Ep #320: What’s Wrong with “Wellness”

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#320: Have you noticed how "wellness" has become more about expensive supplements and exclusive retreats than actual healing?

It's time we had an honest conversation about how the wellness industry has been hijacked by capitalism and privilege, leaving behind the very people who need healing most.

In this week's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the wellness industrial complex and offering a different vision - one that's rooted in accessibility, community care, and genuine healing.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/320

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Ep #320: What’s Wrong with “Wellness”

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#320: Have you noticed how "wellness" has become more about expensive supplements and exclusive retreats than actual healing?

It's time we had an honest conversation about how the wellness industry has been hijacked by capitalism and privilege, leaving behind the very people who need healing most.

In this week's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the wellness industrial complex and offering a different vision - one that's rooted in accessibility, community care, and genuine healing.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/320

Mentioned in this episode:

Free Upcoming Workshop

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#298: Are you tired of feeling like a doormat in your relationships? But are you also scared of being perceived as a jerk if you stop people-pleasing and start setting boundaries? What’s the secret to being loving and supportive without abandoning yourself in the process? This week, I dive deep into the difference between being considerate and codependent. You'll learn how to recognize when you're engaging in emotional outsourcing, how to start setting boundaries that protect your energy and well-being, and how you can show up for others from a place of genuine care instead of obligation or fear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/298 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #297: Nervous System Reset 21:16

30 weeks ago21:16

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#297: Have you heard of the "nervous system reset"? It's a popular idea these days, but is it really possible to erase the impact of trauma with the push of an imaginary button? In this episode, I dive deep into the science of trauma and the nervous system to explain why the notion of a reset is not only inaccurate, but potentially harmful. I explore what trauma really is, how it shapes our nervous system, and what true healing involves. (Spoiler alert: it's not about eliminating our experiences, but integrating them.) Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/297 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #296: All About Anchored with Ali Zamora 33:41

31 weeks ago33:41

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#296: Are you ready to radically change your life through self-love and healing? In this week's episode, Ali Zamora shares her transformative journey of overcoming codependency and depression by trusting her intuition and embracing embodiment practices. Ali discusses how the foundational tools she learned in my Anchored program equipped her to navigate the layers of healing and step into her most authentic self. If you've been struggling with emotional outsourcing, perfectionism, or people-pleasing, this episode will inspire you to start questioning everything and create the life you truly desire. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/296 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #295: Ultimatums vs. Boundaries & Challenging Conversations: Listener Q&A 46:45

32 weeks ago46:45

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#295: Have you ever wondered what the differences between an ultimatum and a boundary are, and which might be the better choice? What do you do when you’re having a challenging conversation with someone and they go quiet, leaving you feeling freaked out and anxious? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, I offer my answers to these questions and show you how to regulate your nervous system from a place of compassion and curiosity while holding space for those you love. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/295 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Stop Overfunctioning Webinar October 15th, 2024 @ 8pm ET 3:20

32 weeks ago3:20

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Are you done doing too much for everyone else (then resenting them), and putting yourself last? It’s time to step into a life where you’re no longer overriding your needs, on the verge of burnout, and feeling completely disconnected from your own self. If you’re ready to start building relationships with more authenticity and less one sided overfunctioning (even if that means some relationships aren’t ready to evolve with you)… join me on Tuesday, October 15th at 8pm ET for a free all new webinar called Stop Overfunctioning! Register today: https://victoriaalbina.com/stop-overfunctioning/…

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Ep #294: Getting Anchored with Hedy 40:53

33 weeks ago40:53

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#294: I am so thrilled to be joined this week by my Anchored alum Hedy, a full-time job-haver, a full-time mom, and a dog mom. After joining Anchored, she describes the growth she has seen in her life since as profound. Hedy took a chance on herself, said yes, and learning how her life has changed on the other side of Anchored is the medicine we all need right now. Tune in today to hear Hedy’s story of letting go of control, perfectionism, and codependency in a community that met her where she was, so she could change where she was. Hedy shares how she improved the way she shows up in relationship with others, learned to live in her body, and she vulnerably dives into using the lessons she learned in Anchored long after she left. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/294 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #293: Bracing Tolerance vs. Intentional Tolerance 19:06

34 weeks ago19:06

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#293: Do you find yourself constantly accommodating others at the expense of your own needs and desires? In this episode of Feminist Wellness, we explore the profound shift from bracing tolerance to intentional tolerance in the healing journey out of emotional outsourcing. Tune in to discover how you can cultivate a grounded presence and emotional resilience, so you can thrive in life without losing yourself in the process. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/293 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #292: How to Break the Self-Abandonment Cycle 28:03

35 weeks ago28:03

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#292: Most people think that if they’ve been living at one extreme of always saying yes, they need to swing to the other extreme of always saying no and become wildly independent. But that’s no way to be in a loving, caring relationship. The magic lies somewhere in the middle, and it starts by making the choice to no longer self-abandon, which takes a whole lot of self-love. Join me this week to learn my roadmap for breaking free from the self-abandonment cycle and embracing a life of greater interdependence. You’ll hear how to use somatics and thought work to manage difficult emotions, the importance of setting boundaries, and concrete tools for interrupting this cycle so you can reclaim your authentic sense of self. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/292 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #291: Break the Self-Abandonment Cycle and Reclaim Your Authentic Self 30:11

36 weeks ago30:11

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#291: Many of us have received messages from society that our authentic, most real, and embodied selves are simply not okay. What’s logical is for us to step away from being that person out in the world. In this episode, I dive deep into the self-abandonment cycle that many of us find ourselves trapped in. Join me this week to learn why you might be stuck in a self-abandonment cycle, and the somatic impact of over-functioning in your life. You’ll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors, how the self-abandonment cycle manifests, and questions that will help you begin to recognize it in your own life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/291 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #290: Getting Anchored with Mary Angione 36:29

37 weeks ago36:29

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#290: Mary is a high school teacher with a passion for mind-body science who joined my program, Anchored, looking for a greater sense of ease and confidence, especially as she contemplated a big career transition. This week, Mary is sharing how the inner work she did in Anchored is helping her navigate uncertainty with grace and dream bigger for her life and career. Tune in to hear how our work together has impacted Mary's family system, what it’s really like to be coached in a group, and the transformations Mary is continuing to experience as an alum. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/290 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #289: Embracing the Grey Area: Breaking Free from the All-or-Nothing Trap 36:36

38 weeks ago36:36

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#289: Why does it feel so cozy to think in extremes? All-or-nothing thinking limits the possibilities available to us and is a habit we can fall into without ever realizing it. That’s why this week, I challenge you to step out of your own unintentional thinking and start seeing the glorious, grey middle ground that will help you create a life you love. Join me this week to learn why you might be spinning in all-or-nothing thinking and how to break free. I show you what happens when you buy into all-or-nothing thinking, why it both fuels and is fueled by emotional outsourcing tendencies, and practical remedies that will help you take a more nuanced approach to life Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/289 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #288: Remedies for Shame 26:18

39 weeks ago26:18

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#288: We can’t heal hurt with more hurt, so when life feels way too life-y and you’re spiraling in your shame stories, this is the tool you can lean on to introduce a little gray into those negative thoughts. Join me on this episode to hear what my GRACE protocol entails, and how it will shift you out of the story that says shame is who you are, into an identity where shame has just been a part of your history. I show you how to systematically recognize and shift out of the shame identity, so you can foster a healthier, more resilient self-concept. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/288 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #287: Shame, the Nervous System, and Emotional Outsourcing: Exploring the Interconnections 22:17

40 weeks ago22:17

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#287: Understanding how shame embeds itself in our emotional outsourcing tendencies is super important if we are to shake free of it and step into interdependence. That's why this week I'm exploring how shame takes root in our formative years and becomes intertwined with our sense of self-worth and identity. Join me as I outline the complex and often hidden nature of shame, and how it can drive codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing behaviors. You’ll learn the somatic and psychological manifestations of shame, the role of the nervous system in responding to shame, and the importance of cultivating a more supportive relationship with yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/287 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #286: How to Optimize Your Genes to Transform Your Health with Dr. Tyler Panzner 59:01

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#286: One of the biggest themes we talk about on Feminist Wellness is living an intentional life where you’re tuned into what’s happening in your body, mind, spirit, and world. The vital next layer to this is slowing down enough to pay attention to the minutia of your life, and that includes your genes. Dr. Tyler Panzner is a Ph.D. scientist turned holistic genetic health coach. Join us this week as Dr. Panzner walks us through the role our genetics play in our emotional, physical, and mental wellness. We explore what Holistic Genetic Health Optimization entails, his insights on supplements, and how Dr. Panzner can help you feel less "blah" each day of your important life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/286 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Mega-Super-Awesome Birthday Giveaway! 2:44

41 weeks ago2:44

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My tender ravioli! It’s my birthday!! We are celebrating Leo Season on the Feminist Wellness Podcast and we’re doing a giveaway to mark the occasion! Help other folks find this free resource by leaving a rating and review! In turn—and because Leo's love giving gifts—I would like to thank you for taking the time! All you have to do to receive your free (can't get this any other way) sleep meditation— is leave a rating & review! Then take a little screenshot and email it to us at support@victoriaalbina.com. Need help with the steps to leave a review? Head to victoriaalbina.com/birthday ! Happy Leo Season!…

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Ep #285: How to Overcome the Habit of Catastrophizing 24:26

42 weeks ago24:26

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#285: Does life feel like a series of urgent problems that must be solved immediately? When stress, chaos, worry, and drama are your norm, it feels cozy to stay in this place. But the truth is staying in this belief only creates more stress and drama in your life. Tune in this week to learn why you might be in the habit of creating problems in your mind where there aren’t any, and how the work of self-trust is in learning to rewrite this experience. Discover my favorite reframe tool for gaining perspective on your perceived problems, and what happens when you break the habit of catastrophizing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/285 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #284: The Relationship Between Conflict Avoidance and Emotional Outsourcing 33:48

43 weeks ago33:48

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#284: When we say we hate and avoid conflict, what we really mean is that we fear direct and honest conversations. If having what could be a loving disagreement feels like a pit of despair in your body, you’re not alone, and I’m sharing my favorite remedies with you this week. Discover how emotional outsourcing habits can make conflict aversion worse, and eight ways you might be unknowingly causing stress in your relationships. You’ll learn the root cause behind conflict aversion, why you conflate self-advocating with conflict, and how showing yourself compassion can steer you in a new direction. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/284 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #283: A Protocol for Becoming Securely Attached with Thais Gibson 48:09

44 weeks ago48:09

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#283: Does becoming someone with a secure attachment style seem like a pipe dream? What if I told you that it’s totally feasible? This week, I’m joined by a leading expert in attachment theory, Thais Gibson, who is sharing the five major components that will help you recondition your attachment style. Learn where our attachment style comes from, how to get into a space of healing your subconscious programming, and the science behind reenactment cycles in your relationships. You'll hear Thais’ favorite three-step tool for beginning to heal your old core wounds, and so much more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/283 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #282: Stepping Out of the Rescuer Role 36:24

45 weeks ago36:24

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#282: The rescuer mentality is a fascinating byproduct of codependency. It’s a habit many of us learned in childhood. For some of us, rescuing was a smart way to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe, but the truly loving choice in our relationships is to foster an interdependent way of living. Tune in this week to learn why we fall into the rescue trap and how recognizing this tendency is key to healing emotional outsourcing habits. We’ll explore the critical differences between rescuing and supporting, practical tools that will help you shed the rescuer role, and how supporting others fosters interdependence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/282 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #281: Interdependence with Billey Albina 37:04

46 weeks ago37:04

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#281: The bedrock of interdependence is mutuality and reciprocity, which, when put together, allow us to be our fullest selves. Practicing interdependence with my wife, Billey, has been one of the greatest learning experiences of my life, so who better to discuss it with this week than her? Join Billey and me as we explore the differences between codependence and interdependence, and share our advice for creating mutuality and reciprocity in your relationships. We’re touching on the importance of setting boundaries and limits, how resentment erodes trust, and how to identify if you’re living in codependence or interdependence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/281 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #280: Can Somatic Practices Help If I Don’t Have Trauma? 26:53

47 weeks ago26:53

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#280: It’s easy to talk about somatics solely within the context of stress, distress, and trauma, but the applications of this practice extend far beyond trauma. In fact, healing trauma wasn't my goal at all when I started doing somatics work! In this episode, I'm showing you how this somatics can help you, even if you haven’t identified some big bad wolf wreaking havoc on your life. Join me to hear why the practice of mindful body awareness benefits everybody, how somatics act as a bridge that connects you to a deeper understanding of yourself, and some of my favorite practical applications of somatics that you can begin trying in your everyday life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/280 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #279: The Somatic Studio: Coming Home to Yourself with Kyra Sutherland 39:32

48 weeks ago39:32

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#279: For the longest time, I thought I was the only one rolling around in my emotional outsourcing, completely disconnected from my body. The truth is we often disconnect from our bodies as a way to get through life, and I designed The Somatic Studio to show folks how to use body-based practices to establish stronger connections to their magical selves. This week, I'm sharing a delightful conversation I had with a recent member of The Somatic Studio, Kyra Sutherland, who is here to tell us about the discoveries and healing she experienced there. We discuss how the brain-body disconnect was showing up for Kyra, the beauty of becoming aware of your patterns, and how the community aspect of The Somatic Studio has been the greatest gift. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/279 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #278: Embodiment (Part 3) 24:02

49 weeks ago24:02

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#278: Losing touch with the ability to tune into and trust your bodily signals, especially in the context of emotional outsourcing, is super common. In parts one and two of this mini-series, we’ve defined embodiment and some reasons for struggling to cultivate it. This week, as always, it’s time for the remedies. By engaging in practices that nurture our physical presence, we can enhance our ability to live more fully in our bodies, and I’ve got some simple strategies to get you started. Join me as I outline five key ways disconnecting from yourself manifests in emotional outsourcing, and learn my favorite remedies for beginning to bring yourself back into embodiment. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/278 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #277: Embodiment (Part 2) 30:25

50 weeks ago30:25

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#277: We can have different levels of embodiment and self-attunement at different times and in different settings, but how do you know when you are disembodied ? In this episode, I share some subtle signs that you may not be as embodied as you could be, and what can happen when you truly start paying attention to your body. Discover some reasons you want to cultivate embodiment, and how to reconnect with your capacity to be at home with and in yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/277 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #276: Embodiment (Part 1) 23:08

51 weeks ago23:08

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#276: I love talking about embodiment because it’s truly the most life-changing thing in my practice. It's a multifaceted concept that integrates psychological, physiological, and social dimensions that shape the way we inhabit and experience our bodies. It behooves us to recognize and understand what it means to be embodied, and we’re starting today. Tune in this week as I explore an inclusive and comprehensive definition of what it means to be embodied. You’ll hear why choicefulness is the greatest gift of embodiment, how our bodily experiences are deeply political in nature, and the power of somatic practices in reconnecting with embodiment. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/276 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #275: Embracing Safety 28:53

52 weeks ago28:53

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#275: Emotional outsourcing develops as a survival skill in response to a felt or experienced lack of belonging and safety during our developmental years. If you have a cellular understanding of the world as a dangerous place, you might experience intense moments of stress, distress, and trauma. The antidote? Cultivating a sense of safety from within. Listen in this week to learn what happens when nervous system safety is lacking, how it impacts everything from our relationships to our physical well-being, and practical remedies that will help you cultivate a regulated nervous system that brings you greater calm and clarity. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/275 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #274: The Cost of Being Defensive 40:17

1 year ago40:17

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#274: Defensiveness is a protective mechanism embedded in our evolutionary history that we can be grateful for, but it can also be painful to you and those you’re in relationship with. What can you do to step out of this deeply ingrained habit? Tune in this week to learn where defensiveness stems from and how to cultivate patience and compassion towards yourself and others when it shows up. I’m showing you the connection between defensiveness and self-esteem, why thought work often isn’t enough to stop this habit, and my favorite remedies for reducing the impulsivity of your defensive responses. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/274 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #273: The Regret Trap: Why You Dwell on the Past and How to Stop 37:20

1 year ago37:20

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#273: How often do you find yourself mired in stories filled with past regrets? Thinking about "what could have been" may feel constructive, but on the podcast this week, I'm exploring why these thought patterns don't serve you the way you think they do. Tune in this week to learn why regret doesn’t change a darn thing, and how living in regret is a form of self-abandonment. You’ll hear how staying stuck in regret doesn’t save you from old patterns, what becomes possible when you ditch regret for good, and most importantly, my four-step remedy for beginning to heal regret. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/273 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #272: Misguided Compassion 30:54

1 year ago30:54

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#272: If you find yourself exhausted from overextending yourself, stuck in relationships that feel one-sided, or even helping others in an attempt to ease your own discomfort, it might be time to rethink how you express compassion. This week, I'm offering a new lens through which to examine your actions, which I like to call "misguided compassion." Tune in to learn how misguided compassion can highlight our tendencies in emotional outsourcing, but also offer us the opportunity to find balance. You'll learn some common signs you may be engaging in misguided compassion and my favorite remedies for breaking free from it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/272 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #271: Befriending Rest 31:37

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#271: If you relate to my definition of emotional outsourcing tendencies, the thought of giving yourself true rest likely hasn’t crossed your mind in a hot minute. But have you ever wondered what it would be like to just call it and decide you’re not going to push through when your internal world is screaming for a break? Tune in this week to hear the importance of befriending rest and the alternative to pushing through when your brain and body say no. I’m sharing a list of questions you can use to check in with yourself when you hear that internal nudge, and my favorite tools to borrow when you need a break but don’t have the privilege of ignoring your responsibilities. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/271 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #270: Interdependence: The Healthy Power of Needing Each Other 27:52

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#270: In a world where codependence and independence are posited as the only two options for how we can show up, you’re not alone if you feel a sense of tension in either way of being. Interdependence offers a healthy middle ground to these extremes, but what does interdependence actually look like, and how do we practice it? Tune in to this episode to learn the differences between codependent relating and interdependence, and why interdependence in relationships feels so much better. I’m showing you what interdependence really looks like, both in relationship with yourself and others, and two pieces of homework that will help you begin moving the needle toward interdependence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/270 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #269: Support Your Nervous System During Worrying Times 32:23

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#269: There are a lot of things in the world right now that we could tell worried stories around, and our nervous systems jump to worry because they’re here to protect us. But the truth is, worry never accomplishes anything. Taking action, on the other hand, does. If you want to get out of the habit of worrying and release your nervous system from this uncomfortable feeling, then today’s episode is for you. Tune in for a replay of one of our most valuable episodes where you’ll learn why worrying is always optional and I help you recognize where being stuck in the habit of worrying is holding you back in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/269 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #268: When Thought Work Becomes Self-Criticism: How to Escape the Spiral 40:08

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#268: If you’ve been doing thought work for a while and have noticed yourself ruminating, or your thoughts moving into the land of self-criticism, you’re not alone. I've been there and so have many of my clients. Today, I want to offer a gentle reminder about the power of reconnecting to our physical bodies in our self development work. In this episode, I’m sharing the reasons why our connection with our bodies’ deep intelligence is crucial as we learn to reclaim our presence and regulate our nervous systems. You’ll learn how to rebuild your somatic connection by honoring your biological impulses, and helpful questions to ask yourself to get out of your head and back into your body. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/268 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #267: The False Protective Mechanism of Taking Things Personally 44:39

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#267: Whether you find yourself moving through the world chronically offended, or know someone who does, taking things personally is super exhausting. Feeling criticized hurts, it keeps us out of presence, and it sows discord in all of our relationships. So why then do we do it? And how can we step out of this habit? Join me this week to hear why you might be in the habit of taking things personally and how to stop. I’m showing you why taking things personally is a common survival tool for emotional outsourcers, how we unwittingly create drama when we take things personally, and remedies that will help you step out of this habit and build a more supportive, loving sense of self. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/267 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #266: Real-Life Coaching from Anchored: Overcoming Codependency 49:45

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#266: This week, I’m bringing you a live coaching call with one of my amazing clients inside my six-month program, Anchored: Overcoming Codependency. If you’ve ever wondered what goes on inside Anchored and what the coaching in this program looks like, this episode is for you. I’m taking my wonderful client Kelly through the thought work protocol and the somatics model we use inside the program to connect with our bodies, inner children, and inner emotional parts. Tune in to experience the kind of support you'll get inside Anchored, and see what it can look like to start releasing your codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/266 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #265: When Emotional Outsourcing Becomes a Habit in Relationship 39:02

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#265: Something I hear quite often from folks is that while they feel really solid in their independence when they’re alone, their emotional outsourcing tendencies seem to suddenly get amplified as soon as they're in relationship, especially romantic relationship. Why does this happen? Join me this week as I explore the crossfire between our independence and our almost desperate need to connect with and please others. I'll share some of the psychological factors at play that lead to a heightened sense of codependence and people-pleasing inside relationships and my favorite remedies for stepping out of the shadow of old habits and into the light of self-awareness. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/265 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #264: Coregulation and the Keys to Relating Well in Love and Life with Maggie Reyes 51:19

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#264: Did you know that the health of some of your most important bodily systems – from your nervous system to your reproductive function – is impacted by how loved, safe, and secure you feel in the world? Relating is one of the most vital parts of being a human, and this week, I'm joined by Master Life Coach and self-proclaimed relationship nerd Maggie Reyes to discuss how to do it better. Listen in as Maggie and I dive into the importance of cultivating coregulation in our relationships, what it means to relate to others with gentle loving kindness, and why our nervous systems are at optimal function when we’re relating well. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/264 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #263: The Role of Platonic Love in Our Wellness with My Friends Suneye, Jules, and Juana 58:42

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#263: We can’t end this month of love without touching on one of the most vital ways we sustain ourselves: platonic love. This week, I’m introducing you to several of my closest friends – Suneye, Jules, and Juana – and we're exploring why our friendships are the perfect playground to practice healthy relating. Join us as we discuss why you should consider who you’re keeping in your circles, the power of treating your friends like your most beloved family, and how to release the story that it’s hard to make friends as an adult. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/263 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #262: The First Step in Healing: Choosing Self-Love with Lashonda Payne 35:39

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#262: My guest this week has a story that is truly emblematic of what’s possible when you choose you. Like so many people in helping professions, Lashonda Payne was noticing some emotional outsourcing patterns in her life until she decided she needed support. By joining our Anchored community, almost-doctor Lashonda showed herself the power of self-love and unconditional care, and she’s offering the gifts that have come from doing this work on this episode. Join us this week as Lashonda and I discuss why emotional outsourcing is a norm for people in helping professions, how this work has impacted Lashonda’s relationships, and the importance of choosing self-love as you embark on a journey of healing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/262 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #261: The 6 Rules of Fair Fighting with Billey Albina 57:25

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#261: I have the most special treat for you this week! I am finally and with so much pride introducing you to my wife, Billey Albina. There is so much in how Billey and I interact that demonstrates the full embodiment of living in interdependence, and I know that sharing about our relationship will be helpful for all of you who want to free yourselves from co-dependency and people-pleasing. Tune in this week to hear Billey and I share about our love, our interdependence, and how we keep our relationship a safe and loving place for both of us. We walk through our six ground rules for fair fighting, how we handle conflict with each other, and the various tools we use to communicate effectively. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/261 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #260: Receiving Compliments, Giving Consent, and Being Seen with Danielle Savory 58:40

1 year ago58:40

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#260: For many of us folks raised as women with people-pleasing tendencies, receiving compliments can feel like danger in the body. Even when the person’s intention is good, it can still leave us feeling exposed and uncomfortable. To discuss why this happens and what we can do about it, I’m joined by my friend, Master-Certified Sex and Pleasure Coach Danielle Savory. Danielle and I discuss why receiving compliments, attention, and care can sometimes feel uncomfortable, and the power of asking for and giving consent in these conversations. Tune in to learn what is happening somatically when we are expected to receive, the connection between feeling safe and being seen, and why you can’t bypass the brain when bringing mindfulness to the body. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/260 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #259: How to Create an Epic, Settle-Proof Love Life with Lily Womble 40:03

1 year ago40:03

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#259: The modern dating experience can be incredibly isolating, but you’re definitely not alone if you feel like you’re struggling. My guest today, Lily Womble, is an intersectional feminist dating coach who’s here to break down the seemingly endless list of dumb dating rules we're fed today so we can actually create the epic, healthy love life we all want. Lily Womble is the founder and CEO of Date Brazen: a company that helps badass feminist humans build joyful dating lives that make their right relationship inevitable. Join us on this episode as we explore what it means to take back our agency in dating, the importance of practicing self-compassion, and Lily’s intersectional feminist approach to settle-proofing your love life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/259 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #258: Needing to Be Needed 38:07

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#258: How often do you catch yourself acting selflessly in an attempt to feel valued? You're not alone. Lots of us build our identity around the ways we're needed by others, sometimes without realizing it. Unfortunately, while feeling needed can temporarily satisfy a longing for connection or validation, this dependency creates a cycle of negativity that stands between us and true interdependence. So how can we define a new version of ourselves? Join me this week to discover the true cost of needing to be needed, how you might be using your selflessness story as a cloak against taking responsibility, and my favorite remedies for beginning to step away from this story. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/258 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #257: Unearthing the Buried: Understanding and Healing from a ‘Sweep-It-Under-The-Rug’ Upbringing 37:36

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#257: Do you find yourself feeling confused or frustrated in situations that demand an emotional response? How did it come to be this way, and what can we do to reconnect with our feelings? Avoidance of emotions in adulthood tends to overlap with an upbringing in which a "sweep-it-under-the-rug" philosophy was modeled, and this emotional silence leaves a profound and long-lasting imprint on us. Join me this week to learn the biological and psychological implications of growing up in an environment of emotional suppression, and how we can begin the process of emotional repair. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/257 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #256: Somatics, Sex, and Embodiment with Honeydew Me 1:02:58

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#256: I’ve had the honor of being a regular contributor to the Honeydew Me Podcast, hosted by Emma Norman and Cass Anderson. I was recently on the show to dive deep into somatics, sex, and feeling our feelings, and it was such a great conversation that I’m sharing that episode with you here. At Honeydew Me, Emma and Cass’s mission is to have conversations about mind-blowing orgasms, feeling confident in the bedroom, and busting through the shame of it all. Tune in as Emma, Cass and I explore why the work of somatics matters so much, and why we get somatically disconnected in the first place. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/256 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #255: Embracing Your Values: A Journey Beyond Codependency, Perfectionism, and People Pleasing 37:42

1 year ago37:42

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#255: Our values offer us a sense of authenticity, which is critical for overcoming our emotional outsourcing habits. But embracing our values isn't just personal. It’s also a radical act of transformation in the face of systemic challenges like patriarchy and coloniality. So if embracing our values is so important, why do we often struggle to do it? Join me this week to learn why being guided by your values matters, what happens when you begin living by your values, and some of my favorite remedies for identifying and embracing them. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/255 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #254: Reframing New Year’s Resolutions for More Self-Love, Connection, and Healing in 2024 25:17

1 year ago25:17

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#254: Many of us engage in the ritual of New Year’s resolutions without really questioning it. It’s just what we do, right? But this tradition may not be as supportive of your overall wellness as you think. This week, I’m inviting you to consider how you’re using New Year’s resolutions, and whether you want to continue with this ritual. Join me as I tease apart the practice of New Year's resolutions and help you assess how it's impacting you. You’ll learn how we tend to use New Year’s resolutions to beat ourselves up, why they often don’t last, and the keys to setting and keeping them in 2024. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/254 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #253: Of Course They Did: A Tool for Dropping Judgment and Finding Acceptance 14:59

1 year ago14:59

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#253: Whether you’re with your family of origin, your partner’s family, or your chosen family this holiday season, there’s one thing families are known for: pushing our buttons. To help you navigate the holidays with more peace and ease this year, I’m sharing one of my favorite tools for dealing with your beloved button-pushers, and it’s called Of Course They Did! If you often find yourself wishing the people in your life were different, even though they’re doing exactly what they’ve always historically done, this is the episode for you. Join me this week to learn what Of Course They Did entails, and how it gives you a moment of pause to ground yourself and remember how you want to think, feel, act, and be in this world. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/253 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #252: What to Expect When You Come Out of Functional Freeze 44:18

1 year ago44:18

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#252: Lately on the podcast, we've been exploring the state of functional freeze – what it is, how it came to be, and how to shift out of it. If functional freeze has been your default for a while, you may notice some uncomfortable feelings crop up when you step out of it. That's why today I'll be helping you understand what happens internally once you emerge from functional freeze, and my top tips for adapting to your evolving self. Join me this week to learn how moving out of functional freeze is a journey of rediscovering healing, why it’s often filled with challenges but also growth, and how to be kind to yourself as you find your way back to a deeper, more connected, grounded you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/252 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #251: Thought Work & Somatics: Taking Back Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil 37:35

1 year ago37:35

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#251: Kara Loewentheil is the internationally-renowned host of the Unf*ck Your Brain podcast and author of the forthcoming book Take Back Your Brain. She helps women identify and disrupt the destructive narratives society has taught us to think about ourselves, and she’s here this week to dive into what it means to take back your brain. Join us on this episode as we dive into the thought work tool and the practice of somatics, and how both of these lenses are pivotal in releasing what’s currently holding you back. We’re exploring the central tenets of intersectional feminism, why there’s no perfect system for changing your experience, and how to get closer to living a life that feels aligned with your being. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/251 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #250: The Beauty/Power of Ritual with Jaguar Mary X 32:59

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#250: Jaguar Mary X is a ritual performance artist and creator of Midday and Midnight Medicine Journey. Their transformative work is informed by queer and Black feminist discourse, plant sentience, and shamanism, and they’re here this week to offer their wisdom on the beauty of ritual. After a life-shifting personal experience with mugwort, Jaguar Mary X has been sharing the plant’s healing properties through powerful ritual smudging performances. In this episode, the two of us explore how connecting with the plant kingdom is an act of interdependence, and the power of bringing both a scientific and woo lens to healing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/250 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #249: Food, Weight & Diet Talk: How to Find Greater Peace and Joy During the Holidays with Dana Monsees 50:23

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#249: Turkey Day is upon us once again, which means food, weight, and diet talk is about to become rife. This time of year can be particularly challenging for those of us with emotional outsourcing ways of thinking. That’s why this week, I’m excited for you to hear a conversation from a couple of years ago that I recorded with my dear friend, Dana Monsees. Dana is a Dietitian-Nutritionist and Body Image Coach specializing in neutral nutrition for chronic health conditions. Hear Dana’s top tips for having difficult conversations around food, weight, and diet, why thought work and boundary-setting are vital during this time of year, and how giving yourself permission to experience joy and pleasure is the path to healing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/249 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #248: Functional Freeze (Part 3): The Remedies 38:44

2 years ago38:44

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#248: In the first two episodes of our Functional Freeze series, we’ve looked at the how and why of this debilitating nervous system state, as well as real-life experiences that can lead to it. Now, it’s time to dig into the remedies. Join me on this episode to hear what you can do to reclaim your one and only precious life from functional freeze. I’m showing you where to start in working with your body, the power of mindfulness when it comes to understanding somatic experiencing, and the potential outcomes of re-establishing a connection with yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/248 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #247: Functional Freeze (Part 2): Real-Life Stories of How It Came to Be This Way 38:31

2 years ago38:31

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#247: Last week, we began a vital conversation about the mixed nervous system state of functional freeze: what it looks like in practice and how commonly it shows up for those of us prone to emotional outsourcing. This week in part two, we're asking the question: how did it get this way? You'll hear multiple real-life examples from my own life and coaching work of experiences that lead to functional freeze. It's so easy to beat yourself up when you realize you're in the pattern, but functional freeze is a brilliant survival skill you learned in childhood. Hearing other people's experiences might help you see that there's nothing wrong with you, and help you understand how to change the pattern. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/247 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #246: Functional Freeze (Part 1) 42:46

2 years ago42:46

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#246: This week, we’re taking a deep dive into a topic I can’t believe I haven’t already discussed on the show – the nervous system state of functional freeze. It’s part and parcel of the emotional outsourcing experience. So what does it mean and why do we find ourselves in it? Join me today to discover what the nervous system state of functional freeze entails, and why those of us with emotional outsourcing tendencies find ourselves chronically stuck in it. You’ll also hear how it can manifest both physically and psychologically, and make sure to tune back in next week to hear the remedies for getting to the other side of somatic self-disconnection. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/246 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #245: Why We Regret & How to Stop 34:00

2 years ago34:00

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#245: This week, I’m re-sharing one of my favorite episodes from the podcast archive all about how regret is self-abandonment. The regret cycle is one we lean on and keep choosing for understandable reasons, but it’s time to understand why and how we can drop it because the truth is regret is not the solution to the future you want. Hear why living in regret is a form of self-abandonment, and how it doesn’t save us from repeating old patterns. I’m highlighting why we think regret is protective, how regret prevents from you seeing the power you have in your own life, and of course, the remedies for healing and dropping regret so you can get to the other side. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/245 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #244: Polyvagal Theory: The Secret to Understanding Yourself 44:28

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#244: This week, we are reviewing one of my absolute favorite topics to geek out on: polyvagal theory. Polyvagal theory is an incredibly helpful way to better understand our lived experiences and nervous systems, which is why it’s one of the main tenets of all the work I do across my various programs. I’m sharing how polyvagal theory is an important vessel for getting to know ourselves better, why learning to regulate our nervous system matters, and how to start seeing where you can drop guilt, blame, and shame around your patterns. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/244 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #243: Overfunctioning 41:16

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#243: Do you struggle to set boundaries with the people in your life? Are you prone to prioritizing everyone else’s well-being first, often not even realizing you have needs of your own? Are you in constant hyperdrive mode, striving to do more and more, only to eventually burn yourself out? Join me today to learn where overfunctioning comes from and how it manifests in our lives. I’m showing you how it not only takes a toll on our relationships, but our physical, mental, and emotional health too, and my top tips for beginning to address your overfunctioning habit to lead a healthier, happier life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/243 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #242: Feeling Your Feelings Somatically (Part 2) 30:30

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#242: Last week, we talked all about feeling our feelings somatically and the myriad of reasons doing so can help us live richer, more fulfilling lives with more connection to ourselves and our loved ones. You heard in detail why we don’t feel our feelings, and in part two today, we’re exploring the how-to of feeling your feelings somatically. Tune in this week to discover how to begin feeling your feelings somatically. I’m showing you why practicing this creates capacity in your nervous system to feel the emotions you most want, what you’ll find if you allow and stay with difficult emotions, how to kitten-step your way to feeling your feels, and my top tips for supporting yourself through this process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/242 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #241: Feeling Your Feelings Somatically (Part 1) 30:17

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#241: “Feeling your feelings” is a term you may have seen all over social media, and it can be an incredibly supportive and loving thing to do. However, as we do here on Feminist Wellness, we also need to proceed with caution and care when it comes to addressing the emotions that live within us. Join me this week to discover why you may not habitually feel your feelings, the common fears that may arise about doing so, and how to gain a different way of relating to your emotions. I’m also diving into why we want to feel our feelings somatically, and what can improve in our lives when we do. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/241…

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Ep #240: Overexplaining 36:19

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#240: Offering unnecessarily exhaustive explanations is a very smart coping mechanism we develop, usually in childhood. However, while overexplaining can provide short-term relief, it also reinforces the very emotional outsourcing cycles we’re trying to escape. Join me today to discover the common origin stories that lead to the habit of overexplaining, how it affects our nervous system, and what we can do to start breaking free from this cycle. I’m sharing some of the science behind why we feel the need to overexplain, the power of nurturing self-compassion in this work, and my favorite ways for practicing more concise, direct communication. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/240 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #239: Shame Work: The “Armor” of Emotional Outsourcing with Andrea Owen 50:06

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#239: I’m speaking to coach, three-time best-selling author, and all-around badass Andrea Owen. Andrea helps smart, high-achieving women let go of five default behaviors that leave them feeling terrible so they can engage in better coping mechanisms around shame. She’s here to introduce us to the shame work she writes about in her book, How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t. Join us as Andrea and I explore the wound of shame and how our emotional outsourcing behaviors act as an armor to help us avoid shame. She’s walking us through the different frameworks she uses to guide her clients through shame, and why approaching yourself with compassion and understanding is key to healing your wounds. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/239 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #238: How to Be the Cake & Let Everyone Else Be the Icing 32:49

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#238: We tend to look for other people to be the main attraction in our lives, to save us, and to be our cake. Tune in to learn the importance of embodying your own cakefulness, and how waiting for someone else to be your cake might be the root cause of your relational pain. You’ll hear why you are the main dessert, how to let everyone else be a delightful addition, and why your whole life can change in every possible way when you step into being the cake. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/238 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #237: Grief and Grieving: It’s Okay to Not Be Okay with Krista St-Germain, Charlene Lam, and Briana Simmons 45:37

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#237: With transitions come grief, and whether it relates to death or non-death losses, it’s a topic we don’t talk about enough. Tune in today to hear three brilliant experts on grief, Briana Simmons, Charlene Lam, and Krista St-Germain, share their expertise on why we suck at grief, and how we can begin grieving in a nervous-system-based and somatically-embodied way. You’ll hear what we need to increase our capacity to grieve, why this process will be unique to each and every person, and how we can support ourselves through grief spirals. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/237…

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Ep #236: Unraveling the Threads of Unsolicited Advice: Nurturing Authentic Connections 30:13

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#236: Whether you resonate with the habit of offering unsolicited advice or you’ve been on the receiving end of it, it can have significant implications on our relationships and be a wicked bummer for everyone involved. Join me this week as I unravel the threads of unsolicited advice in the name of nurturing healthier, more authentic, and loving connections. You’ll hear why it can cause huge ruptures in our relationships, why it’s the antithesis of interdependent living, and remedies, from the lens of both giving and receiving unsolicited advice. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/236 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #235: Were You Raised by Emotionally Immature Parents? 35:47

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#235: Were you raised by emotionally immature parents? Do you have a feeling you might be an emotionally immature parent? This week, learn how to show up as the intentional and authentic person you want to be, despite your parenting experience. You’ll hear why emotionally immature parents get to be that way, and my process for bringing in compassionate healing, whether you were raised by emotionally immature parents or want to address your own emotional immaturity as you parent your kiddos. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/235 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #234: The Anatomy of Anxiety with Ellen Vora, MD 48:19

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#234: The world we live in makes it pretty challenging for us to feel truly well. When we constantly receive messages about how we’re broken, wrong, or need to change, and all of that is layered with the anxiety of needing to get it all perfect, what we can do to feel better? This week, I’m speaking to holistic psychiatrist and author Ellen Vora MD. She's showing us why true anxiety can be a great teacher, and how to take kitten steps towards feeling better. You’ll hear why a gentle, grace-giving approach is vital, her tips for witnessing your needs without shame or drama, and the power of leaning into and surrendering to curiosity around your anxiety. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/234 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #233: Astrocartography with The Spirit Sis, Steffi 46:20

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#233: I'm getting my astrocartography chart read by psychic medium, astrologer, and intuitive energy healer, Steffi, a.k.a The Spirit Sis. Astrocartography is an ancient medium that Steffi uses in her practice to help, inform, and support her clients. She uncovers places on the globe where you should travel to, live near, find inspiration from, as well as places to avoid altogether. Steffi is walking us through the complex field of study that is astrocartography and how using this tool can be incredibly life-changing, because as you’ll hear, this information does not lie! Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/233 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #232: Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion with Trudi Lebrón 42:28

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#232: I'm joined by the amazing Trudi Lebrón this week. She’s an author, coach, and consultant for equity-centered businesses, and she’s here to highlight the importance of building a critical equity lens when moving from a codependent existence into interdependence. We discuss how we learn our emotional outsourcing tendencies, and why we need diversity, equity, and inclusion in all helping industries. Trudi is sharing her thoughts on feeling othered, remedies for when your identity and worth are externalized, and her top tips for participating in conversations about diversity, equity, and inclusion. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/232 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #231: Needs: Strategies for Healthy Self-Expression (Part 2) 26:15

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#231: Discover how to remedy the vicious cycle of frustration and resentment around your unmet needs. I’m sharing some of the indirect ways we attempt to get our needs met, why these strategies don’t serve us or those we love, and six ways we can start voicing our needs in loving ways while honoring the other person’s reply. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/231 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #230: Needs: How to Recognize & Voice Them (Part 1) 22:10

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#230: This week, we explore the beauty of having needs. We will delve into the stories we tell ourselves about our needs, which often make it challenging for us to express them. We will also discuss the common issues of over-giving while neglecting our own needs, why we tend to downplay or apologize for our needs, and how to start understanding and voicing our own needs. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/230 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #229: Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby with Danielle Savory and Sonia Wright, MD 44:09

2 years ago44:09

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#229: To illuminate the ripple effects that exploring your sexuality can have on your life, I’m sitting down with Danielle Savory and Sonia Wright, MD. Danielle is a sex coach who brings in her background in neuroscience to help her clients understand how their brains impact their bodies, and Sonia is The Midlife Sex Coach for Women who helps women have the best life in and out of the bedroom. Danielle and Sonia share their insights on the problems that can occur when your sexuality is focused outside of you, why this work is so much more far-reaching than just having more orgasms, and their tips for living a pleasure-first life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/229 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #228: How to Build Unshakeable Confidence in Your Needs with Mara Glatzel 44:11

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#228: I’m joined by podcast host, coach, writer, and author of Needy: How to Advocate for Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty , Mara Glatzel. She works with people to grow from self-abandonment to self-partnership by supporting them in reclaiming their needs, and we’re exploring what it means to be in partnership with our needs and how to start getting accustomed to trusting ourselves and our bodies. Mara is offering her insights on why we often don’t advocate for our needs, the reason it can feel alarming to wake up to our needs, and how to let your bodily wisdom lead you in championing your needs with grace, ease, and confidence. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/228 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #227: Getting Anchored: Healing the Self-Abandonment Cycle 30:32

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#227: Discover how to have your own back when you want to say no, instead of continuing to keep others happy at your expense by abandoning yourself. You’ll hear how to intervene when you notice the self-abandonment cycle playing out, and my favorite ways to recenter and ground myself when I’m in the cycle. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/227 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #226: Getting Anchored: The Self-Abandonment Cycle 30:37

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#226: The self-abandonment cycle is a common response for those of us with emotional outsourcing habits. We look to over-give, over-perform, and over-function more than we want or have the capacity to, and it’s leading to a painful cycle that’s no longer serving you in your adult relationships. It’s a lot to realize we’ve been living in this cycle, often for decades, if not an entire lifetime. That’s why, on this episode, you’ll get a refresher on how the self-abandonment cycle gets activated and how it’s showing up for you before we discuss healing the self-abandonment cycle next week. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/226 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #225: Live Coaching in Anchored 47:01

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#225: It’s beautiful to watch the power of coaching in action, and if you’ve ever felt any sense of nervousness or trepidation about getting coached, this is your opportunity to observe and experience a taste of it for yourself. I'm sharing a live coaching call from inside Anchored. The three clients you’re hearing from are vulnerable, open-hearted, direct, and tap into their own lived experiences as they ask for support in coaching. This conversation offers valuable insight into what it’s like in our Anchored family and what it's like to get coached. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/225 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #224: Receiving and the Trap of Independence 34:06

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#224: If you wear self-sufficiency as a badge of honor, or feel the need to take care of others while denying your own vulnerability and need for support, listen in. The top beliefs that block us from receiving love and care are what leave us in the trap of independence, and you’ll hear why stout independence is actually problematic for you and the world. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/224 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #223: Getting Anchored with Ruth Duren 39:38

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#223: If you’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing tendencies and feel like you’re uniquely terrible or have defects in your character, listen in. Ruth Duren is a phenomenal Master Certified life coach who helps immigrant businesswomen stop working harder than they need to while making more money, and she’s living proof of the power of stepping out of emotional outsourcing. Ruth shares what life was like for her before Anchored, her experience in our community, and the transformations she’s experienced. She’s offering her insights on the power of being somatically connected with yourself, how she’s making a huge return on her investment, and her advice to anyone who is on the fence about joining. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/223 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #222: When Your Partner is Chronically Dissatisfied 32:49

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#222: Discover what you can do when you truly love someone whose chronic Eeyore stance on life is leaving you feeling stuck. I’m sharing my insights on why we stay with folks living in a sense of chronic dissatisfaction, important reminders to keep in mind if this is your experience, and my tips for supporting yourself as you consider your future. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/222 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #221: Finding Satisfaction from Chronic Dissatisfaction 35:07

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#221: Are you tired of feeling stuck in a perpetual state of dissatisfaction? Do you often find yourself irritable or angry at the world around you? Join me as I guide you through a transformative process of self-discovery and exploration. You'll learn how to get curious about your negative habits, and discover the remedies for living a happier, more joyful life. Don't let chronic dissatisfaction hold you back any longer, my love – tune in now to start your journey towards a more fulfilling life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/221 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #220: Chosen Family and Somatic Healing with Sara Bybee Fisk 48:24

2 years ago48:24

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#220: In this capitalist, white settler colonialist framework we’re living in that teaches us we should compete with each other, my guest and I have both decided to be dedicated to our mutual growth instead. Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and instructor who teaches women to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from their lives, and she’s here to talk all things somatic healing and platonic love. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/220 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #219: Allowing Life's Ebbs and Flows 23:38

2 years ago23:38

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#219: There’s a powerful story within most of us that says we’re succeeding when we’re happy, and failing when things feel challenging. If you’re moving your life forward, i.e. doing something that is worthy of a shiny gold star, you’ll get an unequivocal celebration from society. On the other hand, if you’re in a moment of rest and stillness, you’re simply not doing enough. Hear how you might have learned to push away or fight against the ebbs in favor of energetic flow in your life. I share why it’s vital to honor your ebbs, what becomes available when you do so, and some of my favorite guiding questions to ask yourself when you’re sitting with an ebb. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/219 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #218: Somatics and Interdependence 30:34

2 years ago30:34

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#218: Somatic practices can be incredibly helpful for breaking free from codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits; to go from emotionally outsourcing to being the source of your own emotional grounding and centering. I share what somatic practices involve and how they play a role in stepping out of emotional outsourcing. Hear the vital first kitten step in incorporating somatic practices into your daily life, and some of my favorite simple practices for you to begin with. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/218 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #217: You Are Not Your Thoughts 32:50

2 years ago32:50

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#217: What thoughts come up for you on the regular? What thoughts make their way into your consciousness without you even realizing it? We are built to believe the things we hear in the world around us, and if we aren’t pausing to be thoughtful about our thinking, we can start to believe negative, painful thoughts about ourselves and others. In this episode, I encourage you to contemplate the idea that you are not your thoughts and show you why doing so can help you live more intentionally. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/217 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #216: Getting Anchored with Lisa Candera 38:39

2 years ago38:39

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#216: April is Autism Awareness Month, so I thought it only seemed fitting to share my conversation with Anchored member, Lisa Candera. Lisa, a.k.a. The Autism Mom Coach, is the single parent of a child with Autism, a certified life coach, and a lawyer. She helps moms raising kids with Autism show up to their lives as the parent they want to be, even when parenthood looks nothing like they imagined. Lisa shares the gifts of our Anchored community and the transformations she’s experienced since joining. She’s offering the ways in which she learned to integrate coaching, breathwork, thought work, and somatics into her life, and how her dedication to this work has changed everything. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/216 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #215: Making Intergenerational Change with Genie Albina 38:41

2 years ago38:41

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#215: My favorite little sister, Genie Albina, joins me today to discuss family systems from the perspective of being a change agent. Genie is a certified Parent Coach who works with both teachers and parents, a mom of two kiddos, and is now an official coach inside Anchored. Making intergenerational change takes a lot of strength, courage, and self-reflection. So, what do you do when you’re the intergenerational trauma bond breaker, or the one doing ancestral healing, and that’s not what’s happening in the rest of your family system? Find out in this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/215 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #214: Understanding and Reframing Your Attachment Style with Honeydew Me 52:22

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#214: This week, hear a conversation I had recently with Cass and Emma of the Honeydew Me Podcast where I broke down the different attachment styles and explored how we can begin moving towards secure attachment. Learn how our attachment styles bleed into all of our relationships, what secure attachment looks and feels like, and how to practice inner caretaking as you begin understanding and reframing your attachment style. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/214 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #213: Your Nervous System and Substances 31:02

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#213: If you are ready to see what your life might look like without the substances of your choice, listen in. I’m sharing why I’m no longer available for substances to dysregulate me, the realizations I had when I removed caffeine from my life, and some questions you can ask yourself as you take a step back from substances of dysregulation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/213 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #212: Meditating with Your Eyes Open 25:43

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#212: It’s amazing to be able to step out of the life we’ve been living to take time, go on retreat, and step into deep inquiry about the experience of being human. While I love retreats, I also live in this world that includes a shadow side, hard edges, and a tenderoni nervous system. This is where the literal and metaphorical notion of meditating with our eyes open comes into play. Discover how the concept of meditating with your eyes open is a way to come home to yourself while also being in and receiving the world exactly as it is. You’ll hear how it trains your mind and body to find calm and stillness while meeting the challenges before you, and how it helps you flow with life, instead of against it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/212 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #211: Belonging and Connection 34:26

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#211: A sense of belonging is so core to the human experience, but for us folks living in codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing mindsets, we unwittingly hold on to stories that work against our human endeavor of belonging. For us emotional outsourcers who are always looking outside ourselves for approval and validation, being mindful of and healing our stories about our ability to belong is vital, and that’s what we’re doing today. I’m exploring what to do when you struggle to feel like you belong, why cultivating connection is actually an inside job, and how to begin fostering it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/211 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #210: Getting Anchored with Charlene Lam 37:10

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#210: I’m delighted to introduce you to Charlene Lam, a certified grief coach, curator, speaker, and founder of The Grief Gallery. Charlene is here to share her experience of being in Anchored and her thoughts on group coaching. She shares how somatic coaching in Anchored differs from anything else she's experienced, why she now has a deep affection for her mind, body, and spirit, and how learning to tend to herself has transformed every aspect of her life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/210 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #209: Overcoming Fawning 28:29

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#209: If you’re tired of spending another day of your precious life in the fawn response, and instead, you’re ready to speak your truth and live in your sacred anger, you’re in the right place, my love. This week, I share three signals of chronic fawning so you can start to see where you might identify with this habit. You’ll hear how it is a survival skill that simply isn’t necessary anymore, and how to heal from the damage of living in a chronic fawn response so you can reclaim your right to healthy, sacred anger. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/209 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #208: Fawn Response and Healthy Anger 25:46

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#208: You’ve likely heard of fight, flight, and freeze nervous system responses as ways we protect ourselves when our boundaries are crossed, but there is a fourth: fawning. Fawning shows up for a lot of people, especially for those of us raised as girls and living as women, and this week, we’re exploring what it looks and feels like, and why you might have developed this habit in the face of anger. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/208 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #207: Healthy Anger (Part 2) 31:48

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#207: Join me this week to hear how the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits we live with can be understood in the context of healthy anger, and how reclaiming that anger is one path that helps us heal. I’m sharing the socialization and conditioning that minimizes our experience of anger, guiding questions you can ask in the midst of anger, and the remedies for beginning to reconnect to your healthy anger. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/207 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #206: Healthy Anger (Part 1) 33:30

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#206: If you can relate to fearing or simply not knowing how to voice your anger, the notion of healthy anger may be radical to you, and you’re going to hear all about it this week. Join me to discover what healthy anger means, and why it’s your birthright to feel and express it. You’ll hear what causes us to lose touch with and talk ourselves out of anger, why anger is actually our friend, and how to begin giving voice to your healthy anger. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/206 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #205: Holding On To What Doesn’t Serve Us 33:30

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#205: This week, we’re diving into how and why human beings hold on to what simply doesn’t serve us. This is a habit that’s particularly common for us emotional outsourcers, where the stories we tell on repeat about ourselves and our lives take up so much real estate in our minds and bodies, and feel impossible to let go of. So join me to to discover how we can use the invitation of winter to prune back, let go, and discard what doesn’t serve us. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/205 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #204: Getting Anchored: Margot’s Experience 45:46

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#204: This week, I sat down with Anchored alumnus Margot Hanley, a life coach who specializes in coaching parents of transgender and gender non-conforming children. Join us as Margot shares why she felt called to join Anchored and the transformations she’s experienced both as a member and now as a graduate. She’s offering her insights on the time and financial investment necessary, the importance of consent in coaching, and her thoughts on getting coached in the collective. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/204 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #203: Getting Anchored: Inner Child Science 36:28

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#203: Tune in this week to discover how to start coming into relationship with your inner children and the science behind this process. I’m showing you what inner child work is and isn’t, the clues to look out for that signal doing this work could be super supportive for you, and the key takeaways I’ve learned from doing this work in my own life and with my clients. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/203 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #202: The Ritual of New Year’s Resolutions 26:02

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#202: If New Year’s resolutions are a tradition that has never felt loving to you and has instead been an exercise in beating yourself up, the good news is you get to make intentional choices about how and what you want to make shifts towards. You’ll hear the insidious reasons we set resolutions, why they often don’t stick, and the importance of deciding you are lovable as you are right now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/202 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #201: Your Intuition vs. Trauma 35:12

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#201: This week, I’m showing you how your intuition and trauma responses interplay with each other, and how to discern the difference between the two. For those of us with early attachment wounds, or who have trouble sifting through what’s anxiety, trauma, or intuition, the best news is you get to reconnect with your intuition, slowly but surely, kitten-step style, and I'm showing you how in this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/201 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #200: How to Trust and Reclaim Your Intuition 37:34

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#200: So much of the work of healing from our emotional outsourcing habits boils down to trusting ourselves deeply. Your intuition is a potent and powerful ally in your life when you listen to it with self-love and self-trust, and I’m showing you how on this episode. Discover how to awaken your instincts and let your intuition know you’re here and listening. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/200 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Mega-Super-Awesome 200th Episode Podcast Giveaway! 2:06

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My tender ravioli! We are celebrating 200 episodes of the Feminist Wellness Podcast and we’re doing a giveaway to mark the occasion! 1st prize: 50 min coaching session with me (holy wow!!) 2nd prize: I will record a personal pep talk just for you on the topic of your choosing! Struggling with boundaries? Want to boost your self-confidence? Anchor in you and ventral vagal? I’m on it! 3rd prize: A seat in the next Breathwork group - on the house! Our 200th episode is on Dec 15th and you’ve got until December 31st to enter. To get all the deets on how to enter, visit https://victoriaalbina.com/200giveaway/ Winners will be chosen at random and will be emailed in the new year and announced on the show…

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Ep #199: Trauma: What It Is & How It Shapes Our Lives 41:54

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#199: It seems everyone is talking about trauma these days, which I’m so delighted about. It’s high time we pause to talk about what trauma is and how it can shape our lives because, my darling, it really matters. This week, I’m sharing examples of the more subtle, chronic traumas of everyday life, how to identify if trauma is part of your experience, and the remedies that will help you support yourself as you begin listening to your subtle cues of dysregulation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/199 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #198: Getting Anchored with Dr. Maylin Gonzalez, OD 54:00

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#198: I recently sat down with one of our amazing Anchored members, Dr. Maylin Gonzalez, OD, to discuss her experience of our community and how radically her life and relationships have shifted since. Join us to discover how, even though everything might feel broken right now, that there is a way out. Life can be different. Maylin is a shining example of what our work together can do for your life, and you’re hearing all about it on this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/198 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #197: When You Get Unstuck and Others Don’t Like It 32:34

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#197: You might be well down your own healing path, but what do you do if the people you love are not interested in doing the same? And what if they don’t like the changes you’ve made in your life? These are the questions I’m addressing this week by discussing change and stuckness, both of your own and for those around you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/197 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #181: How to Shift Your Experience of Resistance (Part 2) 27:07

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#181: If you hear that voice telling you to just watch Netflix, relax, and ignore the world, I’m showing you how to feel grounded, present, and calm while you sit in that resistance, so you can move toward life’s challenges while honoring your nervous system, feeling connected, and creating safety. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/181 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #180: Understanding the Energy of Resistance (Part 1) 26:41

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#180: Discover why the way we typically address resistance is one I find problematic from a nervous system standpoint, and how to shift how you think and talk about it. I’m offering my five-step process for lovingly supporting yourself in the presence of resistance, and I’ll be back next week to get into the nitty-gritty how-to remedies. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/180 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #179: Getting Anchored with Roxanne Darrow 42:57

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#179: Tune in this week to discover the power of healing in community. Ghostwriter Roxanne Darrow is sharing how being in the Anchored community and using the tools we teach there helped her prioritize her human needs, and shift her lifestyle to align with what she wanted and needed in her life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/179 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #178: Your Future Self 36:34

3 years ago36:34

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#178: Discover how to start imagining your future self, and why calling on that version of yourself keeps you focused on the growth and healing you’re seeking. I’m showing you how I like utilizing the concept of my future self and why we’re able to become agents of massive change when we step into a loving relationship with our past, present, and future selves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/178 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #177: Getting Anchored with Monica Schrock 53:07

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#177: Join us this week as Anchored community member Monica lets you in on their favorite takeaways from being inside the Anchored community and alumni program. They’re sharing what helped them most in creating profound shifts in their life, and the deep wounds and patterns they’ve healed to find so much freedom in who they truly are in this world. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/177 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Bonus: Roe v. Wade and What You Can Do NOW 18:30

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After processing my own emotions and response to the overturning of Roe v. Wade last week, I feel ready to talk about it with you, my loves. This ruling feels gut-wrenching to so many of us. You might also be feeling numb, angry, sad, overwhelmed, helpless... I understand, my darling, I do, and I want to honor all of those responses. Listen in to hear what you can do - even if you think there's nothing you can do - for yourself and the future of all humans with uteruses if you are so called. Please consider donating to one of these amazing organizations: Equality Federation The Brigid Alliance…

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Ep #176: Loving Your Past Self, Living with Compassion 24:05

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#176: If you want to live a more present, embodied, and intentional life, I invite you to love on your past self. I’m showing you why going down a road of self-flagellation does no good for you, how to be kind to your past, present, and future self, and the remedies for the habit of self-judgment that is keeping you stagnant in old self-concept stories. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/176 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #175: Getting Anchored with Coach Molly Goodman 50:28

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#175: This week, I'm joined by powerhouse life coach Molly Goodman to talk about what bought her to Anchored, the changes she made while she was inside the group, and how being inside helped her understand her purpose as a coach. She’s speaking to the power of our community, and how true, sustainable healing comes from a slow and steady progression in a different direction. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/175 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #174: Polyvagal 101 39:49

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#174: This week, I guide you through polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation. I’m showing you how to get present with your felt experience, and how, from there, you can interact with, regulate, and have ownership of your nervous system patterns so you can stop living from the neck up and come home to your body. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/174 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #173: Getting Anchored with Ali Zamora, NP 43:48

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#173: I am beyond delighted to share a conversation with one of my Anchored clients with you this week. Ali Zamora is a nurse practitioner in family medicine who works in San Bernardino County, California. Her story is an incredible case study in overcoming codependency that I know you’ll all find super inspiring, and she’s here to share her experience with us. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/173 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #172: Showing Up For You And Your Nervous System In Tragedy 33:15

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#172: This week, I wanted to take a moment to discuss the collective grief and specific suffering of families who have lost loved ones. Holding loving, compassionate space for our painful feelings is so important. It’s the key to opening your heart to all the joys of life. Life is, after all, both light and shadow. But how do we feel our feelings while staying grounded, without totally spiraling out in the pain of it all? Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/172 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #171: Rescuing vs Supporting 32:45

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#171: Tune in this week as I show you why and how we embody the trope of the rescuer. You’ll discover the difference between the desire to rescue and supporting, and why recognizing this difference is crucial for healing codependent thought habits. I’m also sharing the remedies for stepping out of the rescuer role, and how supporting others is the basis for an interdependent framework for living. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/171…

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Ep #170: Do I Stay or Do I Go? (Part 2) 23:31

3 years ago23:31

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#170: Tune in this week as I invite you to shine a light on your own thought patterns so you can better understand your nervous system, reparent your inner children, and ultimately, move forward in whichever way you choose. Hard truths can be challenging to face, but I’m guiding you through the remedies so you can hold yourself in a high enough regard to go after what you truly want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/170 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #169: Do I Stay or Do I Go? (Part 1) 37:10

3 years ago37:10

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#169: This week, I’m showing you how to lean into your intuition and discernment as you approach challenging relationships. I’m guiding you through the remedy to feeling stuck in wondering if this relationship is serving you, and how to get real with the complexity of it all. Make sure you tune in for part two next week! Get full how notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/169 Mentioned in this episode: Free Upcoming Workshop Join me for Regulating Your Nervous System: The Missing Piece — a live Zoom workshop on May 21 at 8PM ET. We’ll explore the nervous system roots of self-doubt + people-pleasing. Click here to save your spot: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast Workshop Series…

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Ep #168: Regret is Self-Abandonment 30:21

3 years ago30:21