Best Interpersonalneurobiology Podcasts (2024)

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162 Triangulation: What It Is and Why It Matters 40:09

27d ago40:09

40:09

Triangulation occurs when a parent requires a child to function as an emotional adult by meeting the parent’s adult needs and wants. Were you required to give, give, give to your parent, or was your parent continually giving, giving, giving emotionally to you? In a healthy parent-child relationship, there is plenty of connection—but the parent neve…

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161 Exploring Your Sexual Story With Curiosity and Kindness 35:54

1M ago35:54

35:54

Sexuality is an emotionally charged topic. Period. But when you are talking about sexuality for people with a history of trauma, you are stepping into terrain where angels fear to tread. However, if God intends for you to experience overflowing sexual pleasure and lavish sexual freedom, then exploring your sexual story is more than worth it. Human …

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160 The Weight of Religious and Spiritual Expectations with Reid Zeller 40:32

3M ago40:32

40:32

I am joined today by therapist and friend Reid Zeller who shares a story about egging cars when he was 16. Behind every story is a backstory. The backstory includes the nature of the environment we grew up in. When religious or spiritual expectations are placed on the shoulders of a child, pressure builds within that child. And when that pressure i…

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159 Revisiting the Big Six: What You Needed from Your Parents 41:34

4M ago41:34

41:34

When you were a child, you were deeply dependent on your primary caretakers. This means that the development of your brain was contingent upon the level of care and kindness in your family environment. Today I identify the six things you needed from your parents, and give examples of each. The “Big Six” things you needed from your parents include (…

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158 The Critical Relationship Between Attachment and Affect Regulation 30:05

4M ago30:05

30:05

If you have difficulty regulating your emotion, there is a reason for that! No one comes out of the womb with the ability to regulate their affect. The way you develop the neurobiological structures to regulate your own emotions is by having your affect interactively regulated by another. This is the main gift that a primary caregiver gives to a ch…

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157 What If My Story Isn’t That Bad? Why We All Tend to Minimize Our Wounds 29:24

5M ago29:24

29:24

This episode is for people who experience emotional pain but feel like “nothing that bad happened to me growing up. I had a pretty good childhood.” As it says in Jeremiah 6, it is very common to dress our wounds as though they are not serious. One way we tend to minimize our wounds is by comparing our story to someone else who “had it worse.” Anoth…

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156 Five Objections to Engaging Your Story: A Response 40:35

5M ago40:35

40:35

When I began exploring my story, five objections kept coming up for me. These objections kept me stuck. In today’s episode, I respond to each of the five objections. Objection 1: I should focus on the present and the future, not "dwell on the past.” Objection 2: Looking at my story is self-indulgent, introspective navel gazing; I should be focused …

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155 Why Engaging Your Story Heals Your Brain 39:34

6M ago39:34

39:34

My invitation to you today is simple: to take your story seriously. Engaging your story is the single most important thing you can do to experience healing. When I say "your story," I'm talking more about the individual scenes than the overarching narrative of your life. Your stories—particularly your stories of heartache or harm—have shaped your b…

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154 What Grief Is, How It Heals, and the Pain of Loneliness with J.S. Park 45:35

6M ago45:35

45:35

In “As Long As You Need,” author J.S. Park writes that “Grief is not about letting go, but about letting in.” Letting in sorrow, letting in anger, and especially letting in other people who can be WITH us in our pain. This episode is about all kinds of grief—not merely the grief of losing a loved one. One of Joon Park’s main points is that we often…

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153 How Your Past Story Affects Your Present Sexuality with Jay Stringer 50:28

7M ago50:28

50:28

I am joined today by author Jay Stringer to talk about sexual stuckness/difficulties/pain. Healthy sexuality is deeply tied to the degree to which we have made sense of our story in our family of origin. Sadly, so few of us have ever been asked to connect the dots between our past life story and the sexual difficulties we face in the present. Today…

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152 Learning To Live Inside Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride 39:22

9M ago39:22

39:22

I am joined today by Dr. Hillary McBride to discuss excerpts from her new book titled, “Practices for Embodied Living.” Topics covered include: how to feel your feelings, being alive in your body (eroticism), and the story of your relationship to your sensuality and sexuality. Finally, I ask Hillary about her beautiful claim that we often find the …

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151 What To Do With Desire and Dread with Mike Boland 41:02

9M ago41:02

41:02

Pastor and counselor Mike Boland shares a story from when he was 15 years old. It’s a story about the interplay of longing for connection and, at the same time, dreading what will be required of him in return. We talk about grooming, and the war of ambivalence that rages in one’s body in the midst of abuse. You can find out more about Mike’s work a…

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150 Trauma Heals By Connecting With Others 35:12

10M ago35:12

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The opposite of trauma is not "no trauma;" the opposite of trauma is connection. To be human is to be wounded. However, wounds heal naturally when the environment is right… and the right environment for healing is the empathic presence of another person. God made our brains and nervous systems to need one another. This is particularly true when it …

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149 Why Listening To Your Body Leads To Healing Part 2 30:25

11M ago30:25

30:25

Today I focus on two important ways that your body tells you things. The first is through your affect. Whenever your affect becomes dysregulated, your body is letting you know valuable information about your present environment… and about your past story. Dysregulation makes implicit memory known. And the second way that your body communicates with…

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148 The Healing Power of Understanding Your Story with Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel 39:00

11M ago39:00

39:00

You have a story and that story matters. Your story in your family of origin significantly affects the way you think, feel, and act in the world today. This is why Dan Allender says, “It is time to listen to your story.” What if healing begins by listening to your story? By reflecting on—and engaging—the experiences in your growing up years, you ca…

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147 Why Listening To Your Body Leads To Healing Part 1 32:53

12M ago32:53

32:53

Your body knows things that your enskulled brain does not. Moreover, if you listen, your body will tell you important things—things that will help you heal. Your body is a truth teller. It is the trustworthy prophet from within. In today’s episode, I explain why it’s so important to listen to your body… and how to do it. Support the show…

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146 Triangulation and Misguided Hope with Matthias Roberts 36:30

12M ago36:30

36:30

Friend and fellow therapist Matthias Roberts joins me today to share a very vulnerable story involving triangulation with his mother. How does an adolescent boy answer his Mom’s questions about his homosexuality when Mom is disgusted by it? This is a story about Matthias’ deep love for God… and the torment he felt as a result. We talk about Matthia…

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145 How Loneliness Affects The Heart and Mind 40:01

1y ago40:01

40:01

Therapist and fellow podcaster Vanessa Sadler shares a story from when she was 11 years old. As children, all of us needed to belong—to feel “a part of.” If we did not receive sufficient attunement from our primary caregivers, we likely experienced high levels of loneliness. The dilemma is that it may not have felt like loneliness because it was su…

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144 Embodied Sexuality and Religious/Sexual Trauma with Jenny McGrath 34:35

1y ago34:35

34:35

I am joined today by therapist Jenny McGrath who is passionate about helping people heal from the damage of purity culture. One byproduct of purity culture is a disconnection from your body and a distrust of your body. If you feel shame about your body, or especially shame about your sexuality, this episode will hopefully help you. For those who wa…

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143 Finding Home Again After Religious Trauma with Matthias Roberts 37:54

1y ago37:54

37:54

Matthias Roberts joins me today to talk about his book Holy Runaways: Rediscovering Faith After Being Burned By Religion. Topics covered include: why belonging is so crucial for each of us, how to trust when you’ve been betrayed by others so many times before, and why it’s hard to open ourselves to actually receive care when it is available. Suppor…

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142 Healing From Trauma: The Power of “Being With” Part 2 23:51

1y ago23:51

23:51

We pick up with Curt sharing about Cora’s experience in a story group. Specifically, we talk about about why Cora’s intense bouts of panic were her body’s way of saying “something is wrong and needs care and attention.” We also talk about a woman named Cheyney who experiences deep healing as a result of taking in the acceptance and embrace of other…

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141 Healing From Trauma: The Power of “Being With” Part 1 33:30

1y ago33:30

33:30

Curt Thompson returns to the podcast to talk about how we heal from trauma. In short, trauma and emotional pain begin to heal when our stories are witnessed by an empathetic other. Curt shares a story from his newest book about a woman named Cora, who is disconnected from her emotions and finds it very hard to receive care from Curt. Curt’s newest …

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140 Trauma, Resilience, and Race with Jimmy McGee and Rebecca Wheeler Walston 34:03

1+ y ago34:03

34:03

Jimmy McGee and Rebecca Wheeler Walston join me to talk about how they came to understand the importance of trauma and story engagement. If you want to engage your story in more depth, the Impact Movement is hosting an online event called Hope and Anchor Story Weekend. This zoom event will take place Sept 30 to Oct 1. You can find out more here. Su…

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139 Role Reversal: When A Child Becomes A Parent 39:15

1+ y ago39:15

39:15

I am joined today by my friend Rebekah, who shares a story from when she was six years old. Topics covered include: feeling like there is something wrong with you but not knowing what it is, self-doubt about how you see reality, difficulty trusting your gut, learning to listen to your body and to trust the information that it is giving you. Support…

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138 How To Heal From Sorrow and Grief Part 5 with Mary Ellen Owen 45:20

1+ y ago45:20

45:20

Fellow therapist Mary Ellen Owen joins me today to share her journey with sorrow. Like many people with trauma, it took Mary Ellen years to find her tears, years to befriend her sorrow. Although she cognitively knew that grief was necessary for healing, something within her said “hell no” to feeling the unfelt sorrow. In this final episode in a ser…

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The Place We Find Ourselves

Adam Young | LCSW, MDiv

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162 Triangulation: What It Is and Why It Matters 40:09

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161 Exploring Your Sexual Story With Curiosity and Kindness 35:54

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160 The Weight of Religious and Spiritual Expectations with Reid Zeller 40:32

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159 Revisiting the Big Six: What You Needed from Your Parents 41:34

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158 The Critical Relationship Between Attachment and Affect Regulation 30:05

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157 What If My Story Isn’t That Bad? Why We All Tend to Minimize Our Wounds 29:24

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156 Five Objections to Engaging Your Story: A Response 40:35

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155 Why Engaging Your Story Heals Your Brain 39:34

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154 What Grief Is, How It Heals, and the Pain of Loneliness with J.S. Park 45:35

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153 How Your Past Story Affects Your Present Sexuality with Jay Stringer 50:28

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152 Learning To Live Inside Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride 39:22

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151 What To Do With Desire and Dread with Mike Boland 41:02

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150 Trauma Heals By Connecting With Others 35:12

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149 Why Listening To Your Body Leads To Healing Part 2 30:25

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148 The Healing Power of Understanding Your Story with Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel 39:00

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147 Why Listening To Your Body Leads To Healing Part 1 32:53

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146 Triangulation and Misguided Hope with Matthias Roberts 36:30

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145 How Loneliness Affects The Heart and Mind 40:01

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144 Embodied Sexuality and Religious/Sexual Trauma with Jenny McGrath 34:35

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143 Finding Home Again After Religious Trauma with Matthias Roberts 37:54

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142 Healing From Trauma: The Power of “Being With” Part 2 23:51

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141 Healing From Trauma: The Power of “Being With” Part 1 33:30

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140 Trauma, Resilience, and Race with Jimmy McGee and Rebecca Wheeler Walston 34:03

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139 Role Reversal: When A Child Becomes A Parent 39:15

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138 How To Heal From Sorrow and Grief Part 5 with Mary Ellen Owen 45:20

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