Best Paul Colaianni Podcasts (2024)

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When you can barely take care of yourself let alone give them what they want 40:47

36m ago40:47

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What if you're doing all you can to maintain your own health and well-being but you have someone in your life who a consistent drain on your mental and emotional health? Can you rebuild your energy or do you have to accept that it may never stop and you may have to make tougher choices about the relationship?…

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How to JUMP Into the Life You Truly Want to Live 36:47

2h ago36:47

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Love and Fear. It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to. Fear can be one heck of a beast! We all know because we all can recall times when we let fear overpower our ability to make clear decisions. I lived much of my life in fear and can vividly remember making choices from a place a fear since early on. And I also remember the fe…

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A Relationship with someone w/BPD 17:09

1h ago17:09

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Ever feel like you've been on a rollercoaster without a seatbelt? Welcome to a relationship with someone w/BPD. In this episode, I want to break down BPD. We will look at understanding the idealization-devaluation cycle typical in BPD relationships, recognizing signs of emotional dysregulation and its effects on partners and practical, actionable a…

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I didn't ask to be born and I don't want to be here 48:23

2h ago48:23

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If you find yourself questioning the value of your existence or struggling with deep-seated negativity, this episode addresses those heavy, existential questions that might be weighing on your mind. How do you cope when life feels overwhelmingly difficult, and is it possible to find peace amidst persistent inner turmoil? Today I address that and mo…

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How to Create the Biggest Shifts in Your Wellbeing - Dr. Michelle Robin 40:47

8d ago40:47

40:47

How do you define "wellbeing"? How about breaking down the word into it's two parts -- WELL and BEING -- what do those words mean to you? My guest in today's conversation is clear on what those words mean to her, and is on a mission to spread her message of whole wellbeing. Dr. Michelle Robin is a chiropractor by trade, but has expanded herself int…

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Is Your Relationship Safe? 13:37

2d ago13:37

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Do you feel confused all of the time? Are you wondering if they are a safe person? This confusion frequently arises from past trauma resurfacing or the dynamics of the present relationship. This episode provides an honest self-reflection and thorough questioning to help you discern if you are in a healthy, safe relationship. Support the show Websit…

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The people who don't grow may never accept your growth 42:59

10d ago42:59

42:59

When certain people in your life prefer the old you instead of the new one, you may face their resistance and maybe even their frustration. When you learn, heal and grow, you let go of old dysfunctions and sometimes even old relationships if they can't adjust to the new you.By Paul Colaianni

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The Massive Difference Between Big "S" Success and Small "s" Success 17:24

8d ago17:24

17:24

You have been lied to about success. Like most of us, we've been told that success is determined by factors "out there". Achievements, accolades, possessions, titles, certifications, promotions - you know the deal. But you've also been told that success is simply a mindset. You are successful if you feel successful. But I'm introducing a new concep…

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Are you feeling crazy after a breakup? 20:22

9d ago20:22

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Are you feeling crazy after a breakup? The intense emotional upheaval that follows breaking up with a manipulative partner is insane. Many people find themselves questioning their sanity and grapple with self-blame and confusion—emotions often amplified by their ex-partners' toxic behaviors. This episode explores the cycle of manipulation. I explor…

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Can an unempathetic person develop empathy? 49:56

12d ago49:56

49:56

Relationships require empathy. Without it, you will have an imbalance that will not only feel lonely, but also emotionally toxic.By Paul Colaianni

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How to Work with Me 16:32

14d ago16:32

16:32

Wondering how to work with me? This episode breaks it down. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substak} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses…

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Igniting Your “Guttural Brushfire”: The Impact of Mission Statements, Powerful Words, and Unconditional Love with Sandy Chambers 1:00:51

23d ago1:00:51

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What would your life look like if you were fully engaged? If you were living your life to the max? If you were experiencing a "guttural brushfire"? That’s the question that my guest today has been meditating on. Sandy Chambers is very close persona friend of mine and one of the most consciously mature people I know. She devours books, videos, podca…

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Are You Becoming Like Them? 11:29

16d ago11:29

11:29

Do toxic relationships make you mirror abusive behaviors? In this episode, I explore a common question: am I just like them? I explore whether living with a narcissist or emotionally abusive partner can make us react in ways that feel out of character, just to survive. Key Takeaways: - Understanding reactive abuse and why it happens. - Strategies f…

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Obsession and regret - when you just can't stop thinking about what happened 49:19

22d ago49:19

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Why do obsessive thoughts take over our minds? What keeps them there? And why can't we stop them after they start? There are so many questions about something so pervasive and invasive that I try to answer in this episode. If you’re struggling to let go of past events and find yourself caught in cycles of regret and anger, I will help you get off t…

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When they shower you with love after they've done bad behavior 49:33

22d ago49:33

49:33

How can you tell if your partner’s affection is genuine or a manipulation tactic? Love bombing usually takes place at the beginning of a relationship to create a strong bond between an abusive person and their victim. But it can also be used to get away with bad behavior in long-term relationships as well.…

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"Co-parenting" with a Narcissist: Interview with Chantal Contorines 39:24

23d ago39:24

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Chantal Contorines, a high conflict co-parenting coach and mentor, joins me to delve into the complexities of "co-parenting" with a Narcissist. We discuss strategies for being the best advocate for your child. In this episode, we address: The difficulty in truly co-parenting with a narcissist due to their inability to prioritize children over their…

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How to Use Discontent to Create Your Finest Moments with Dianne Crampton 53:04

23d ago53:04

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Have you experienced true discontent in your life? That’s totally a rhetorical question because if you’re alive then that means you’ve been in situations that you haven’t liked. The real question is, how did you handle those situations? My guest in today’s conversation is Dianne Crampton, and she would guess that you did one of three things: blamed…

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The part of you that you don't want others to see 46:58

27d ago46:58

46:58

Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to show your true self to others? I explore how hiding parts of yourself can affect your relationships and what it takes to foster deeper emotional connections by embracing authenticity.By Paul Colaianni

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Q & A Episode: Responding to Fan Mail Questions 14:51

29d ago14:51

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This is an emotional and Narcissistic abuse Q and A episode. In this episode, I respond to questions sent through the FanMail option on my podcast host. I listeners' questions are answered regarding patterns of abusive behavior and seeking support outside family who may not understand the situation. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach I…

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The Secret Consequences of Being Authentic and Transparent with Paul Colaianni 1:10:03

29d ago1:10:03

1:10:03

Paul Colaianni has not always led an authentic life. Experiences as a child taught him that authenticity and self expression were detrimental to his health and the health of those around him, so he bottled them up. The result was a life rife with unsteady relationships, frustration, and disillusionment. It wasn’t until facing the end of another rel…

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What Recovery FEELS Like with Paul Colaianni 49:18

1M ago49:18

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Today, Paul interviews me! Paul Colaianni brings his unique perspective as both a former emotionally abusive person turned healer. He shares that abusers often employ grooming tactics like mirroring their victim’s interests to gain trust before turning the tables to exert control. I recount my personal battle with emotional abuse. I describe how sh…

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Moving out of a full life of toxic family 43:06

1M ago43:06

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Leaving a toxic upbringing and the dysfunctional family home can bring about anxiety, fear, and even loneliness. Trauma bonding is real. Childhood experiences deeply impact adult behaviors and coping strategies, often unsuited for adult relationships. Stepping into a new life after you've known nothing but the old has its own set of challenges.…

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Beginning to Heal 9:53

1M ago9:53

9:53

On this episode, I dive into healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse. This episode covers a few various perspectives and a toolkit for recognizing manipulative behaviors, setting personal boundaries, and nurturing self-love. Key takeaways from this episode: - Strategies to begin the healing process after abusive relationships - Understanding …

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How to “Lead From Center” and Create More Powerful Results in Your Life with Amy Balog 51:08

1M ago51:08

51:08

What does it mean to “lead from center”? It's a question that many high achievers ask themselves (or are asked of themselves), and it's a question that my guest today is going to help us answer. To Amy Balog, leading from center means being so in-tune with yourself -- knowing who you are, and what makes you tick -- that you're able to create amazin…

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Relationship challenges, insecurities, and questions 51:07

1M ago51:07

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Relationships shouldn't be hard, but we know they can be. When they are more challenging because of their issues, or ours, or both, it's helpful to find the glimmer of light to shine on a seemingly dark situation. In this episode, I answer three different types of relationship questions. From pining over an ex to jealousy to compatibility and more.…

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The Practice of Manifestation, Self Compassion, and Making a Difference with Colleen Patrick Goudreau 42:02

1M ago42:02

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Colleen Patrick Goudreau lives a life of compassion. She has compassion for animals, which influenced her to choose a vegan lifestyle (on which she is a leading authority). She has compassion for other people, which influenced the message she spreads to the world. And she has compassion for herself, which, through intentional practice, has allowed …

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The Three Faces of Your Partner in an Abusive Relationship 22:01

2M ago22:01

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Does it feel like you need to heal from multiple versions of one person? It can feel almost impossible to find acceptance and solace as you heal from a person that did not even truly exist. In this episode, I talk about healing from the love bomber, devaluer, and the unrecognizable stranger (which we sometimes see all in one day). I will cover the …

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What will you sacrifice to be happy? 31:06

2M ago31:06

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Sometimes, happiness requires a loss. Many people aren't willing to take that loss, which might be the very reason they are unhappy. Getting to happiness isn't always just doing what makes you happy. It can be deeper than that, and some people don't want to go there.By Paul Colaianni

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Why It's Okay to Not Be Over It Yet 10:35

2M ago10:35

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This episode delves into the emotions that surface when you can't seem to "get over" an abusive partner. It is so hard to move on from an abusive partner you have an attachment to. In this episode, I will discuss why understanding why it's challenging to move on from an abusive relationship, the societal pressures that make us feel like we should h…

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YES, You Can HAVE IT ALL! My Final Episode Of The Having It A.L.L. Podcast 22:39

2M ago22:39

22:39

Here we are, my friend. The final episode of Having It A.L.L.! It has been an awesome 8 years, and in today’s episode I’m going to share my thoughts, memories and takeaways with you all. Let’s do this! RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Get in touch with Matthew: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn about the YourDay Balance Game coaching programs: https://the…

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Know your worth 42:09

2M ago42:09

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Sometimes we have to make a tough choice and give someone the bad news about our next step. That next step? Could be telling your boss you quit or a partner you're leaving. Some people can't handle bad news so you may be hesitant to tell them. Or maybe you are afraid of their reaction so you procrastinate. After you listen to this episode, you'll k…

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Mastering The Game of Emotional Regulation 38:30

2M ago38:30

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What is emotional regulation and what part does it play in having it all? In today’s episode I’m diving deep into the world of emotional regulation and emotional intelligence because these two concepts (and their related parts) are critical components of living a self fulfilled life. Without a healthy level of emotional intelligence, it’s extremely…

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Trauma Bonding is Betrayal Trauma 16:19

2M ago16:19

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A trauma bond is not because you have shared trauma. On this episode, I delve into the often misunderstood concept of trauma bonds. Trauma bonds are not formed by shared traumatic experiences but rather through betrayal trauma within the cycle of abuse. This podcast aims to clarify what constitutes a trauma bond and offers insights on how you can b…

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The missing ingredient that can sometimes make or break a new relationship 58:12

2M ago58:12

58:12

Sometimes making new friends or romantic partners takes more than compatibility and similar values. There's an important ingredient to making connections at a deeper level and keeping those connections in your life. At the end of this episode, I share the results of a relationship survey I created. Where do many couples people meet? How do they mee…

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When you decide enough is enough - the first step isn't the last 17:44

2M ago17:44

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The victim of abusive behavior will eventually reach their breaking point. In that moment, they finally feel like they can take their life back. But they may still not be out of the woods yet during the transition from victim to empowered.By Paul Colaianni

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When You Understand THIS SIMPLE IDEA You Can IMPROVE ANY RELATIONSHIP! (HIA Classic) 44:54

2M ago44:54

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Can every relationship be improved? And if so, how would you actually do it?? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from my own personal life and the relationship experiences that I have crea…

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Reclaiming your inner voice with Amy Fielder 50:47

2M ago50:47

50:47

Amy Fielder joins us to deep dive into the complexities of trauma, emotional abuse recovery, and reclaiming your inner voice. We explore how to identify manipulative behaviors and set healthy boundaries, strategies for healing after an abusive relationship and rebuilding self-trust and tuning into your own emotions. This is a must-listen-to episode…

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The growing, compounding negative emotional energy building up inside you 38:20

2M ago38:20

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Unexpressed emotions can amplify inside you, causing you to build a tolerance for bad behaviors. What happens when you can't hold any more negative energy? Are you inadvertently building up resilience to things you should be addressing instead?By Paul Colaianni

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Borderline Personality Disorder 41:56

2M ago41:56

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You aren't sure if they are a Narcissist or not? Are they too emotional to be a Narcissist? Are you actually not sure what or who they are? If you are asking yourself these questions, this is the podcast for you. On this episode, we dive into a topic that is often scrutinized: BPD. Recognizing these stages allows one to understand what might seem i…

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