Best Partner Betrayal Trauma Podcasts (2024)

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15. Rewiring Your Brain to Chill the F*** Out With Meditation 21:30

2h ago21:30

21:30

Fun fact: I was training to become a meditation teacher for three months before discovering my partner's secret porn and sex addiction. The emotional regulation and nervous system regulation tools I learned during that training ended up saving my life (literally) while navigating betrayal. So in this episode, we dive into how it can help the healin…

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Meditation #1: Increasing Self-love, Self-worth, and Gratitude <3 11:49

2h ago11:49

11:49

THIS IS A MEDITATION, not a podcast episode. Please listen to this when you're able to sit down (or lie down) and chill the f*** out :) Let this meditation be a sanctuary where you're reminded of your strength, worthiness, and gratitude for yourself. Affirmations: I am deserving of love, respect, and happiness My worth is not determined by the acti…

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Paige's Perspective: Anxiety & Overwhelming Emotions 14:37

1h ago14:37

14:37

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's Paige's perspective, Paige is covering anxiety and overwhelming emotions. Paige recounts her struggle with anxiety disorder and how she overcame debilitating anxiety, panic attacks, and overwhelming fears. She discusses the tools she uses to break free from anxious thoughts and how she rationalize…

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You Are Stronger Than You Think - We Can Do Hard 1:18:42

6h ago1:18:42

1:18:42

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This is an episode designed more like a charcuterie board than a main course. We discuss Independently Strong because we don't think we've really ever done a great job at communicating what it's about and the value to someone in a relationship with a person struggling with addiction. We then get onto topics that…

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My Addict Partner was Doing Well in Recovery. Then the Lies Started Again. I’m Shattered! How do I Come Back from This?! 33:14

3d ago33:14

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In this Episode 237, Mark and Steve get passionate in responding to the heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener. Here's what she shared— In My partners and I are now 12 months into our journey and I have been doing really well for the most part. I had been feeling like I was really getting on top of my betrayal and processing everything that happe…

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HOW Does an Addict Get to Real, Lasting SEXUAL & EMOTIONAL Sobriety & Recovery? 40:01

2h ago40:01

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Episode 234 comes in response to TWO situations/questions sent to PBSE by porn/sex addicts in recovery. Here’s a brief overview of each— The first has been addicted to porn since he was 14 and is now well into his adult years. He was in a relationship for 3 years before disclosing his addiction. In his own words he says—Since then I have lied about…

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14. Porn's Negative Impacts on Relationships with Psychotherapist and Certified Sexual Recovery Therapist, Paul Lavergne 1:03:19

5d ago1:03:19

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In this episode, I interview Registered Psychotherapist and Certified Sexual Recovery Therapist, Paul Lavergne who works with men with compulsive sexual behaviors who are in relationships, having serial affairs, cheating, going to massage parlors, strip clubs, sexting, talking to cam girls, etc. Paul shares his personal past experience with porn ad…

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Paige's Perspective: Complimenting vs Completing Your Partner 12:25

1d ago12:25

12:25

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Interdependence is important in our most intimate relationships. When one partner breaks down, we often find ourselves filling their cup and leaving ourselves empty. This is fine and well in relationships, but when addiction is involved the prolonged and persistent nature of the lack of support will leave you pl…

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Hear Me Out...If You Were Randomly Sent This, Please Listen 1:10:48

3d ago1:10:48

1:10:48

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Please just hear me out. The person that sent this to you is not as crazy or out of touch or nagging as you think. I'm not going to try to convert you to anything, I've just been where you are and someone that loves you dearly wants you to know there's a way out. If you were sent this randomly by someone, please…

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Why is Knowledge of Horrific Abuse in the Porn Industry NOT Enough to Make Men Quit Their Porn Habit? 35:49

4d ago35:49

35:49

In this episode, # 236, the betrayed partner of a porn addict writes a very raw and vulnerable message to PBSE with some deeply poignant, hard-hitting questions. Here's what we received from her— Hey Mark and Steve, my partner was 4 years porn-free and then relapsed, using porn intermittently for about 8 months before I caught him. He says he's ser…

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#69: Dating Safety, with Kelly Gagalis 45:43

4d ago45:43

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If you're dating, this episode is for you! My guest, Kelly Gagalis, recently created a dating safety program called "Swipe Safely" in order to help more women (and gay men) understand how they can take steps to protect themselves so they can enjoy the rewards dating has to offer. Kelly Gagalis is a Marriage and Family Therapist with over 15 years c…

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From Rock Bottom To Recovery EP 82 27:55

4d ago27:55

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If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend. Addiction is tough and I have seen it throughout my family and others families and it can be so destructive. Join myself and Rachel Harrison as she talks a bit about her recovery, how she is different today in many ways other than …

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Paige's Perspective: Fake It Till You Make It 15:01

8d ago15:01

15:01

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige discusses "fake it till you make it" and the importance of this annoying phrase and how there's actually something beautiful underneath it all. There are of course caveats, and all of them are discussed in this quick pick-me-up episode! Find video clips and fu…

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Betrayal Trauma 1:13:56

10d ago1:13:56

1:13:56

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Betrayal trauma refers to the deep psychological harm that occurs when someone experiences a significant betrayal within a primary relationship such as a romantic partnership and it impacts the victim's sense of trust, safety, and security. Codependency doesn't come close to touching on the trauma experienced by…

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I’ve Disclosed my Sexual Addiction history to my partner—now what? How do I best support her going forward? 32:47

15d ago32:47

32:47

In Episode 235, a PBSE listener writes in to ask Mark & Steve for guidance on how to best support his partner going forward. The couple were together off and on for 11 years and then married for the last 10 years. During the entire span of 21 years, he has struggled with sex/porn addiction and alcohol abuse. Recently, he got serious about getting i…

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Behind Your Cheating Mind EP 81 21:10

14d ago21:10

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Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable. Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you are not alone in this either. I'm talking about cheating and not your partner cheating... you cheating. I'll cover possible reasons this might be something you do or have done in the past. Its a short o…

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Paige's Perspective: Emerging From the Cocoon - Empowerment 14:31

19d ago14:31

14:31

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige dives deep into how she moved out of the cocoon phase and discusses timeframe, how she got started, and how fitness and self care really got the ball rolling. In working through the cocoon phase, you will discover that you can do hard things, push harder than …

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The Cocoon Phase of Healing 1:09:40

23d ago1:09:40

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode we discuss the cocoon phase of healing; a familiar place for many spouses and partners of alcoholics as they process the truth of their lives and relationships and begin to transition. The cocoon phase is important in the healing process or even through crisis as we reshape our identities, redisc…

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#68: Inside Out 2: Four Lessons for Emotional Growth 17:25

18d ago17:25

17:25

Have you been hearing the buzz about the latest Inside Out movie? It's not just for kids! In fact, there are some important lessons we can all learn from it about our emotional world and how that impacts our behavior and relationships. Today I talk about 4 of those lessons (plus a bonus) that resonated with me. Learn more about Karin: Website: http…

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Do You Still Love Me EP 80 16:12

20d ago16:12

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I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the questions we ask and why we ask them. It's a quick dump episode but an important one when it comes to communicating with our partners and the reassurance questions we ask over and over again. Register for the…

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Conversations: Betrayal Violence with Hope Raye 47:29

19d ago47:29

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Welcome to Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships with Dan Drake and guests Wendy Conquest, Jeannie Vittone, and Tim Stein. Today, they delve into the challenging topic of betrayal violence with therapist and magazine creator Hope Ray. Hope introduces the concept, defining betrayal violence as a complex dynamic involving secrecy, repeat…

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Quick Conversations: Men Support Groups 5:42

23d ago5:42

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In this insightful conversation, Hope Ray discusses her work with men in a support group called Getting Dire Straight, where they delve into sensitive topics like male entitlement and misogyny.By Timzi9

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Paige's Perspective: How to Balance the F**ks You Give 19:02

28d ago19:02

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, let's talk about how to budget the f**ks you give just like a bank account. For a spouse or partner affected by addiction, life is overwhelming and things that once garnered a lot of your attention need to be let go - and things you never thought twice about, MUST b…

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13. Calling off the Wedding After Discovering His Sexual Addictions With Jane Doe 1:07:16

1M ago1:07:16

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ONE OF MY FAVORITE EPISODES <3 One month after I discovered my partner's secret porn & sex addiction, I received a phone call from my friend crying who just discovered her fiance's secret porn and sex addiction. Now over a year later, we've talked almost every day throughout our healing journeys and I'm SO proud of how far she's come. In this episo…

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Can Compassion Go Too Far? 1:11:02

30d ago1:11:02

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Compassion is a beautiful characteristic and necessary to some degree in relationships, but there can be too much of a good thing. While compassion is an important and valuable quality, excessive or misplaced compassion in such situations can lead to enabling harmful behaviors, compromising one's own well-being,…

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What’s the Point in Staying with a Porn/Sex Addict? What’s in it for the Betrayed Partner? 32:37

29d ago32:37

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In Episode 233, Mark & Steve respond to a very heart-felt submission from a betrayed partner, who asks some very hard questions about her relationship with a partner who is a porn/sex addict in recovery. Here's what she submitted to PBSE— Hi Mark and Steve, I’m feeling a lot of apathy in my marriage and I don’t understand the point in staying. I’ve…

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Ask Your Partner Better Questions w/ Topaz Adizes EP 79 33:41

29d ago33:41

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Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner? Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be? Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question? Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answe…

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Quick Conversations: What are the dynamics of relationships affected by addiction and betrayal? 5:11

1M ago5:11

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In this episode, we speak with special guest Hope Ray on the dynamics of power and control in relationships affected by addiction and betrayal. We discuss how withholding essential information creates a power imbalance and restricts a partner's agency, ultimately leading to exploitation and harm. The conversation emphasizes the importance of transp…

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Conversations: Dating After A Break Up 42:22

1M ago42:22

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In this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we discuss the topic of dating for partners after a relationship ends. We explore the challenges faced by partners when relationships don't work out, emphasizing the lack of conversation and support for those navigating life after a breakup or divorce.…

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Paige's Perspective: We Are Not Broken 13:38

1M ago13:38

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Today marks the start of a new solo segment with Paige to supplement our regular weekly show to get you more help, more inspiration, and more lessons. It's called Paige's Perspective, and it's going to be a weekly message to our audience to provide more insight as to what a spouse's journey is like. This week Pa…

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What Are Spouses of Substance Abusers Recovering From? 1:11:28

1M ago1:11:28

1:11:28

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Many times spouses and partners are lost in a maze of issues that leave confusion and trouble answering a simple question, "What am I recovering from? What defines my recovery?" A marriage or relationship with an alcoholic or addict or a narcissistic or abusive person leaves the victim with issues ranging from P…

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The PBSE/Dare to Connect Approach vs 12-Step Support Groups 33:02

1M ago33:02

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In PBSE Episode 232, Mark & Steve respond to a listener's experience and questions with regard to the approach to Betrayal Trauma healing that PBSE and Dare to Connect take, vs. the experience in 12-Step groups. Here's what the partner of a porn/sex addict submitted to PBSE— Is it me or are the approaches of partner-oriented 12-step fellowships the…

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#67: Betrayal and Forgiveness, with Bruce Chalmer 49:02

1M ago49:02

49:02

Today I talk with Dr. Bruce Chalmer, a couple therapist and author of a newly published book about betrayal and forgiveness - a book I highly recommend for anyone struggling with forgiveness. Carrying around anger and/or resentment toward someone is a heavy burden to bear that can sap your energy, detract from your relationships, and steal your joy…

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What's Behind Your Jealous Mind w/ Thais Gibson EP 78 1:02:59

1M ago1:02:59

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This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation. As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory. Wond…

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Quick Conversations: Why Is It Important To Have A Support System In The Dating Scene? 4:51

1M ago4:51

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In this discussion, we delve into offering guidance for betrayed partners re-entering the dating scene post-recovery. We emphasize the importance of building a supportive social network before diving into dating. Self-exploration and identity formation are key steps to feeling confident and secure before seeking new relationships. Instead of viewin…

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Episode 14: Children and Gender Identity Crisis 26:15

1M ago26:15

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In this podcast, counselor and author, John Sternfels examines the complexities of gender identity and gender dysphoria in children and adolescents. John discusses from a Christian perspective, how to discuss this complex topic with children in a sensitive and informed manner. Talking to children who struggle with gender identity and gender dysphor…

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Quick Conversations: Betrayed Partners & Dating Scene Post-Recovery 5:31

1M ago5:31

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In this discussion, we explore the challenges of readiness and intimacy for betrayed partners entering the dating scene post-recovery. We challenge the cultural pressure to rush into sexual encounters and advocate for a more deliberate approach to building emotional connections. By reframing the question to focus on compatibility and emotional safe…

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12. Healing from Porn Addiction: Brando's Journey of Healing and Self-Discovery 53:31

2M ago53:31

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In this episode, I welcome Brando, who bravely shares his journey through porn addiction after finding it when he was 10. Brando opens up about his struggle from childhood into adulthood, performance anxiety, the negative impacts on his mental health and relationships, and the shame associated with addiction. We discuss the importance of vulnerabil…

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Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction 1:13:57

1M ago1:13:57

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! How much should you focus on the substance? To what degree is the substance responsible for someone's behavior? Is it easier to forgive someone's bad behavior because they're addicted? Should compassion for a struggling addict or alcoholic overshadow your needs for an equal partner, or for honesty in a relations…

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Because He’s a Sex Addict—even in Real Recovery—I will still Never Be Enough For Him! How do I Cope with That?! 32:28

1M ago32:28

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Episode 231 comes in response to a very raw and real submission by a PBSE listener who is the partner of a sex addict. Here's what she vulnerably expressed— I’m the partner of a sex/porn addict who has a 3-4 year history of lying about being in “recovery.” Even to sponsors, men groups & therapists. My experience has always been my discovery, never …

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It Makes Perfect Sense You Feel This Way EP 77 16:56

1M ago16:56

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I absolutely can't stand it when I hear people say "you have to just get over it". Or especially things like.. you're crazy, or you're nuts when they are referring to you being jealous. There is such a stigma around "being jealous" that people seem to just have no tolerance for. Yes, I understand it is not healthy, yes I understand its not somethin…

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11. Healing from Betrayal Trauma with Somatics and Nervous System Regulation with Carrie Jean 50:48

2M ago50:48

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This episode welcomes special guest Carrie, a highly certified expert in nervous system regulation, betrayal trauma, and somatics. The episode dives deep into understanding the nervous system and its critical role in shaping our experiences and relationships. Carrie introduces the concepts of sympathetic and parasympathetic states, polyvagal theory…

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Quick Conversations: What happens when partners end a relationship with a partner with addiction? 5:18

2M ago5:18

5:18

In this heartfelt discussion, we delve into the challenges partners face when deciding to end a relationship affected by addiction and trauma. We explore the complex emotions of sadness, relief, fear, and excitement that accompany this decision, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and processing grief and loss. The conversation emphasizes …

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Conversations: Disclosure to Children with Casey Allison 40:14

2M ago40:14

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Today, we're discussing the impact of sexual betrayal on families and children, a vital but often overlooked topic. We're excited to have Casey Allison, a certified partner coach, who has created a unique children's book addressing this issue. Her book provides age-appropriate explanations about betrayal and recovery, featuring beautiful illustrati…

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How to Handle Friends Distancing Due to a Spouse's Addiction - Listener Q&A Pt.2 1:18:00

2M ago1:18:00

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Have an episode suggestion? Text us! We continue to answer listener submitted questions in this episode and address the following: 1. How do you learn to trust yourself and your instincts again when an alcoholic spouse has crippled your sense of self. 2. How involved should a spouse or partner be in the decisions around treatment (rehab), aftercare…

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What Does “Real Restitution” for Serious Betrayal in a Relationship Look Like? 38:57

2M ago38:57

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In Episode 230, the betrayed parter of a porn/sex addict submitted her situation and some questions to PBSE surrounding the CRITICAL issue of "restitution." Here's how she expressed it— Over the course of our 25 year long marriage, my husband had two emotional affairs, a decade and a half long porn addiction and a 2 year long physical and emotional…

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#66: Is it Sex Addiction? With Eric FitzMedrud 48:05

2M ago48:05

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Do you suspect that you or someone you care about has a sex addiction? Sex addiction is a topic that is being discussed more often nowadays, but misunderstandings are common. Listen to this episode to learn more. My guest today, Eric FitzMedrud, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in relationships and sexual issues. His specialty is helping …

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The Myth Of Positive Thinking w/ Dr. Eddie O'Connor EP 76 27:55

2M ago27:55

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Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help. You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and this could be keeping you stuck. According to my guest today, Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and host of 'The Psychology of Performance', shares his insights on the detrimental effects of positive thin…

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Conversations: Can a Betrayed Partner Traumatize the Addict? 32:07

2M ago32:07

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In this insightful discussion, we explore the nuanced dynamics of trauma within relationships affected by addiction. We consider the possibility that partners' behaviors, both before and after discovery, can contribute to the addict's experience of trauma. By examining the interplay between autonomy, codependency, and unconscious coping mechanisms,…

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Episode 13: A Comprehensive Examination of Mental Health 41:13

2M ago41:13

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A Comprehensive Examination of Mental Health Introduction Mental health encompasses emotional, psychological, and social well-being, influencing how individuals think, feel, and act. It affects daily functioning, relationships, and physical health. Mental health is not merely the absence of mental illness but also involves the presence of positive …

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