Best Paul Colaianni Podcasts (2024)

1
The Secret Consequences of Being Authentic and Transparent with Paul Colaianni 1:10:03

30m ago1:10:03

1:10:03

Paul Colaianni has not always led an authentic life. Experiences as a child taught him that authenticity and self expression were detrimental to his health and the health of those around him, so he bottled them up. The result was a life rife with unsteady relationships, frustration, and disillusionment. It wasn’t until facing the end of another rel…

1
What Recovery FEELS Like with Paul Colaianni 49:18

7d ago49:18

49:18

Today, Paul interviews me! Paul Colaianni brings his unique perspective as both a former emotionally abusive person turned healer. He shares that abusers often employ grooming tactics like mirroring their victim’s interests to gain trust before turning the tables to exert control. I recount my personal battle with emotional abuse. I describe how sh…

1
Can an unempathetic person develop empathy? 49:56

4m ago49:56

49:56

Relationships require empathy. Without it, you will have an imbalance that will not only feel lonely, but also emotionally toxic.By Paul Colaianni

1
How to Work with Me 16:32

1h ago16:32

16:32

Wondering how to work with me? This episode breaks it down. Support the Show. Website: Emotional Abuse Coach Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substak} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Response…

1
Igniting Your “Guttural Brushfire”: The Impact of Mission Statements, Powerful Words, and Unconditional Love with Sandy Chambers 1:00:51

3d ago1:00:51

1:00:51

What would your life look like if you were fully engaged? If you were living your life to the max? If you were experiencing a "guttural brushfire"? That’s the question that my guest today has been meditating on. Sandy Chambers is very close persona friend of mine and one of the most consciously mature people I know. She devours books, videos, podca…

1
Are You Becoming Like Them? 11:29

5h ago11:29

11:29

Do toxic relationships make you mirror abusive behaviors? In this episode, I explore a common question: am I just like them? I explore whether living with a narcissist or emotionally abusive partner can make us react in ways that feel out of character, just to survive. Key Takeaways: - Understanding reactive abuse and why it happens. - Strategies f…

1
Obsession and regret - when you just can't stop thinking about what happened 49:19

10m ago49:19

49:19

Why do obsessive thoughts take over our minds? What keeps them there? And why can't we stop them after they start? There are so many questions about something so pervasive and invasive that I try to answer in this episode. If you’re struggling to let go of past events and find yourself caught in cycles of regret and anger, I will help you get off t…

1
When they shower you with love after they've done bad behavior 49:33

1h ago49:33

49:33

How can you tell if your partner’s affection is genuine or a manipulation tactic? Love bombing usually takes place at the beginning of a relationship to create a strong bond between an abusive person and their victim. But it can also be used to get away with bad behavior in long-term relationships as well.…

1
"Co-parenting" with a Narcissist: Interview with Chantal Contorines 39:24

1h ago39:24

39:24

Chantal Contorines, a high conflict co-parenting coach and mentor, joins me to delve into the complexities of "co-parenting" with a Narcissist. We discuss strategies for being the best advocate for your child. In this episode, we address: The difficulty in truly co-parenting with a narcissist due to their inability to prioritize children over their…

1
How to Use Discontent to Create Your Finest Moments with Dianne Crampton 53:04

2h ago53:04

53:04

Have you experienced true discontent in your life? That’s totally a rhetorical question because if you’re alive then that means you’ve been in situations that you haven’t liked. The real question is, how did you handle those situations? My guest in today’s conversation is Dianne Crampton, and she would guess that you did one of three things: blamed…

1
The part of you that you don't want others to see 46:58

26m ago46:58

46:58

Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to show your true self to others? I explore how hiding parts of yourself can affect your relationships and what it takes to foster deeper emotional connections by embracing authenticity.By Paul Colaianni

1
Q & A Episode: Responding to Fan Mail Questions 14:51

6d ago14:51

14:51

This is an emotional and Narcissistic abuse Q and A episode. In this episode, I respond to questions sent through the FanMail option on my podcast host. I listeners' questions are answered regarding patterns of abusive behavior and seeking support outside family who may not understand the situation. Support the Show. Website: Emotional Abuse Coach …

1
Moving out of a full life of toxic family 43:06

8d ago43:06

43:06

Leaving a toxic upbringing and the dysfunctional family home can bring about anxiety, fear, and even loneliness. Trauma bonding is real. Childhood experiences deeply impact adult behaviors and coping strategies, often unsuited for adult relationships. Stepping into a new life after you've known nothing but the old has its own set of challenges.…

1
Beginning to Heal 9:53

13d ago9:53

9:53

On this episode, I dive into healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse. This episode covers a few various perspectives and a toolkit for recognizing manipulative behaviors, setting personal boundaries, and nurturing self-love. Key takeaways from this episode: - Strategies to begin the healing process after abusive relationships - Understanding …

1
How to “Lead From Center” and Create More Powerful Results in Your Life with Amy Balog 51:08

16d ago51:08

51:08

What does it mean to “lead from center”? It's a question that many high achievers ask themselves (or are asked of themselves), and it's a question that my guest today is going to help us answer. To Amy Balog, leading from center means being so in-tune with yourself -- knowing who you are, and what makes you tick -- that you're able to create amazin…

1
Relationship challenges, insecurities, and questions 51:07

24d ago51:07

51:07

Relationships shouldn't be hard, but we know they can be. When they are more challenging because of their issues, or ours, or both, it's helpful to find the glimmer of light to shine on a seemingly dark situation. In this episode, I answer three different types of relationship questions. From pining over an ex to jealousy to compatibility and more.…

1
The Practice of Manifestation, Self Compassion, and Making a Difference with Colleen Patrick Goudreau 42:02

13d ago42:02

42:02

Colleen Patrick Goudreau lives a life of compassion. She has compassion for animals, which influenced her to choose a vegan lifestyle (on which she is a leading authority). She has compassion for other people, which influenced the message she spreads to the world. And she has compassion for herself, which, through intentional practice, has allowed …

1
The Three Faces of Your Partner in an Abusive Relationship 22:01

14d ago22:01

22:01

Does it feel like you need to heal from multiple versions of one person? It can feel almost impossible to find acceptance and solace as you heal from a person that did not even truly exist. In this episode, I talk about healing from the love bomber, devaluer, and the unrecognizable stranger (which we sometimes see all in one day). I will cover the …

1
What will you sacrifice to be happy? 31:06

1M ago31:06

31:06

Sometimes, happiness requires a loss. Many people aren't willing to take that loss, which might be the very reason they are unhappy. Getting to happiness isn't always just doing what makes you happy. It can be deeper than that, and some people don't want to go there.By Paul Colaianni

1
Why It's Okay to Not Be Over It Yet 10:35

1M ago10:35

10:35

This episode delves into the emotions that surface when you can't seem to "get over" an abusive partner. It is so hard to move on from an abusive partner you have an attachment to. In this episode, I will discuss why understanding why it's challenging to move on from an abusive relationship, the societal pressures that make us feel like we should h…

1
YES, You Can HAVE IT ALL! My Final Episode Of The Having It A.L.L. Podcast 22:39

28d ago22:39

22:39

Here we are, my friend. The final episode of Having It A.L.L.! It has been an awesome 8 years, and in today’s episode I’m going to share my thoughts, memories and takeaways with you all. Let’s do this! RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Get in touch with Matthew: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn about the YourDay Balance Game coaching programs: https://the…

1
Know your worth 42:09

24d ago42:09

42:09

Sometimes we have to make a tough choice and give someone the bad news about our next step. That next step? Could be telling your boss you quit or a partner you're leaving. Some people can't handle bad news so you may be hesitant to tell them. Or maybe you are afraid of their reaction so you procrastinate. After you listen to this episode, you'll k…

1
Mastering The Game of Emotional Regulation 38:30

27d ago38:30

38:30

What is emotional regulation and what part does it play in having it all? In today’s episode I’m diving deep into the world of emotional regulation and emotional intelligence because these two concepts (and their related parts) are critical components of living a self fulfilled life. Without a healthy level of emotional intelligence, it’s extremely…

1
Trauma Bonding is Betrayal Trauma 16:19

28d ago16:19

16:19

A trauma bond is not because you have shared trauma. On this episode, I delve into the often misunderstood concept of trauma bonds. Trauma bonds are not formed by shared traumatic experiences but rather through betrayal trauma within the cycle of abuse. This podcast aims to clarify what constitutes a trauma bond and offers insights on how you can b…

1
The missing ingredient that can sometimes make or break a new relationship 58:12

2M ago58:12

58:12

Sometimes making new friends or romantic partners takes more than compatibility and similar values. There's an important ingredient to making connections at a deeper level and keeping those connections in your life. At the end of this episode, I share the results of a relationship survey I created. Where do many couples people meet? How do they mee…

1
When you decide enough is enough - the first step isn't the last 17:44

1M ago17:44

17:44

The victim of abusive behavior will eventually reach their breaking point. In that moment, they finally feel like they can take their life back. But they may still not be out of the woods yet during the transition from victim to empowered.By Paul Colaianni

1
When You Understand THIS SIMPLE IDEA You Can IMPROVE ANY RELATIONSHIP! (HIA Classic) 44:54

1M ago44:54

44:54

Can every relationship be improved? And if so, how would you actually do it?? Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor. This episode pulls from my own personal life and the relationship experiences that I have crea…

1
Reclaiming your inner voice with Amy Fielder 50:47

2M ago50:47

50:47

Amy Fielder joins us to deep dive into the complexities of trauma, emotional abuse recovery, and reclaiming your inner voice. We explore how to identify manipulative behaviors and set healthy boundaries, strategies for healing after an abusive relationship and rebuilding self-trust and tuning into your own emotions. This is a must-listen-to episode…

1
The growing, compounding negative emotional energy building up inside you 38:20

2M ago38:20

38:20

Unexpressed emotions can amplify inside you, causing you to build a tolerance for bad behaviors. What happens when you can't hold any more negative energy? Are you inadvertently building up resilience to things you should be addressing instead?By Paul Colaianni

1
Borderline Personality Disorder 41:56

2M ago41:56

41:56

You aren't sure if they are a Narcissist or not? Are they too emotional to be a Narcissist? Are you actually not sure what or who they are? If you are asking yourself these questions, this is the podcast for you. On this episode, we dive into a topic that is often scrutinized: BPD. Recognizing these stages allows one to understand what might seem i…

1
Jumping to conclusions and overreacting 31:59

2M ago31:59

31:59

There's a good reason to manage emotional triggers to prevent damaging reactions in relationships. In this episode, I share a five-step process to visualize and prepare for these moments. There are long-term consequences when you're always jumping to conclusions and reacting to things that, perhaps, aren't as bad as you think.…

1
From Victim to Victor: A Conversation About Overcoming Adversity, Redefining Privilege and Creating Change with Brian Thomas 1:23:12

2M ago1:23:12

1:23:12

Which of life’s circumstances do you feel a victim to? There was a time in my guest's life when his answer to this question might have been very lengthy. In today’s episode I’m bringing you a conversation I had with my friend, Brian Thomas. Brian is an author, husband, father, and a man who is boldly choosing to have it all in his life. When Brian …

1
Recognizing and Resisting Manipulation 18:06

2M ago18:06

18:06

Emotional manipulation often wears a disguise; it's subtle, insidious, and frequently masquerades as care or concern. In this episode, I discuss how manipulators tend to play down their actions by focusing on intentions rather than consequences. But here's the TL:DR: impact trumps intent every time. If someone continually hurts you under the guise …

1
Fool me three times, uh, shame on you again 36:35

2M ago36:35

36:35

How many chances should you give someone before you realize that chances are only delaying the inevitable? Whether it's a friend, family member or partner, some people won't change. And when they won't, we may have to in order to find more peace and happiness in our lives.By Paul Colaianni

1
Treat Him Like A King, Treat Her Like A Queen: A Conversation About Fully Loving, Honoring and Supporting Your Partner (HIA Classic) 1:40:19

2M ago1:40:19

1:40:19

What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen? As Sarah and I have grown in our marriage, the concept of treating one another as a King and Queen has grown as well. At first the idea brought up our own issues with self worth, love and relationship roles. But today, we both powerfully fill our roles of King and Queen respective…

1
Co-Parenting with Grace: Navigating Difficult Waters with Kind Mama Coaching 1:04:56

2M ago1:04:56

1:04:56

Co-parenting with a high-conflict ex can be one of the most challenging tasks a parent may face. It requires patience, communication, and above all else, an unwavering focus on the well-being of your child. Tessa from Kind Mama Coaching joins us to discuss her new childrens book, Stella's Two Homes, and strategies for co-parenting with a difficult …

1
You hurt me and now I want you to hurt... forever 54:08

2M ago54:08

54:08

When you hurt someone, whether intentionally or not, there are several things that could happen: Maybe they forgive you, maybe they don't. Maybe they are willing to move on. Maybe they take a while to heal but eventually come around. Maybe they never want to talk to you again. Or maybe, just maybe, they want to hurt you back just to make you feel a…

1
Q&A Episode with Jessica Knight 22:48

2M ago22:48

22:48

In this episode, I answer pressing questions related to overcoming trauma bonds, whether abusive relationships can be salvaged post-trauma bond, recognizing final straws in leaving toxic relationships, coping with cognitive dissonance, returning items post-breakup while maintaining no contact, handling lack of accountability from abusers, interpret…

Podcasts Worth a Listen

Paul Colaianni Podcasts

Podcasts Worth a Listen

Quick Reference Guide