Best Complextrauma Podcasts (2024)

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The Science of Trauma Healing With Dr. Aimie Apigian 51:34

16h ago51:34

51:34

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Trauma Expert Dr. Aimie delve into the complexities of trauma healing, emphasizing the importance of understanding the body's role in processing trauma. They discuss the necessity of completing trauma responses, the significance of creating a sense of safety, and the journey from safety to aliveness. The conv…

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4.9 Obstacles to Actual self-Love After Trauma 27:25

7d ago27:25

27:25

The filthiest words: love yourself. 🤮 Why does trauma create barriers between us and... not hating us? Talkin' lost relationships, criteria for love, loss of self, and the endless self scrutiny created by post-traumatic judgments. It's a BIG EPISODE with some BIG ANNOUNCEMENTS - grab your pepto and let's talk about "self-love-y." WATCH IT HERE Host…

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Thawing the Freeze: Moving Beyond Trauma With Dr. Arielle Schwartz 54:14

7d ago54:14

54:14

In this beautiful conversation, Monique Koven and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz delve into the complexities of trauma, resilience, and healing. They explore the nuances of complex trauma, the importance of therapy, and the power of community support in overcoming adversity. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, they highlight t…

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Understanding Overwhelm as a Trauma Response with Dr. Aimie Apigian 38:59

16d ago38:59

38:59

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Dr. Aimie Apigian discuss the topic of overwhelm and how it relates to trauma and our nervous system. They explore the concept of overwhelm as a trauma response and the ways in which our body tries to protect us from it. They also discuss the role of parts work in addressing overwhelm and how to work with the…

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Navigating Relationships with Emotionally Immature People With Dr. Lindsay C Gibson 49:42

1M ago49:42

49:42

In this second conversation, Host Monique Koven and psychologist and author Dr. Lindsay Gibson discuss emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. They explore the characteristics of emotional immaturity, such as egocentrism and poor empathy, and how it can manifest in various relationships. They also discuss the continuum of emotional ma…

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4.8 Self Compassion; the Daily Battle for Recovery 26:24

1M ago26:24

26:24

Education and Responsibility are important for t-recovery... But progress peters when self-punishment predominates. Without self-compassion, regression becomes reality. Let's talk about the requirement for self-compassion and 5 ways to do it. video! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.…

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Trauma Healing : Living In Your Head To Moving Into Your Body With Deb Dana 33:58

2M ago33:58

33:58

You cannot to heal from Trauma until you gently learn to become friends with your nervous system. May survivors have adapted to trauma by shutting down or disconnecting from their feelings and sensations.This makes sense when you live in a dangerous and threatening environment. However the patterns of disconnection remain long after the trauma is o…

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4.7 Major Image-Distorting self-Defenses [Splitting and Projective Identification] 23:33

2M ago23:33

23:33

When life serves conflictual and confusing information, our brains simplify it to survive... and fuck us over in the long-run. Let's talk about the "ALL GOOD" and "ALL BAD" self-defense mechanisms of Splitting and Projective Identification, what function they serve as children & adults, and how they create shitass trauma-bound lives down the line. …

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4.6. Acting out, Help-rejecting complaining, and Passive Aggression; The (most) Immature Defenses 27:18

3M ago27:18

27:18

Ready to learn about the maladaptive tendencies of your most difficult relational partners? When we don't believe we're "entitled" to a need or emotion, we vent it into (unwise) action. Let's discuss the immature cognitive patterns we/others may still be utilizing to keep our brains "safe." We'll cover the lowest level self-defense mechanisms: Acti…

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Healing From Sexual Trauma With Kindness With Sam Jolman 47:14

4M ago47:14

47:14

This is the final episode of the *faith edition* of the Healing Trauma Podcast. We do plan to be back with a new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast. For those of you who support the HTP podcast, content will continue to be shared through your Spotify subscription feed. You are also invited to join me in an upcoming Zoom call so I can have the cha…

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Honoring & Processing Trauma Through Rituals With Heather Marie Stringer 29:42

4M ago29:42

29:42

In this conversation, Monique interviews Heather Stringer, a licensed therapist, about her work with trauma and rituals. Heather shares her experience of using rituals as a form of processing trauma and making it known and significant. She describes a ritual she created for a woman who was reclaiming her femininity and how it helped her embody a ne…

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Refusing To Repeat, Telling The Truth & Healing Generational Trauma With Lisa -Jo Baker 32:02

4M ago32:02

32:02

This healing conversation delves into the author's book, 'It Wasn't Roaring, It Was Weeping,' and explores themes of family, trauma and transformation. Lisa Jo shares her emotional response to the book and engages in a deep discussion about her personal journey and the impact of generational trauma. The conversation offers insights into the complex…

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4.5 Narcs, Defense Mechanisms, & (non)Recovery: Intellectualizing, Rationalizing, and Reactionary Decision Making 27:54

4M ago27:54

27:54

We've learned that narcs don't generally recover because of their "creative narration" abilities. Now, let's talk about some of the ways they spin those stories. Today, we start our examination of self-defense mechanisms by looking at the purposes of Intellectualization and Rationalization. Then, we ask the question: SO HOW SMART ARE THEY? And disc…

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Emotional Maturity Through Learning How to Name What You Feel -With Dr. Alison Cook 34:07

5M ago34:07

34:07

In this conversation, Monique Koven and Alison Cook discuss the importance of acknowledging and embracing our emotions rather than brushing them aside or numbing them. They explore the concept of naming our emotions as a way to bring order and relief to our inner world. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and curiosity when it comes to our …

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Mother's Day ~ Attending To Our Sacred Wounds With Dr. Arielle Schwartz 31:36

5M ago31:36

31:36

With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz.In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadn…

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4.4. Pathological Structuring of Narcissists (Or, No Integrity without Integration) 22:33

6M ago22:33

22:33

They'll shake your hand while pissing on your leg, plead and then pulverize promises, and generally give the sense that they're one hundred people who share a face. But why? Let's talk about narcissist personality structuring that ranges from neurotic to psychopathic, but never hits the mark of "maturity." Meanwhile, creating the condition I've tit…

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This Is Complex Trauma- Naming What It Is 41:09

6M ago41:09

41:09

This episode is a recent recording from psychologist Dr. Alison Cook's podcast "The Best Of You' where I was a guest. Taken from her podcast description 'Today’s episode is just so special and so deeply personal. If you’ve experienced trauma, please listen. If you love someone, please listen. Trauma touches so many lives, and it’s so often misunder…

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You Are Safe Now With Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson 59:05

6M ago59:05

59:05

In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her p…

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4.3. Healing with "Adaptive Narcissism" and Uniqueness | Leveraging Stigma for Permissive self-Healing 40:57

6M ago40:57

40:57

"Just feel good about your authentic self and don't let anyone wreck your recognition of specialness." Right. Let's talk about what may be holding us back from achieving this safe, centered, self-supportive, resilience-boosting psychological station, and the easiest way to achieve the "healthy self" that's never been otherwise defined. Adaptive Nar…

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Redeeming Heartache With Dr. Dan Allender & Cathy Loerzel 51:08

7M ago51:08

51:08

It was an absolute pleasure to be joined by psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and therapist Cathy Loerzel for an incredible conversation about the journey of healing Trauma. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel are the authors of the book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling.They are also the founders of The Allender Center. I rea…

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BONUS Subscriber Episode 3:07

7M ago3:07

3:07

Learning To Trust Friends & Others Bonus subscriber & get access to bonus content https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/monique34/subscribe Support the show The Foundational Journey to Change Your Biology – 6-week online course guided and designed by Dr. Aimie as a journey into your nervous system to change your biology trauma reactions https://w…

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Recovery And Healing With Dr. Mark McNear 38:16

7M ago38:16

38:16

On Today's healing conversation you are going to get compassionate validation as well as some understanding around the impact of childhood trauma on the body and the brain. I am joined once again with my friend, Dr. Mark McNear. Mark is a survivor and a therapist that shares openly about the healing journey. I loved our conversation and think you w…

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4.2. Filial Obligation Narratives, Ambivalence, Perception, and Guilt 24:33

8M ago24:33

24:33

Why is the decision to sacrifice or save our brains so difficult to make? Let's talk about subconscious narratives we probably all carry, the ambivalence-guilt connection, and the power of perception on caregiving burden. Find the transcript at t-mfrs.com Looking for the 9 full episodes on this topic? Hit up the Filial Obligation Collection on patr…

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Why A "Faith Edition?" 16:37

8M ago16:37

16:37

Monique shares a little bit more about why this season of The Healing Trauma Podcast is including Faith in the conversation.*This is a video episode on Spotify Faith Communities need to be safe places and trauma-informed. How essential it is to understand that trauma lives in the body and is not just in the mind and how it shows up in relationships…

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Healing Trauma With Dr. Curt Thompson 54:43

8M ago54:43

54:43

Welcome to the very first episode of the new season of The Healing Trauma Podcast - Faith Edition I am delighted and so very grateful to be able to share this conversation with therapist, podcast host, author and psychiatrist Dr. Curt Thompson. We talked about healing, safety and connection and the formation of embodied hope. And so much more. I ab…

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Reclaiming "YOU" 42:31

8M ago42:31

42:31

Come join my guest Amy Nordhues and I as we talk about the journey of rediscovering the truth about who we really are after surviving childhood trauma. Amy Nordhues is a survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. She is the author of her memoir Prayed Upon. ... Support this pod…

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4.1. Making of a Vulnerable Narcissist 19:31

8M ago19:31

19:31

A big 'nouncement; so long TMFRS! Then let's talk about what constitutes a VulNarc versus "a person with CPTSD." Where does the chronic manipulation come from? How are recovery resources used for trauma-unhealing? What's up with the hostility and antagonism? . Lots to cover in this mashup of "time, space, and energy" meets "VulNarcs" and "trauma-se…

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New Edition Coming Soon 16:35

9M ago16:35

16:35

A little conversation about The Healing Trauma Podcast *Faith -Informed Edition coming soon. Support the show The Foundational Journey to Change Your Biology – 6-week online course guided and designed by Dr. Aimie as a journey into your nervous system to change your biology trauma reactions https://www.thehealingtraumapodcast.com/foundational-journ…

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3.12b. Sex on Parts and Survival Programs 24:36

10M ago24:36

24:36

This year we spoke about Intimacy. Now it's time to confront *Intimacy.* Let's look at the discrepant programs that live inside of us, gathered across a lifetime of adaptation to extreme events and unhealthy narratives. We're talking Sexual Healing vs. Internal Family Systems and deprived needs. Need this conversation more than you knew? Check out …

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3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement 21:08

10M ago21:08

21:08

We're tying up loose ends in our discussion of relationships! Today, discussing the cognitive copy-pastes we accidentally carry out between past and present relationships - and they ways they set us back in our recovery goals while creating abusive dynamics. Need more thoughts about transference in all its forms? I've got another hour of material a…

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Self-abandonment vs your best Spanksgiving 34:30

11M ago34:30

34:30

Let's cut the brainy shit, the real answer to surviving the holidays is not abandoning yourself. Need more holiday support? Don't we all. For all the other holiday freebies, just hit up patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers. Search "holiday" to find releases from the past for no cost, or subscribe to access the pre-wrangled Holiday Survival Collecti…

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3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses 47:13

11M ago47:13

47:13

Back to NonViolent Communication! Here are 10 things the experts say destroy our attempts at vulnerable disclosures and requests. Just in time for the holidays, let's talk about why these conversational reactions burn our t-brains and why people are programmed to use them, anyways. For the full transcript and all the doods, check t-mfrs.com and get…

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Dissociation & Trauma With Tamara McClintock Greenberg, Psy.D 26:37

12M ago26:37

26:37

Tamara McClintock Greenberg, Psy.D., M.S., a beloved returning guest joins me on the podcast today. She is the author of six books including The Complex PTSD Coping Skills Workbook & Treating Complex Trauma.Tamara is a clinical psychologist in private practice in San Francisco, CA, where she specializes in treating adults with depression, anxiety, …

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3.10. Chronic deprivation, self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and abuse dynamics 32:00

12M ago32:00

32:00

We learn to neglect ourselves at an early age and then everything goes to hell forever after. Stuck in unfixable suffering, toiling away with ineffectual attempts to comfort ourselves, and possibly... destroying our own lives, in an attempt to end the self-deprivation through backdoor methods. Let's talk about needs and what happens when we learn t…

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3.9b Ending Deprivation and Rehabbing yer Brain with NonViolent Communication 27:21

1y ago27:21

27:21

"Depression is the reward we get for being good children." NVC helps yer relationships, sure. But it'll also rewire your t-brain trashhabits, emotional misunderstandings, and shit perspectives if you use it solo. Let's talk about the roots of the worst of us; our unmet needs and beliefs that deprivation = goodness. Which create vicious cycles of pr…

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Spiritual Bypassing With Dr. Mark McNear 31:55

1y ago31:55

31:55

We are joined again with therapist Dr. Mark McNear to discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how important it is to understand the whole person. Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhoo…

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3.9a NonViolent (Effective) Communication 36:18

1y ago36:18

36:18

Ever feel "unheard"? Well, here's the key to getting your point across and sparking collaboration rather than opposition. Today, we're talking about NonViolent Communication (NVC) - the 4 step framework for communicating effectively about emotions and unmet needs without stimulating defensive reactions or leaning on your own deeply ingrained contro…

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3.8b. Shitpologies (AKA non-apology apologies) 23:42

1y ago23:42

23:42

So, how do we apologize "the right way"... Rather than creating MORE damage through half-assed "I'm sorrys"? Today, let's talk about the 5 points for offering a real apology for sake of true relational healing... And four examples of how NOT to apologize, unless you actually want to make the emotional abandonment experience worse for your partner. …

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Finding My Words With Dr. Mark McNear 40:38

1y ago40:38

40:38

Trigger warning: Childhood sexual abuse. On today's episode I am joined with Dr. Mark McNear, a licensed clinical social worker, and author of the book Finding My words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma. Mark shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and finding his words.To learn more or to purchase Dr. Marks…

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3.8a. The Key to Healing Relational Ruptures (and two people) 17:38

1y ago17:38

17:38

How DO we heal what's been broken? I've got a short phrase for you - it's what we've all needed to hear all along. And let's talk about the timeless wounds patched up by real apologies, as we prepare to talk about shitty apologies next time. Hail yerSelf and Cheers Fuckers. Git the transcript version of this post at t-mfrs.com and check out some do…

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Healing from Betrayal Trauma With Michelle Mays 46:04

1y ago46:04

46:04

On today's episode I am joined with Michelle Mays. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She reveals the depth of the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners fa…

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Extra "survival Fs" to give in relationship; Fronting and Feigning 28:46

1y ago28:46

28:46

We all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning? Let's talk about learned reactions that keep us feeling safe in relationship... while rotting out the connection, engaging manipulation tactics, and using fear as a self-defense. Looking for more "real relationship talk"? Well that's …

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Prayed Upon, Breaking Free From Therapist Abuse with Amy Nordhues 45:30

1y ago45:30

45:30

*Trigger warning: Talk of Sexual abuseOn today's episode I sat down with Amy Nordhues, author and survivor of both childhood sexual abuse and sexual abuse as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. Her story is detailed in her book “Prayed Upon, Breaking Free From Therapist Abuse.”During our conversation Amy touches on some of the fo…

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3.7. Determining "Are they a good relational partner?" before committing 33:35

1y ago33:35

33:35

We've talked a lot about committing fully to relationships and overcoming our conflicts together, through examining the subconscious wounds that actually underly our relational upsets. But here's my question: Is that realistic? Today, we talk about getting clearer on the contents of our potential and current relationship partners' preprogramming, t…

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Feeling Safe Is Essential To Healing 9:55

1y ago9:55

9:55

I am still in vacation mode and have taken a little break from recording and sharing, however I was inspired to record a short video after I shared a post over on IG which says "Feeling Safe is Essential To Healing." I realized a little video may be helpful to elaborate just a tiny bit. Should be back to recording sometime in August. https://youtu.…

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3.6b Overcoming spiraling conflicts in trauma-impacted relationships 27:16

1+ y ago27:16

27:16

Ever feel like "the issue" isn't really "the issue" in relational conflict? That's because the real issue is buried under layers of protective instincts that keep us unable to fully connect or communicate... but very capable of fighting, endlessly. Let's talk about "conscious relationships" and their trauma recovery utility, as we discuss methods f…

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3.6a. Lost love and authentic connection; the fragmented brain explanation 28:20

1+ y ago28:20

28:20

Why do we start close relationships and love connections feeling one way... only to watch them disintegrate, become survival-based, and turn into "resentment"? Let's walk through the easiest explanation ever told; pulling in our Internal Family Systems education to discuss the greatest relational obstacle of them all. Looking for a lot more relatio…

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Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents - With Dr Lindsay C. Gibson 55:32

1+ y ago55:32

55:32

Today I am sharing a video episode to watch or listen to. Dr. Lindsay Gibson joins us on the podcast to discuss “Emotionally Immature Parents”. Dr. Gibson has been a psychologist for over thirty years, working in both public and private practice. In the past, she has served as an adjunct assistant professor in Clinical Psychology, teaching doctoral…

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Speaking Truth To Power with Rosie McMahan 49:23

1+ y ago49:23

49:23

I had the absolute honor and pleasure of talking with author,counsellor, educator, activist and childhood sexual abuse survivor Rosie McMahan. I decided to share this one via video (available through spotify platform & youtube). Rosie is the author of Fortunate Daughter: A Memoir of Reconciliation. Rosie and her family were one of the first familie…

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3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections 21:20

1+ y ago21:20

21:20

We MFs struggle to begin or maintain healthy relationship dynamics, with a lot of externalized finger pointing about why. "Abusers just flock to me." But the truth is, the abuse recreation is mutual and it all starts in the place we attempt to willfully ignore - inside ourselves, within our preferred and hated personality aspects. Let's talk about …

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