so that you can pay better attention to which path you're taking whenever you have dou…
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This episode is about dealing with conflict, but it’s not about conflict with the people in your life, it’s about on-the-spot conflict that arises out of nowhere and makes your blood boil instantly. When you know you should say something but you don’t because you’re too scared it will lead to being punched. The alternative of holding it in isn’t mu…
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Today I want to talk about why you should be going out of your way to talk to strangers. Chances are you’re going out of your way to NOT talk to strangers, I know the feeling. I'll walk you through some findings from a study they did asking people to talk to strangers! Thank you for listening to the social anxiety podcast! Study link: We Want to Ha…
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I'm not reading off of a "list" or taking these signs from Psychology Today; these are the signs I've noticed and experienced on my journey to self-acceptance (work in progress). I hope you can relate to them and see how they impact your self-acceptance. Listen to hear what the 6 signs are! Thank you for listening to the social anxiety podcast! Joi…
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New year, same social anxiety? No, we are going to change that in 2024! Whether you subscribe to New Year’s resolutions or detest the idea of having to sit down and write out goals you know you’ll forget about in a month, like I usually do, you’ll benefit from having at least 1 social anxiety goal this year. In this episode, I'm introducing you to …
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In this episode, I highlight 5 benefits of social anxiety. While there are significant downsides to experiencing social anxiety frequently, it also comes with some positive aspects. Once you learn how to manage your social anxiety and not be debilitated anymore, you'll be left with quite a few strengths. Thank you for listening to the social anxiet…
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In this episode, I connect the dots between 10 universal fears and social anxiety. If you've been feeling extra debilitated because of social anxiety, you can see some of the underlying reasons why. Carrying around these fears and tapping into them only enhances your social anxiety, especially if you do so frequently. Let's see what these universal…
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In this week's episode, I'll touch upon a few situations all city-dwellers run into - some more than others. I'll talk about why these situations raise our anxiety and what we can do about them. This episode is mostly from my personal experience and perspective living in Europe but relevant to anyone living in an urban area. Thank you for listening…
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Let’s stop dreading the end-of-year office party, New Year’s at the neighbors, or Christmas with the family (or any other holiday function you celebrate). As you may or may not know, avoiding social anxiety only increases it. It’s an interesting paradox but very much rooted in reality. In this episode, I'll share four ways (tips) to reduce your soc…
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How to use Exposure Therapy for social anxiety
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In this episode, we're going to talk all about Exposure Therapy. We will discuss the 3 main exposure techniques, the situations they can help you with, how they fit in the context of CBT, what a fear hierarchy ladder is, and finally, go through an entire step-by-step walkthrough example of practicing Exposure Therapy. You can grab the 35-task workb…
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In this episode, I summarize the top 9 therapies you can look into to manage social anxiety. I also highlight when you can use each technique to decide which therapy might be the most relevant to you. There's a bonus 10th therapy that I highly suggest you look into, at least to help you change your perspective about life (which can help your social…
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The show Lucifer showed me the light regarding social anxiety hell. After I watched one of the episodes, it became clear to me how we're all building our hell cells, with the reality that it's in our power to walk out simply. In this episode, I'm talking about the idea of a social anxiety hell, or loop, and the 4 things you can do to get out of it.…
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10 things I've done because of social anxiety
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If you're socially anxious, you’ll relate to this list of the 10 things I've done because of social anxiety. I always thought everyone else acted this way until I realized that it wasn't really "normal." Take a look, and let's laugh about it. Thank you for listening to the Social Anxiety Podcast! 📺Watch this episode on Youtube ❤️ RESOURCES 🔗Social …
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Scared to ask a question because of social anxiety
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This episode is based on a blog post I wrote a few years ago and updated to reflect the additional experience I've had with asking questions. I wrote this because I struggled significantly with asking questions for years and had to find ways to comfort myself. I'll walk you through 4 things that will help you feel better about asking a question (in…
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What's keeping your social anxiety alive and kicking? Why is it so bad? In this episode of Social Anxiety Q&A, we will talk about what's going on behind the scenes. We'll recap the root cause of social anxiety so we understand the foundation, and then I'll let you in on why I think your social anxiety is still hanging around. I'll use a plant analo…
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Q&A: What's the root cause of social anxiety?
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Have you ever asked yourself, "Why do I have social anxiety?" or "Where does my social anxiety come from?" In this short Social Anxiety Q&A episode, I try to understand the root cause of social anxiety, even though it's not a one-word answer. Thank you for listening to this Social Anxiety Podcast! ❤️ RESOURCES 🔗Social Anxiety Action Plan 📺Watch thi…
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How far have you come with your social anxiety?
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Who were you 10 years ago? Five years ago? Last year? You've undoubtedly evolved; you've gotten better, especially regarding your social anxiety. You might not think that's the case and contest that, and that might be so, but before you put yourself down, let's shed some light together on the facts. This episode is all about: How far you've come wi…
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Q&A: Does social anxiety go away on its own?
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In this episode of Social Anxiety Q&A, I'm answering the question: “Does social anxiety go away on its own?” And this is my own personal take on it! Hint: Probably not. Tune in to find out what I recommend to make your social anxiety go away once and for all. Thank you for listening to this Social Anxiety Podcast! ❤️ RESOURCES 🔗Social Anxiety Actio…
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The hidden reason you think people don't like you
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Have You Heard Of The Liking Gap? It might be the hidden reason you think people don't like you. In this episode, we're going to break down 5 studies that answer the following questions: Is there a liking gap? Do people send signals that they like each other? Why does the liking gap exist? Does the liking gap persist in longer conversations? Can th…
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Q&A: Does social anxiety go away with exposure?
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In this episode of Social Anxiety Q&A, I'm answering: "I keep exposing myself, but my social anxiety isn’t going away; why?” Hint: Exposure for the sake of exposure does nothing. If you've also experienced this, where you're going out and finding ways to "expose" yourself but are still not progressing with your social anxiety, this video is for you…
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Let's talk about online friendships. If you have them, you'll know the beauty that comes with them; if you don't, listen in! Making friends online is the best first step for those with social anxiety, as it allows for more control over communication and the ability to skip the small talk. In this episode, I give you 4 reasons why you should make fr…
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How beliefs can affect your social anxiety
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In this episode, we will discuss how your beliefs can affect your social anxiety, and all have to do with making your world smaller. I use the analogy of walking around in a tiny box to explain how closed-mindedness impacts social anxiety. The inspiration for this episode came when I fell upon a TikTok asking, "If you grew up believing dinosaurs we…
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How to stop stumbling over words [6 tips]
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Do you find yourself stumbling over words because of your social anxiety? Maybe you recently had a moment, or let's be honest, a million moments, when you just stumbled over your words, mumbled them upside down, and cringed at how inarticulate you can be. If you're at a loss for words and feel like you forgot how to speak, here are 6 ways to stop s…
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Insights about social anxiety at 30,000 feet
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On the plane back from Florida to Amsterdam, we experienced frequent turbulence. That made me look inward at what I was doing to tame my anxiety, but it also made me look at others. Through observation, several insights came to light. Name four insights that I could link directly to social anxiety. While it's been a while since I've had debilitatin…
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[Part 2] Asking a stranger for sunscreen [interview]
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In this part 2 of "Why you're scared to ask a stranger for sunscreen," I'm sitting with Joanna (the star of the viral TikTok video) to get a step-by-step tutorial on how she went about asking a stranger for sunscreen. We talk about how to overcome social rejection and approach anxiety. More importantly, we get to dive deeply into her background, ch…
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When panic sets in, social anxiety walks out
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A few weeks ago, I was stranded, phoneless, in the middle of Dusseldorf's central station. What did I do? I sat at Starbucks and cried my eyes out. I panicked. Multiple times. But, after the storm subsided and I reflected on my day and an encounter on the train, I realized that when panic sets in, social anxiety emerges. This is a powerful lesson I…
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In this episode, we'll discuss everyone's favorite topic 📍 money. But we're going to talk about how social anxiety costs you money. This is a very important episode. It's crucial to understand how social anxiety impacts your daily life. You might be more aware of it in social situations when you're talking to people or applying for jobs. Yes, those…
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Social anxiety myths that are holding you back
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In this episode, we will discuss some misconceptions you might have heard or even believed yourself while on this amazing journey with social anxiety. Being in this space for so long, I've come across many insensitive remarks, with even many going so far as to tell me that there's no possible way that I have social anxiety because I show up. I want…
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How to feel more confident in a new social situation
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If you have social anxiety, you might avoid entering new social situations. Still, unfortunately, life has a way of throwing a lot of these over the fence at us, so we have to find a way to feel more comfortable with them and more confident in ourselves. Whether moving to a new city, country or just one street over, you'll find yourself in new soci…
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The idea for this episode came along right after I posted a video on TikTok that went viral. In this video, I'm recording my best friend asking a stranger for sunscreen at the beach. After 1.4 million views and thousands of comments, I realized why there was such a big commotion in the comments section: people fall into either two buckets. Those wh…
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I wanted to start this podcast by discussing the four types of social anxiety. Why? Because it's multifaceted. Sometimes social anxiety will glare you in the face, and sometimes it will be inconspicuous. I want to make sure that you have the knowledge to identify which. type of social anxiety you're running into at any given moment. And I think onc…
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This is the trailer for the upcoming You're Worth Knowing Podcast. A Social Anxiety Podcast to help you understand your social anxiety and manage it better. I like to say that being "comfortably you" means accepting your awkward self and believing you are worth knowing. My name is Roxana Alexandru, and I've been where you are debilitated and held b…
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