Best Jay Stringer Podcasts (2024)

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How to Have Honest Conversations with Your Kids About the Body, Sex, and Desire with Jay Stringer and Heather Stringer 50:44

7d ago50:44

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Parents, this episode is for you! Join Rachael Clinton Chen as she sits down with Jay and Heather Stringer to explore how to talk to your kids about sensitive topics like the body, desire, sex, puberty, and even pornography in ways that are kind and attuned to their needs. Jay and Heather share the importance of parents first exploring their own st…

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Healing With Spiritual Direction with Vanessa Sadler 44:35

4h ago44:35

44:35

In this episode, Rachael Clinton Chen is joined by Vanessa Sadler, a trauma-informed spiritual director and contemplative creative, who brings heartfelt wisdom to the conversation about healing from personal and collective trauma and abuse. Vanessa draws on her unique training in the Enneagram, spiritual direction, and Narrative Focused Trauma Care…

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How To Develop Empathy For Your Wife (with Nathaniel Gustafson) 48:56

1h ago48:56

48:56

Have you ever felt unable to enter into your wife's pain? In this episode, Nathaniel Gustafson explains how to come close to your wife in a way she is more likely to trust. You'll learn how to stay out of shame, keep the spotlight on her, and practice these skills before "game time." Sobriety is not enough. You must learn empathy. Nathaniel's compa…

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Spiritual Formation & White Racial Identity Development 47:35

2h ago47:35

47:35

Spiritual director and story coach, TJ Poon, sits down with Rachael Clinton Chen to explore the intersection of spiritual formation and White racial identity development. We’ll begin by saying that we are approaching this conversation with a deep sense of responsibility and humility, honoring the voices of people of color who have led the way and a…

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How Women Can Help Men Heal (with Britta Eskey) 27:26

7d ago27:26

27:26

Many men have been wounded by women. In this episode, Britta Eskey explains how women can help men heal wounds caused by women. Without women, we are missing half of humanity. Britta Eskey co-founded COR, which assists people in finding and living their purpose, including through the Noble Man workshop. Britta is the author of Initiations in Love, …

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Three Unhealed Boys Within Every Man 16:10

20h ago16:10

16:10

Did you know that you have more than one inner child? In this episode, you'll get to know three types of unhealed boys within you. Then at the end, I'll share what it looks like to help them heal. You'll meet: The "good boy" who became "the hero." The "bad boy" who became "the villain." The "hurt boy" who became "the victim." Related episodes: Porn…

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Listener Questions: Spiritual Abuse & Healing 38:10

4d ago38:10

38:10

We’re back to engage more questions from you, our listeners, about healing from spiritual abuse. In this episode, Rachael Clinton Chen, alongside Allender Center Product Manager Melissa Dowell, addresses heartfelt and challenging questions from our community. These questions explore the complexities of bringing spiritual abuse to light, navigating …

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Things I Didn’t Expect When Healing From Trauma, Part 3 with Rachael Clinton Chen 51:38

11d ago51:38

51:38

Join Rachael Clinton Chen for the conclusion of her three-part series, where she offers a candid and heartfelt look at her journey of holistic healing from complex PTSD and anxiety. In this final episode, Rachael explores the surprising aspects of trauma recovery, including how trauma manifests in the body and the often unpredictable nature of the …

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A New Approach To Internet Filtering (with Plucky) 30:03

15d ago30:03

30:03

Have you ever tried to remove access to porn on your digital devices? What if you could create a filter with no loopholes? In this episode, you'll learn a new and innovative approach to internet filtering with Jon and Kristin Wilkes, founders of pluckyfilter.com. You'll also hear from Scott Wurtz, a passionate Plucky user. If you're interested in p…

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160 The Weight of Religious and Spiritual Expectations with Reid Zeller 40:32

27d ago40:32

40:32

I am joined today by therapist and friend Reid Zeller who shares a story about egging cars when he was 16. Behind every story is a backstory. The backstory includes the nature of the environment we grew up in. When religious or spiritual expectations are placed on the shoulders of a child, pressure builds within that child. And when that pressure i…

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Summer Replay: Attachment Stories in Marriage with Dr. Steve and Lisa Call 44:34

1M ago44:34

44:34

This month, we're bringing back three of our most popular conversations from last year, featuring some incredible guests. Whether you've heard them before or not, we invite you to listen, reflect, and perhaps share them with a friend. The third and final episode in our summer replay series features Dr. Dan Allender and Becky Allender, and Dr. Steve…

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Outgrowing Porn in Marriage (with Rich and Deanna Millentree) 53:21

1M ago53:21

53:21

How can a couple devastated by porn heal, grow, and become even stronger? In this episode, Rich and Deanna Millentree tell their incredible story. "We're Rich and DeAnna Millentree and we love growing in marriage! We've ridden the rollercoaster of marriage for over 28 years. The ups are exhilarating, but the downs are daunting. As Christian Marriag…

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Summer Replay: “Everybody Come Alive” with Marcie Alvis Walker 54:58

1M ago54:58

54:58

This month, we're bringing back three of our most popular conversations from last year, featuring some incredible guests. Whether you've heard them before or not, we invite you to listen, reflect, and perhaps share them with a friend. This episode in our summer replay series is a conversation with the amazing Marcie Alvis Walker. You may know Marci…

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How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method (Part 2) 51:45

1M ago51:45

51:45

In this episode, I transform one of my triggers using The F.L.O.S.S. Method with help from three Certified Husband Material Coaches: Andrew Loyd, Juan Mejia, and Rocky Pisor. This episode was recorded live at the recent HMA In A Day workshop as a live demonstration of Trigger Tuesday, one of the weekly coaching calls in Husband Material Academy. Th…

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How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method (Part 1) 41:07

29d ago41:07

41:07

Triggers don't have to be tyrants. In this episode, you'll learn how to transform your triggers from threats into opportunities for healing using The F.LO.S.S. Method. This episode is an excerpt from the recent HMA In A Day workshop. The F.L.O.S.S. Method: F = Fear L = Lie O = Origin Story S = Sadness S = Surrender Free resource mentioned in this e…

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159 Revisiting the Big Six: What You Needed from Your Parents 41:34

1M ago41:34

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When you were a child, you were deeply dependent on your primary caretakers. This means that the development of your brain was contingent upon the level of care and kindness in your family environment. Today I identify the six things you needed from your parents, and give examples of each. The “Big Six” things you needed from your parents include (…

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Summer Replay: “Holy Runaways” with Matthias Roberts 46:34

2M ago46:34

46:34

This month, we're bringing back three of our most popular conversations from last year, featuring some incredible guests. Whether you've heard them before or not, we invite you to listen, reflect, and perhaps share them with a friend. This first episode in our summer replay series is a conversation with a dear friend, author, and alumnus of The Sea…

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How I Stopped Getting Into My Husband's Recovery Work Instead Of Doing Mine (with Tera Brown) 27:21

1M ago27:21

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Tera Brown went from trying to fix her husband's sex addiction to finding herself, her emotions, her boundaries, and her sacred ground. In this episode, you'll learn what it looks like to heal from relational trauma and feel alive in your body. Tera Brown is a trauma-informed life coach trained by APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Tr…

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Things I Didn’t Expect When Healing From Trauma, Part 2 with Rachael Clinton Chen 50:34

1M ago50:34

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We’re back with part two of our three-part series with Rachael Clinton Chen, where she candidly shares personal insights from her own journey of holistically healing from complex PTSD and anxiety, and the things she didn’t expect when healing from trauma. In this episode, Rachael explores how trauma disrupts not only our mental and physical well-be…

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158 The Critical Relationship Between Attachment and Affect Regulation 30:05

2M ago30:05

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If you have difficulty regulating your emotion, there is a reason for that! No one comes out of the womb with the ability to regulate their affect. The way you develop the neurobiological structures to regulate your own emotions is by having your affect interactively regulated by another. This is the main gift that a primary caregiver gives to a ch…

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Sitting In The Dirt Of Sexual Brokenness (with Jeremy Williamson) 31:20

1M ago31:20

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How do I sit in the dirt with someone who is experiencing sexual brokenness? What if I don't know what to say? What if I find myself dysregulated or sexually aroused by the other person? Jeremy Williamson offers invaluable wisdom and counterintuitive clarity about how "be with" others in such a way that they experience the presence of God. Jeremy W…

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“Why Everything That Doesn't Matter, Matters So Much” with Charlie Peacock and Andi Ashworth 49:29

2M ago49:29

49:29

Charlie Peacock and Andi Ashworth, prolific artists, writers, and co-founders of Art House America, join Dan in this podcast episode to discuss their life, work, and recent book, "Why Everything That Doesn't Matter, Matters So Much." In their latest book, Charlie and Andi have written a collection of letters to Christians and spiritual seekers who …

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How To Do Experiential Healing Work 24:21

2M ago24:21

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Have you ever been disappointed by traditional counseling or talk therapy? In this episode, you'll discover the power of a whole-brain approach to outgrowing porn. You'll learn the why, what, and how of experiential healing work. This episode is required viewing for my clients. Related episodes: How To Heal Your Inner Child Experience Healing Throu…

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Tempus Fugit (Time Flies) 37:19

2M ago37:19

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On this first day of summer, we’re reflecting on the complexities and emotional challenges of scheduling and managing time. Why does managing our schedules often feel so stressful, chaotic, and even triggering? The episode begins with Rachael admitting: “I'm laughing at how we on the Allender Center Podcast could take a topic like scheduling and di…

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Restoration After Porn Relapse (with Rocky Pisor) 40:36

2M ago40:36

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How do you pursue restoration after a relapse, especially in marriage or ministry leadership? Rocky Pisor tells his own story of processing a porn relapse after 17 years of sobriety. You'll learn how to notice the warning signs of impending relapse, and how to respond to relapse with curiosity and compassion rather than punishing yourself or preten…

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157 What If My Story Isn’t That Bad? Why We All Tend to Minimize Our Wounds 29:24

2M ago29:24

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This episode is for people who experience emotional pain but feel like “nothing that bad happened to me growing up. I had a pretty good childhood.” As it says in Jeremiah 6, it is very common to dress our wounds as though they are not serious. One way we tend to minimize our wounds is by comparing our story to someone else who “had it worse.” Anoth…

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“The Sex Talk You Never Got” with Sam Jolman 49:38

2M ago49:38

49:38

Please note that this episode contains discussions of sex, and mentions sensitive topics like sexual assault, rape, and misogyny. Listener discretion is advised. Do you remember “the talk?” Maybe you never had one… or wish yours had gone differently. This week, we’re pleased to talk to friend, therapist, writer, and NFTC alumni Sam Jolman, MA, LPC,…

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It's Good To Be Aroused (with Sam Jolman) 46:24

2M ago46:24

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"There is nothing inherently wrong with an aroused man." What is arousal? Why is it good? Sam Jolman helps us reclaim the heart of masculine sexuality for the purpose of awe, play, and worshipping God. You'll learn how arousal always has a script, why evil hates arousal, and the difference between sexuality and sensuality. At the end, you'll receiv…

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Things I Didn’t Expect When Healing From Trauma, Part 1 with Rachael Clinton Chen 48:10

2M ago48:10

48:10

We’re pleased to bring you a new, three-part series this summer from Rachael Clinton Chen, where she candidly shares personal insights from her own journey of holistically healing from complex PTSD and anxiety, and the things she didn’t expect when healing from trauma. In the first episode of this series, Rachael shares some of her earliest memorie…

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Freedom From Gay Porn (LIVE) 1:00:44

2M ago1:00:44

1:00:44

Why do I struggle with gay porn? What does freedom look like? How can I stop using gay porn? In this episode, I answer these questions based on years of research and helping hundreds of men achieve lasting freedom from gay porn. Recommended resources (including paid links): Healing And Recovery: Perspective For Young Men With Sexualized Attachments…

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156 Five Objections to Engaging Your Story: A Response 40:35

3M ago40:35

40:35

When I began exploring my story, five objections kept coming up for me. These objections kept me stuck. In today’s episode, I respond to each of the five objections. Objection 1: I should focus on the present and the future, not "dwell on the past.” Objection 2: Looking at my story is self-indulgent, introspective navel gazing; I should be focused …

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The Role of Story 36:36

3M ago36:36

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Story is how we make meaning as humans. Stories help us shape our identity and influence our perception of God. Our stories also are revelatory; they reveal something of the nature of God in a way that nothing else does. If you’re curious about why we talk so much about story here at the Allender Center - or if you’ve heard it before and need a gen…

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