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With this podcast I aim to help people with my knowledge and the deconstruction to give them the tools, knowledge, security and understanding to help them with their healing journey, partner, (C-)PTSD, PTS or the like.The aim is to help people cure themselves or at least improve their journey to getting cured and not just healed and to finally have a life worth living again - not just surviving.The original goal was to just tell my path, but while doing the podcast I realized the dire situat ...
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In this episode we will talk about flashbacks - the most known symptom of PTSD - and wrongly assumed to be a central requirement for having any form of PTSD. Flashbacks are often referred to something along the lines of “having flashbacks like I have PTSD”. But unlike what many think it is only a severe symptom and not a requirement for PTSD. It is…
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In this episode we will talk about how abusers keep control over us - even long after we are out of that situation it can still apply. Especially if we were children at the time and we learned this to be “normal”. We need to understand to recognize and unlearn it. We first talk about abuse language, then always on edge, then redefining normal, then…
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In this episode we will talk about fate - in particular about the fate of those marked by trauma. Are we bound to be victims or abusers? That is a question I am sure many of you have asked when only these 2 fates seem to be available. But there is more. We first talk about how it starts, then the roadblocks, then the destructive outcomes, then the …
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In this episode we will talk about what a healthy relationship looks like. The perfect relationship depends - of course - on your preferences, life and so much more. That is a science of and on itself. We just focus on a healthy relationship, that has the best chances to last and bring you happiness. We first talk about communication, then respect,…
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In this episode we talk about how love is not enough. Though this episode is going to be a bit different again, because - for one - it is something that is so deeply painful and hard to accept - that it is very difficult to talk about it. A deep wound almost all of us share. Some in great - some in lesser extent. Contact: contactme@johannadraconis.…
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In this episode we will talk about building up your support system - especially about solutions until new relationships are possible, which I forgot to address last time and offered just an answer, but not a solution. Your healing progress is a long journey - and good company makes it a lot easier and enjoyable. We first talk about online groups, t…
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In this episode we will talk about being ready for a healthy relationship - a burning question for most. Which is understandable as a partner is invaluable in life - be it a romantic or platonic partner. We first talk about stable situation, then emotional range, then taking care of others and then the checklist. Contact: contactme@johannadraconis.…
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In this episode we will talk about achieving this new “me” that seems often so far away and some even believe is a myth. Or are you trying to return to your old true self? Both follow the same path that seems to be so hard if not impossible to find. But today we really focus on the steps to take to achieve the new “me” - if you never had a healthy …
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In this episode we will talk about emotions once again, but this time about loosing control over them. That can take many forms and is sadly usually a common aspect in dealing with PTSD and also during the healing progress. We first talk about how it makes things harder, then about abusers and healthy people, then why you loose control and then how…
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In this episode we will talk about mens mental health. Contact: contactme@johannadraconis.com Transcript: https://www.johannadraconis.com/episode165 [1] Suicide fuel/Incel https://incels.wiki/w/Suicidefuel https://www.leedsforlearning.co.uk/Pages/Download/3e2842ed-6270-4d21-9b8f-86eb72f95e98/PageSectionDocuments https://www.adl.org/resources/backgr…
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In this episode we will talk about time and life with the questions “Do I have enough time left” and “Is my life over” - which is something I went through myself and I hear so often. It’s common to get entrapped by it - and finding the answer is hard. We first talk about why do we feel like we are running out of time, then is it too late for me, th…
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In this episode we will talk about feeling like a child and not like an adult - often accompanied by feeling overwhelmed and lost. One of the more general issues, but also an absolute key element on recovering from trauma - especially if it happens in the childhood. Especially if neglect and parentification is involved. We first talk about are ther…
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In this episode we will talk about how the mind can affect the body - and the other way around. If you keep getting sick or have this weird illness that just won’t go away, then that might be related to PTSD. I can confirm the same - the issues I had disappeared one by one during my healing progress. After years and years of riddling doctors and ev…
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In this episode we will talk about basically the saying “what doesn’t kill you make you stronger” - which I am sure most of you have heard. It is known officially as post traumatic growth - or PTG - but it has mixed opinions. I wanted to talk about this for a while since I came across this review of research of Post traumatic growth or PTG where he…
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In this episode we will talk about basically the saying “what doesn’t kill you make you stronger” - which I am sure most of you have heard. It is known officially as post traumatic growth - or PTG - but it has mixed opinions. I wanted to talk about this for a while since I came across this review of research of Post traumatic growth or PTG where he…
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In this episode we will talk about parents and if they were “good parents” - while there are many ways people define if someone is a good parents or not, we will - of course - focus on the trauma perspective, because it is sadly the root of many evils. The main point of this episode - helping to understand, to find and to resolve past issues. First…
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In this episode we will talk about being scared or anxious - sometimes both at the same time. Usually it’s a cry for help by your overwhelmed brain. The feeling of fear is a very familiar feeling for those dealing with PTSD and can greatly impact your healing process. We first talk about why fear is a good thing, then the brain is confused, then wh…
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In this episode we will talk about being tired - something basically everyone who deals with PTSD is familiar with it. You feel tired, low on energy or lazy - depending on perspective. But there is a good reason for it and you probably shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. We first talk about how to know it is happening, then where the energy is neede…
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In this episode we will talk about scars - or in other words - the things that remain. I often say that the experience changes us - like climbing a mountain does, but what do we have to accept as that change and what can we still change after all? Since it’s the 4th of July with a lot of veterans affected, I thought it is a good time to talk about …
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In this episode we will talk about victim blaming: This is sadly a common reality that survivors face - as well victims of all kinds of things and even if anything bad happens to you. Victim blaming means one accuses the victim that their behavior has caused it and therefor they are to be blamed for what happened. We first talk about exceptions, th…
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In this episode we will talk about self confidence, feeling unlovable and loneliness. How to be self confident and able to love oneself is integral for a life with happiness and love. This is a continuation from last episode, where we talked about feeling unlovable and lonely. I strongly recommend to listen to it first. These three topics are sort …
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In this episode we will talk about feeling unlovable and to a part about loneliness - because if you feel unlovable than no matter how many people tell you that they love you - you won’t believe them. A very difficult topic, but also integral for a life with happiness and love.It is - of course - not to point fingers at anyone and call it a day, bu…
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In this episode we will talk about the stage between ball and ring trauma - and therefor PTSD and C-PTSD - the double trauma or macarons trauma. I mentioned before that there seems to be something missing - and now I finally pieced it together. Now the whole set is round and no longer feels incomplete. As mentioned in a past episode - there was no …
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In this episode we will talk about how to remove or cut someone out of your life - the universal recommendation seems to be: Avoid contact. But that is sometimes just not an option. So what can we do in that case? How do we cut someone out, that keeps coming up in our everyday life? Keeping as much distance as possible is extremely helpful, but wha…
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In this episode we will talk about why it is so hard to leave someone - even if they threaten our wellbeing - or to cut them out of our lives. While the decision is logically so easy to make, it can be hard to understand why we struggle so much with it. We first talk about how relationships are formed, then why are we being drawn back in and then w…
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In this episode we will talk about how a military mission can cause PTSD and what are the reasons why it could be. It is a bit of an experiment and so your feedback is especially appreciated. But for now I will give you the categories and what goes into them and you can add more details. Now these categories cover all the elements that are relevant…
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In this episode we will talk about violence and the deciding factor for something to become a trauma or even PTSD. It is important to understand what the main factors are to know what to focus on - especially when dealing with ring trauma. To truly trying to understand this we use our slapped in the face example again - this time with the violence …
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In this episode we will talk about why emotions are more important than facts - in the healing process - something I mentioned several times, but never really gotten into in greater detail. It is one of the most crucial things to get right to cure yourself. We first start with the purpose of facts, then an example and then applying example to a tra…
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In this episode we will talk quickly about a big update that kept me quite busy and changes quite a bit. Support Group/Discord/Reddit https://discord.io/JohannaDraconis https://discord.gg/mEAgpqjuhF https://www.reddit.com/r/DraconisCPTSDtalk/ Support me https://ko-fi.com/johannadraconis https://paypal.me/Johannadraconis Archive https://www.youtube.…
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In this episode we will talk about how it comes that dealing with PTSD is so much easier than C-PTSD. I usually use PTSD to include both, but there is a very significant difference in difficulty dealing with it and its quite a jump. It is important to understand the difference and how to treat the different versions. As they require different appro…
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In this episode we will talk about just wanting peace - an expression often in regards with the marathon that is the healing process. Usually the sentence “I just want peace” is said by the biggest stirrer of chaos and unrest. Usually when they are confronted about their part in the chaos. But in this case it was from a mail I received and it wasn’…
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In this episode we will talk about survivor’s guilt, a topic I so far skipped over as I was affected by it myself. What is survivor’s guilt? Simplified you feel guilty for surviving and that is often accompanied with strong depression and the thought process of being undeserving of living. Last time - episode 84 where I covered it - it was for vali…
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In this episode we will talk about people who are victims and abusers. People who suffered and made other people suffer. There are some mixed opinions about it, but I think it is important to be clear on this issue. We first talk about what is not abuse, then the difference between mistake and pattern, then why I call them traitors and lastly the c…
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In this episode we will talk about nightmares, which are a common occurrences and a symptom strongly associated with PTSD. An awful and tiring experience that might be able to be avoided. As I said, the nightmares that you get while suffering from PTSD are well known and they can range drastically. From relatively normal nightmares to being so terr…
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Hello my dears, It is this time of the year again and though a bit late, I wanted to remind you to be kind to and not so hard on yourself. This time of the year is rough especially for those who suffered losses, already feel disconnected, have a complicated family situation and so on. If you add the limited daylight and it just gets worse. Same goe…
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In this episode we will talk about a question I seen many ask themselves ”Why didn’t I see it earlier?” and having a very hard time to come to terms with it and forgiving themselves. We talked about Denial before, in Episode 37, where we talked about being in Denial about what happened. This is the next step, so to speak, where we talk about the fa…
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In this episode we will talk about isolation - a topic which occurs throughout, from the traumatic experience itself up to the healing process. When we talk about isolation in this episode, we refer to both the literal isolation by being separated from everyone else physically, as well as the figurative isolation where people can be around, but you…
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In this episode we will talk about survival, which affects most affected by PTSD. When we hear usually about survival it is about being stranded on an island, the wilderness and the like - which is of course accurate. But survival also refers to the state many people affected by PTSD are in. We will first talk about surviving and then what we can d…
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In this episode we will talk about the question why we cry so much - especially during our healing process - and why crying is a good thing. It is an important part for getting better, but often quite confusing. There is of course some opinions about who can and can’t cry and those are absolute nonsense. Crying is an important part of a healthy hum…
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In this episode we will talk about feeling hollow, which can feel like a hole inside of you - that somehow hurts.That feeling is the reason for many problems, sufferings and harmful behavior. Not just with PTSD and many are affected. The feeling hollow is quite widespread, but hardly talked about. Quite difficult to describe the feeling properly wi…
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In this episode we will talk about the question “How could you make okay what happened?” that I heard many times and is a reason many people don’t seek help. A dangerous misconception that can leave people vulnerable and unable to move forward. The short answer to the question “How could you make okay what happened?” is that I don’t. I am not tryin…
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In this episode we will talk about how during the healing process we sometimes move slow - sometimes it even feels like standing still - and sometimes fast - at least compared to the other. I covered this before during the healing wave section. This is the biggest part of your healing process - therefor I think it is important to revisit it for a d…
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In this episode we will talk about feeling quite lost during the healing process and to be fair - it is quite a chaotic time. But the question is why and what can we do? Understanding is a huge part of it, which also helps to navigate it all. We will first talk about the order of healing, then walking the path properly and then your change along th…
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In this episode we will talk about 9 methods to counter PTSD - as in which methods help us go up against PTSD and fight it. Knowing how to turn the table changes almost everything. First we talk about methods for finding the enemy and then about methods how to best fight them. Transcript: www.johannadraconis.com/episode-121-140 Contact: contactme@j…
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In this episode we will talk about methods in case of an PTSD emergency, which is usually when the symptoms take over. A situation we try to avoid for a good reason and where mistakes are punished hard. We fill first cover the crucial first steps, then the methods used in an emergency and then the grounding method. Transcript: www.johannadraconis.c…
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In this episode we will talk about methods you can use in your everyday life. It has been years since we touched upon this and I felt like a updated version was long overdue. These are the things you can use the most - and therefor important and extremely helpful. First we talk about methods for everyday life and then resource management. Transcrip…
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In this episode we will talk about maintaining hope - even in the darkest times. It is no secret that dealing with PTSD and trauma can lead to the darkest times a human can witness. Additionally recent events made a lot of people very scared. For good reason I fear. But as I said often - panic doesn’t help anyone and is not the way to go. Hope is t…
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In this episode we will talk about what we can do about feeling inferior, like an impostor, a lack of self confident and the voices in your head giving you a hard time. It is important to do this, so you can life a fulfilling life, have less risk of getting in the hands of an abuser and can take better care of yourself. We talked about it last epis…
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In this episode we will talk about the question “Why do I feel so inferior?” or the inner voices - sometimes called inner critics. The voices that beat you down and are sometimes mistaken for the inner voice of reason or the like. In general having voices inside your head is completely normal - unless they tell you something new. We first talk abou…
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In this episode we will talk about the question “Should I commit suicide” for the third time - this time we start with sickness, then isolation, then mourning, then we get there when we get there and lastly conclusion. It is about the absolute crucial difference between “I want to end this life” and “I want to end my life”. Transcript: www.johannad…
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