S2 E8: The Dangerous Questions of Self-Love

Fearless Self-Love

Are you asking yourself safe or dangerous questions? In this hot off the mic interview with Liam Bowler of The Body Awake podcast we dive deep into the process of curiosity and inquiry and how to know when it's time to act instead of freezing in analysis paralysis. Listen in as I interview a fellow Montanan about his experience with practicing introspection as a pathway to self-love. This interview prompted me , almost immediately, to shift how I approach my reaction to suffering within myself.

• Why it’s important to ask the dangerous questions

• Why to sit with suffering instead of trying to relieve it

• How to move from inquiry into action

Links Mentioned:

• Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com
• Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/
• Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/
• Email Andrea & Sara to sign up for the retreat bonus: [e-mail]
• The Body Awake http://www.thebodyawake.com/about/
• Camp Kitchen where Andrea will be cooking www.ravenwoodolc.org
• Liam’s interview with Kimberly Ann Johnson http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/kaj/
• Liam’s Body Work practice https://dynamicalignmentbodywork.com/
• Stephen Porgus Polyvagal Theory http://stephenporges.com/
• Liam’s first interview with Irene Lyon http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/se-irene/
• Banksy http://banksy.co.uk/
• Liam’s upcoming workshops http://www.thebodyawake.com/workshops/
• Liam’s YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR1pE63MWey2Fq9QMCfiyRQ

Show Highlights:

00:58 Fearless Self love Retreat Bonus Details

02:48 Easeful Living Practice ~ What questions are you asking yourself?

05:15 Interview with Liam Bowler begins, Liam helps folks understand their body’s intelligence as well as their educational needs

10:14 Dangerous Questions are the ones that might change your life. Are you asking them?

22:44 Liam shares about dark days and months in his life and explore how he would interact with his younger self today

31;58 How to ask a dangerous question, the intimacy and the power behind the words

36:31 Liam’s invitation to reflect on what is being evoked by dangerous questions -- what is keeping you from being vulnerable?

41:38 Why try to relieve our own suffering? The pain of witnessing suffering and how it causes us to try to wish it away.

45:49 Anatomy of the Autonomic nervous system

49:55 How Liam navigates self-care and self-love as a practitioner and how he supports his clients and students in navigating their own dangerous questions with love and care

Favorite Quotes

“There is a growing interest among us, not just a ‘fix me’ mentality, but a kind of education, which comes in many forms.” --Liam Bowler

“Education is the kindling of a flame, not the filling of a vessel.” ― Socrates

“Owning your own experience is infinitely more infinite and ambody and non-checked out.” -- Liam Bowler

“You’re not doing anything wrong here by suffering.” -- Liam Bowler

“Don’t wait for yourself to be perfectly healed and integrated before you start trying...to make something better.” -- Liam Bowler

“I have so much more to learn about myself.” -- Andrea Catherine, as inspired by Paula Greenstein

“Upon awakening, what gets liberated from what?” -- Adyashanti

“I have, lots in my life, used that lack of needing to solve something as a conceptual bunker, with which to hide from taking action.” -- Liam Bowler

“Self-hatred is one of the most narcissistic things out there; meanwhile life is happening.” -- Liam Bowler

“Do you care who gets the credit?” -- Liam Bowler

“Where are you hiding behind inquiry?” -- Liam Bowler

Meet Liam:

I’m Liam Bowler, a licensed massage therapist, structural bodyworker, musician and rock climbing guide (among other things, of course). Some of my loves lately: these heartbreakingly beautiful Montana sunsets, my weekly "Spotify suggests" playlist, yoga, cutting my own hair, this podcast, learning how my car works, meditation, taking my neighbors' dog for walks in the hills behind my house.

I live in Missoula, Montana, and make regular trips to Seattle—for work and fun—and sometimes other places, too. If you'd like what I do to come near you, please shoot me a line and let me know.

You can learn more about my bodywork practice at my website for that: Dynamic Alignment Bodywork.