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Find your voice - Episode 14 - "And still I rise" - Bep Dhaliwal #14
Tagline: "No matter what life threw at her, she felt the pain, she cried the tears, and then she chose to rise..."
The Queen at finding the Silver Lining, Bep Dhaliwal shares her incredible story. You may recognise her from her fantastic movement, Thrive 365 which focuses on life coaching and empowering others.
In this episode Bep discusses her incredible perspective on life, having overcome cancer and seen the damage it has done throughout her family and friends. Initially having a career in the Corporate world she has now transitioned into something more self-fulfilling and purpose driven.
Her infectious and positive attitude is evident as she has had to re-evaluate her own mission in life, focuses solely on helping to empower others.
A truly emotional story, which resonated with me personally due to Cancer being a common theme in my own family, I am grateful Bep shared her story and encourage you all to follow her journey.
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[Music]
welcome to an episode of find your voice
a movement led by yours truly
Aren do a guy who has overcome
crippling anxiety adversity and
difficulty like so many of you in life
whose main goal now is to help you
combat your excuses take control of your
life write your own story and most
importantly find your voice so now
without further ado I welcome the host
of the show himself mr. Aren do what's
going on people thank you for tuning in
to another episode of find your voice my
name is Aaron and as always I am the
host of the show so what a fascinating
story I've got lined up for you today
you see this person is not only
inspiring but she carries so much
strength and I have so much admiration
for her because life hasn't been easy
for her however she's not sitting there
making excuses she's not sitting there
playing the victim card in fact what
she's doing now if she's thriving 365
days of the year and while she's doing
that she's helping to the people so I
think it's really gonna hit home with
quite a few of us that listen to this
and I think there's certain parts of
this episode at least not gonna resonate
with you at least they resonate with me
because some of her stories I've
suffered similar stuff in my life
and maybe you have too and I think
there's real beauty in the way that she
describes a struggle and how she's
overcame it and how she's coping with it
on a daily basis today so I think what
I'm gonna do is jump straight into this
one again it's always more fun listening
to the guest than myself let's get this
show on the way okay so I just want to
begin by obviously thanking the
listeners for tuning in to the show
today and more importantly our wonderful
guest today which is Bev Dahlia so how
are you doing today I'm really good
Winkie great too great to be on and
great to speak to as many people as we
can
fantastic fantastic so as we touched on
just before this off is always obviously
trying to get you on the show for quite
some time now mainly my fault I'd like
to rearrange because of my cold and my
tissues which I still have but I think
it's important for the listeners to get
to know you
a little bit and understand your story
so if you wouldn't mind if you could
just kind of tell us how you progress
through life and kind of ended up where
you are today okay and so as ayran said
my name's Bette I I suppose I'd probably
describe myself as a regular Indian girl
who was being brought up by some amazing
parents actually who have worked really
really hard so you know they were the
first generation to come to the UK they
put a lot of their dreams on hold in
terms of you know my dad wanted to be a
doctor and he ended up having to work in
a factory just you know bringing the
cash et cetera
they both had an amazing work ethic
which I think has helped me my brother
and my sister to really appreciate the
value of kind of working hard and you
know being respectful and looking out
for each other and caring and you know
family first sort of those kinds of
things so it was really privileged and
actually you know months all of that and
I was working hard
there was also loads of fun so you know
we've just laser fun things as kids not
with a lot of money but you know it's
just making time for each other really
and because my dad work shifts we'd have
a lot more quality time with him so that
was always really you know good so he
made sure that we played in that time
which was amazing and then went off to
university it was probably the first
Asian girl in our family to go to
university he see that had his ups and
downs so for me the ups were obviously
like loads of freedom and friendships
and it just felt like you know oh my I
had never really experienced freedom
before so it was just life with no
restrictions and it really sparked
something in me in terms of just being
independent and just on my own two feet
actually putting myself first you know
thinking about what it was that I wanted
and Load came from that so you know that
was a really important time in my life
after university and got married Church
you know chose the guy that I wanted to
marry because I kind of was
fresh to get married and unfortunately
that didn't really work out we you know
you kind of realized quite I realized
very early on that we were just living
life on very different you know my
upbringing had been different values in
life were very different
and there were later lessons you know I
really should have realized at that
point in terms of the power of trusting
your gut you know which I really should
have trusted even today and I didn't but
there was just a lot of pressure to you
know I suppose to live the dream that I
suppose for some respect you know my
parents had given me the freedom to go
to university I owed them something back
and although I chose this guy you know
but we we all learn a lot in that
process my parents in terms of a spaced
out strong and independent I can be for
me it was just a case of wow sometimes
it's really important listen to your
parents and their gut instincts but you
know don't worry about it and that's the
biggest thing for me is that you know
yes it was you know seven or eight years
of my life but who I then became was a
person that I just think wow I would
never become that person if I had stayed
in that kind of relationship or not been
through that yeah exactly not been
through that and then I suppose you know
had a few years of again being single
and enjoying my life and then I met the
right guy and got married and then
cancer came along and threw in some
curveballs so very early on into our
marriage
probably about eighteen months in I
think so yeah so that's me yeah faith in
terms of just that additional element of
Who I am I am I supposed part of the
other theme that kind of ran through was
I had a 20-year kind of corporate career
so I was working you know in a big
corporate business for 20 years in
various different roles sales marketing
PR and I were recently left in 2017 and
set up my own business called Wray 365
and it's literally about how you can
thrive every day I love it
okay thank you for sharing that you're
doing this thing now which is thrive 365
obviously I'm assuming because of your
cancer situation and it's kind of change
the whole perspective on life and I
follow use now on social media not in a
stalking way but I'm very inspired by
your messages and the work that you're
doing out there have you always been
positive inspiring motivational have you
always thought about doing something
perhaps like this in your life or is it
because of the circumstances that you
would doubt you felt no actually I need
to give up this corporate life and I
need to have a shift in my life it's
definitely been because of a second
sentence is not I've never ever thought
about running my own business you know
even than my parents
did you know my mom had a sound wave is
Ness and we all bought up in that and I
realized how much hard work cause that's
never been my thing my thing has eaten
go you know bring in you know a safe
salary and I think for me it was always
a case of them you know and bring home
you know a decent enough salary in terms
of living a nice quality of life and but
but then it was always that case of for
me it's factly I suppose even after the
divorce it was a case of actually
there's more to life than work and work
was my nine-to-five but it was what I
did outside of those hours was what
enriched me and really kind of like
bought more perspective to my life and
that's where I wanna see a lot of my
energy but the cancer definitely made me
made me really stop and think about what
I wanted the rest of my life to be about
and it wasn't necessarily my
nine-to-five I've have had cancer in my
family kind of ripped through it as well
and it does completely change your
perspective and I'm not I'm not saying
it was a reason I kind of gave up
corporate because I gave that up for a
different reason but I think if it was
to happen at that time I'd probably
start to reassess my life as well and I
guess that's kind of one of the reasons
I I want to do this podcast is because I
don't want people to wait for a
situation or a circumstance in their
life in order for them to kind of think
do you know what I better make the most
of my life all of a sudden because a lot
of us is just going through autopilot in
our life to this shame it's a shame to
see because we can do so many beautiful
and wonderful things out there
could we just if you wouldn't mind just
expand a little bit just so the
listeners know in relation to the Thrive
365 yes sure say and I think for me like
you said and I think you've already
recognized as well just you know cancer
made me really really stop and
reevaluate everything in my life and the
one thing I realized that you know that
I really wanted to do was to to make the
most of every day and there's something
about and thriving doesn't mean that
you're living life 100 miles an hour
sometimes thriving for me is literally
sitting in front of the telly watching
Grey's Anatomy because that is the bit
that that chills me out and that's the
program I just have to watch on my own
and it just settles me and it you know
it does everything and I am ready then
to face the world after I've had that
hour and so thriving but it's just
knowing you know knowing that actually
what is it and it's so personal and it's
so individual as to what it takes for
somebody to thrive every day and so
within my business that's what I'm doing
I'm helping individuals through
one-to-one coaching in terms of
understanding themselves better and then
also you know going into corporates and
I'm just the on-site coach that again
goes in it just holds that space for
people to be seen and heard and to feel
like they they value their valued and
that they matter because I think there
was something so I suppose about you
know not living life on everybody else's
terms and expectations and I think
absolutely for me it's that journey of
knowing who you are and I didn't really
know who I was until even I suppose
actually was the it was after when I
decided to get divorced I also decided
to invest in a life coach which was the
best thing ever and she really helped me
work on my values because I was so stuck
about who I was and everything obviously
had been turned upside down for me and I
just thought I don't know how to
navigate forwards and you know and she
appeared at the right time and just
helped me recognize my value you say
that every decision I then made with him
my values were embedded in those
decisions
and I think that really helped fantastic
I resonate so much with that in relation
to my corporate life I actually I did I
didn't employ a life college similar to
yourself but why did is I had somebody
he was a lot wiser than me at the time
asked who I saw as a mentor and he he
actually asked me the question Erin what
are your values in ethics and it's one
of the question where you know it as a
kid I suppose or you kind of live by a
certain way but then you kind of forget
it and you like the whole autopilot and
then all of a sudden i sat there I
thought I don't actually know the answer
to that and I remember sitting there and
I went home that evening us I used to
stay by myself in a hotel when I was
working and I sat there and actually
googled ethics definition and I was
looking around to kind of get some
inspiration and then when I started to
write it down it wasn't far along after
I say about five or six months later I
actually give up corporate world for
forever and I then went on to become a
social worker and kind of attaching
things that resonate with myself in
terms of giving back and stuff so yeah I
find that really interesting that you
said that I was gonna say that that's
great that you actually were able to
hear that and take action against it
because I just I don't think I
definitely didn't realize that I didn't
know what my values were I knew that
things would trigger me and I'd get
upset but I didn't realize it was
because something whatever that
situation was was treading on my values
mmm-hmm and I think there's so much in
that you know the corporate world is
amazing the you know for giving you
perspective and introducing you to
people that have that awareness and that
can mentor you and I've learned so much
in you know my 20 year career but I just
think you sometimes it's those life
experiences that still you know help
absolutely and I think you hit the nail
on the head when you said about knowing
who you are and the funny thing is I
think so many people including myself at
some stage I didn't know who I was and
it's such a simple question but I think
I kind of wish that everyone can just
maybe take time out of their day or in
the weekend or something just a
collective thing is everything I'm doing
in my daily life it
is it working towards my core values at
least because if you can align those in
whatever other sector is you will find
some level of fulfillment happiness I
mean that's kind of my take on it and it
is it's about the alignment piece and I
just think I wish this stuff could be
taught in schools in terms of I didn't
talk quite recently citizen teenagers
and I was desperate to say to them
please don't lose sight of what your
passion is now so be it sport BR keep
something that's just yours
because that will be also be a piece of
how you thrive you know almost every day
because you need to have something that
connects with you and and I suppose one
of my other biggest life lessons is
everything starts with you and you know
everything everything is centered but if
we don't take the time to know who we
are or our triggers are what our
passions are then that's quite often
when we last and we stand we get on this
we live life on other people's terms and
you know with other people's
expectations and then actually that's
when you then end up potentially getting
ill because you realize that you are
living you know very stressful life
because it's not in alignment and that's
when I think sometimes you know the
awareness hits and sometimes that's too
late you know because the illness or
whatever is that's happened is there and
i reaiiy mutl on that page of let's do
this early let's just realise now and
you know you you you can change you can
find a way absolutely to help in
understanding yourself better and live
life in a so you know so much more
empowered way but yeah I can relate to
what it's like in a corporate life
you've got early starts you've got late
late evenings and you're pretty much
working more than the state seven and a
half hours that you're contracted to
your life's change now and you're I
suppose you're kind of living it on your
own terms have you got any sort of daily
habits or anything in relation to
routine where people who perhaps are
going through this phase where they're
trying to find themselves and they're a
little bit lost could perhaps adopt or
maybe kind of alter and
use yeah I suppose one of the things
because my you know my my weeks my
months are all very very different
because I'm kind of out doing later
different things networking you know
meeting new people you know doing some
client work it's all really really
varied but something I realized is
especially in terms of you know walking
my talk how do i thrive every day and
and i think there is something around
that that i know i'm gonna have a good
day if I literally do you know start
with exercise in the morning but then
there's something about you know that
then triggers me to then eat well
through the day will be much more aware
of what I'm eating but then also I think
there's something about taking time for
myself so I you know I have I actually
really enjoy time on my own in terms of
you know either listening to a
meditation doing a bit of journaling you
know I don't have a set time in which I
do that and actually give myself a bit
of a break on some of that stuff and
think actually you know what do I feel
like today like what is going to enrich
me what's going to feed my soul today
and sometimes it's actually even just
connecting with certain people that I
know do that for me as well I spend a
lot of time with my family
and so I've got two young nephews and I
you know where I can they're probably
you know them and my parents are the
ones I think okay I'm gonna get a buzz
from spending some time and that's the
freedom and flexibility I love working
for yourself that you can factor in time
to do you know and suspend where you
know you're gonna get a lot in return
and it is going to enrich you and these
are things that I don't want to ever
look back on my life and think I didn't
make time for the right people and and
all of that so I think having the
freedom and flexibility is what I really
appreciate but also I've realized
stepping away from corporate now just
how free I am to learn and grow in
subjects and areas that literally feed
my soul so
I'm a passionate you know I just feel
this so much more I've got to learn and
so I do you know spend quite a bit of
time in terms of reading absorbing
thinking out how I can use some of this
information with my clients and so I'm
just constantly feeding myself like
knowledge but also experience and giving
myself time to still get to know myself
a lot more and I've kind of said my
husband and myself a challenge this year
that this year is all about us in on an
individual level so what is it that we
both need to do for ourselves so that we
are still connected and I kind of feel
like I although I am connected to myself
I still feel there's so much more I need
to know about myself and I think that
typically again the whole you know I'm
the big sister I all my energy goes on
everybody else and and I need to write
what I really want to just stop and
think actually stop focusing on
everybody else focus on you and what is
it that you need I think you need to
obvious if it's like the analogy you
need to fill your own cock before you
can fill out the people's up there's so
many fantastic points you saw you spoke
about there you walk in the taught
you're getting to know yourself and I
think in a relationship and being in
relationship myself as well just getting
to know yourself and your own needs as
an individual I think his song yeah so I
love my wife to bits she's my rock she's
everything and she allows me to do what
I'm doing today
but we've also I'm very fortunate that
she thinks similar to myself we both
realize we have our own needs as well
and I think you need to all as
individuals but ourselves kind of first
and I know it kind of sounds selfish but
in order if you can do that right I
think that we can obviously give so much
more out to the world yeah and I don't
you know I've kind of challenged you
know I've always thought oh my god is it
selfish is it selfish and I realize
actually it really isn't that self
nurture and that self-love and self-care
just means that you you do fill your own
cup first you know you are the best
person you can be
and then other people benefit from that
they don't burn a curd and InTouch and
all of those kinds of things I think
people it's so much more from when you
are in a good place so whatever you need
to do to get yourself into that good
place first that's what everybody
benefits absolutely i 100% agree i think
the hardest probably point is for anyone
who's very giving in the nature and
actually is to kind of flip that breath
but yeah i think you've hit the nail on
the head I've seen massive improvements
in my life my wealth my health and
everything and by taking that slightly
selfish approach and to be honest it
doesn't even need to be anything
extensive so what I do is I wake up an
hour before my wife and within that hour
I will listen to something that will
help me mentally and I'll go to the gym
within that hour so by the time I come
back I'm then fully present and focused
on like my relationship and then the
work and he just it just works so much
better so yeah fantastic the the next
thing I always like to kind of ask my
guess is about adversity and I know I
know some of your story and I know with
the kinds of scare as well I mean if you
feel comfortable could you explain
perhaps maybe for listeners who could be
going through a similar situation or can
resonate with your story a particular
example of when you've you've gone
through this adversity and it's like a
particular day and how you overcame it
and I think more importantly the lessons
you've learned from it because I think
that's really important that hopefully
that can give some insight to the
listeners yeah sure so and you know
cancer is my story really and if you'd
have said to me years ago you know what
do you want to be named or like I would
never have chosen cancer but it has
literally is big it's become the very
unwelcome visitor in my family who keeps
on showing up and bringing a different
friend every time which is just really
really annoying but you can either drown
with all of that or you can find a way
through and and I've chosen to find a
way through and I suppose our story
started I suppose in in 2012 and my
husband was diagnosed with lymphoma so
that's a blood cancer and that you know
obviously
just knocked the not Dez off her feet
completely because he was the one
actually narration when a relationship
who is a healthy one and actually my
family a lot of people would look at my
husband and think no this guy's me this
guy goes to the gym and he eats well and
you know and he's a good guy and and so
that really shook and it was the first
kind of real experience in my immediate
family of cancer and his family and so
we you know we didn't know how to deal
with it we didn't know how to cope with
it what we realized you know very
quickly was you know you lose all sense
of kind of control and you become part
of the system and so even for me I you
know being the person on the sidelines
that wasn't really able to do anything
so as a carer you know it took hist oh
because everything centered you know
around the cancer and everything
centered around his treatment is
all-encompassing and it's over thing you
you just think live breathe cancer what
are we gonna do and and then you get
stuck in the system of like okay we're
gonna do chemo and his and his chemo
started straight away and you know and
you get into a regime takes loads of
different drugs in between chemo cycles
and and yeah it was the it was it was
mental you know as a family like
everybody was just like how did we deal
with this and and that can cause tension
in itself because everybody wants to
protect to make him better
of course you know and I think so that
was really really tough in terms of
navigating how we were approaching it
and in the end my parents were amazing
and you know my husband fainted after
his first chemo when we were just at
home and so my parents said actually you
know you can't do this on your own and
so we moved in with them so that I could
still do a little bit of work work for
me were they saying as an employer and I
had an amazing boss who basically just
said he's your priority look after him
and work when you can so I was so so
lucky just kind of to it with you know
is really they were so supportive and I
know how lucky we are because that isn't
often the case in cancer journeys
and so we just kind of fell into a
routine in terms of managing symptoms
the one thing it really did bring home
was oh my god do we stress about stuff
that really isn't important you know and
use every day yeah I know because I
think we all think we're invincible and
nothing's going to happen to us and so
we get ourselves so caught up in things
that aren't important and so we realized
you know when he was on that journey and
and every day and you know in his 21
days there's always different as to how
he would feel and there are some nice
side you know like people get angry and
you know and and miserable because of
what the drugs are doing to them and so
there's lots of things you don't see in
terms of you know from cancer and and
but we did start enjoying simple things
so just going for a walk you know we're
going for a cup of tea in a cake all of
these simple things that we so take for
granted suddenly it became so big
because whenever he was actually up to
it and was able to do that that was a
big thing in our day so so that was
tough and then on a holiday to celebrate
the end of his cancer journey so he was
really lucky and he he responded really
well to treatment and he was in
remission and then we went on holiday to
celebrate the end of his treatment and
him going back to work and then on
holiday I found a lump in my breast so
look at that so that I mean that was the
bit that it was hard because you know we
obviously thought we were we were at the
end of it and and we were and for me
that was really hard because because I
just wasn't used to putting myself first
or even being the center of anything
will essential attention and and the one
the biggest learning I suppose from that
whole journey was it made me realize
that I matter I didn't realize that all
that should be eating had um a bit and
actually I'm so grateful for cancer for
making me realize that
you know it totally made me step off
that treadmill of life that was the
trigger for me in terms of you know okay
now it made me question everything
everybody in my life everything that I
did how I was living my life and
obviously I'm so so grateful that both
of us got through it you know I I have
obviously been part of some journey
sense where people haven't got through
it and you know a really good friend of
mine like one of my best friends who
really stepped up when I was going
through my treatment and she just you
know happened to be on maternity leave
at the time and so we ended up spending
a lot of time together and I can
honestly say that she since then has
become my real sunshine pal and so I saw
her whereas other people didn't know
what to say
and it's awkward and people avoid you
when and things like that she rose to
the occasion and she stepped in and and
she just became you know I'd like to go
see her and she just whisked me off for
tea and cake and do things you know we
didn't have a nice lunches some lovely
lovely things and who knew that
literally in that year in 2013 as I was
going through my journey her and her
husband then moved from where they were
living in Windsor up to Nottingham share
and which would be near her family
because she just had her second child
and then her husband got diagnosed with
bowel cancer and sadly he dies in 2016
at the edge of that overall and I just
think but you know mine and Louise's
relationship as a result of all of this
is it has become so tie and so strong
even though we've got distance between
us in miles how she actually has
inspired me beyond belief in terms of
how you how you face death because sadly
we hate talking about death but you know
death is a part of life and and actually
being at the end being there at the end
when you know George very peacefully
buried I'm seeing how she was and how
she shared that with her two boys who
were three and one and a half
literally today inspires me to my core
every single minute of how she dealt
with that and how she continues to deal
with it actually so much so that
shameless plug here we are going to do
overall cod cuts terms of adversity and
you know um what it how it can change
your life and in a way but better if you
if you allow it if you hold it yeah if
you choose to see things differently and
it is all about perspective and the gift
in the suffering you know so there is
something that can come from it and
that's why we do you know of course our
own little sunshine tribe people that we
know will always hold that space for us
and will always let us live loudly live
big dream big be the best that we can be
the first thing I want to say is uh you
you spoke about gratitude day I'm just
very grateful hearing your story and I'm
thankful that you're able to share this
for me I was getting I was getting a
little choked up myself a little bit
there because I can relate in terms of
cancer just ripping through families and
causing this heartache
and I sincerely hope that you know the
kinds of scares for yourself your
husband and for your friend and for
anyone out there really that you know
that they're long gone and that we find
a solution and you know your health goes
from strength to strength you you also
you touched on some amazing things and
one of my wallpapers on my phone is
actually there's beauty in the struggle
it's just a little quote and it comes
from a song but I think at that time we
always think you know it's just
happening to us and the world is
happening to us and it's it's all about
perception and I been through quite a
bit as I'm sure the listeners have and
yourself and I really have managed to
start changing my perception when
something bad happens to myself and I
think it's made me the person that it is
today you touched on beautiful little
things like just going for a walk and
having a slice of cake with a cup of tea
and I think we often forget these little
things because we're in this world where
we see social media and we chase and
this we're chasing this dream that some
celebrity or some improv
has got on there we get the beauty lies
already within us and it's within reach
yeah and I think sometimes we're chasing
this stuff because we think we're not
enough and you know and we need to
constantly be feeling like there's more
there's more you know and I just
sometimes I just think there's so much
in the simplicity of a moment where
you're not actually doing anything is
just you're with the right people you
know and there's just something magical
that if we stopped and and stopped it's
a really big word for me right now in
terms of stuff and just let it be or
fully appreciated it was you know I kind
of think this this one moment in time
right now is the only one that we can
influence absolutely and it's the one
that's going to be you know if we
appreciate how good we've got it right
now in this very moment then we realize
how blessed and how lucky we are because
we can't influence you know we all have
dreams on what we want for the future
we've got experiences in the past that
have shape does and I you know I've had
to realize that I'm not going to have
all the dreams that I wanted and my life
has not gone the way it when I was 20
that I kind of expected it to go but boy
am i a richer person because of air
sometimes we don't know what's good for
us and what is in and and if I don't
make the most of the rest of my life now
I've got the choice to realize that I'm
not forever and you know and right now
how blessed am I for the experiences
I've had up to now and I know that there
will be loads more twists and turns in
this life then was I've always got a
choice in how I respond and I've got a
choice - you know I would definitely say
acknowledge the emotions acknowledge
everything that comes your way give it
space to let it teach you something you
know I still know that a lot of my
cancer journey for myself I did it in
through denial you know I kept on
putting a smile on my face is what
people needed around me that's the other
thing I want to anyone going through a
cancer Joe
just just expect the family and friends
just know that that patient quite often
and is having to be really really strong
you I mean because they can see the fear
in your face and actually I know the
thing that really helped me through my
journey was having a counselor she was
the person that I could go to that you
know wasn't you know a close family or
friend and and she was the one I could
go to and say what if I die you know
what do I need to acknowledge in my life
how do I prepare myself if that is
because you when you get the cancer
diagnosis you face your mortality
it's a massive smack in the face you
know and you realize have I done
everything I've wanted to do up to now
and like you said earlier in the podcast
don't wait you know for the cancer
diagnosis don't wait for that you know
another massive illness or something
live like now because you know if you
trust any of them and they are true I'm
sure all like the stats that are out
there by 2020 so next year one in two of
us are going to be affected by cancer at
some point in our lives and although my
family's taking taking one for the team
in quite a big way I I still think it's
more you know just to stop and
acknowledge the power of you right now
and living the life that you want to
live on your terms absolutely absolutely
I I want to talk about something just
after this first point the first point
is that just in relation to what you
said there and you you you got yourself
a cunt counsellor sorry to speak to you
about having been through would you have
preferred your family to maybe speak to
you openly about it rather than kind of
see as the elephant in the room because
I only ask that because I find it very
very difficult if like when my uncle's
got it or when my uncle passed away with
it do you kind of speak to him about it
and it was always kind of we just
ignoring and pretend everything's happy
and we're all smiling yet we'd go home
and we'd feel sad and then I I know they
would be sad would you employ people to
kind of maybe have that conversation or
do you think it's best left with the
next day
source like a counselor I think
everyone's unique and everybody or you
know because knowing that I use denial
as a coping mechanism I'm not sure that
I would have been ready for certain
family members to say to me okay tell me
what's going on here and how you're
feeling it was actually safer for me to
have somebody outside of my circle and
because I was in denial
putting the smile on for everybody else
and you know and navigating through it
did help the other big thing I probably
really do want to share at this point is
within the Asian community we really
need to start talking about cancer
because it is here it exists and we run
away from it and I know these only my
husband was diagnosed and actually you
know there's a lot of people in our
family still don't know that we bake had
it because we bore a smile or carried on
and and you know I had the most amazing
wig and so I had the most amazing hair
every single day and and so I just think
you know I even turned up at family
functions where people didn't know and
partly because we weren't able to deal
with their handling of it so in a way
I'm not saying everybody should know and
everyone deals with it differently but I
knew that if the more people be told the
more you don't managing their emotions
about the situation than having the
energy to focus on yourself and to do
what's right to get you through it so
there's no right or wrong everyone has
their own way of doing dealing with it
but I think acknowledging it as a family
if that person I shared it with you and
taking the time just to say you know
what can I do how can I help the procure
thing I remember typing a friend of mine
who's whose friend had it I remember
saying to her she said what can I do and
said take her sunshine I said you know
she doesn't want to talk about so all
the time you know she actually just
wants you to acknowledge her as her she
wants you to
you know she can still talk about the
weather she can tell you what she
watched on telly last night
cancer is all-encompassing and sometimes
you just want to break from it and you
talk about other things and you want to
talk about things that you talked before
and the one thing I know I craved was
normality I was so desperate to go back
to the life I had before cancer
Peyman and and you know I can like you
know I'm so full that I can go back to
you know typically the life was like
before now because you know within a
much better place and I know that's not
the case for everybody but know that
when you're on the journey the one thing
you're craving is normality that's
really powerful thank you for sharing
that I think that's that's a great point
and the like you said the Asian
communities everything seems to be a
taboo in the Asian community whether
it's cancer whether it's mental health
it's kind of everything is just brushed
entirely under the carpet which is a
shame but I'm just I just want to go
back to my initial point I really want
to do just highlight you said earlier in
the podcast that I this unwelcome
visitor cancer and you'll be known for
cancer in your eyes and I just want you
to know and I sincerely mean this is
that I think you're an amazing soul and
you'll be remembered for a lot more than
that you'll be remembered from this very
short interaction with yourself now your
inspiring is half out your kindness and
your endearing nature and I think all
the good things that cancer has brought
out of you because I believe it was
always within you to help other people
is truly amazing and you know I would
never just see you as that and that's
from our very short conversation so I
just wanted you to know that I'll bless
you I was I was gonna say that you know
I really want people to know that
there's joy joy runs through my core so
no matter what I kind of think please
find the joy in the simple things and
the big things in through everything I
just think you know just live a life
that is just full of that kindness love
and joy so I just think and that is
where I do walk my talk in terms of you
know making sure that I do find a way
through and you go I know you go what's
your biggest fear in this moment today I
think it is you knowing about what the
cancer has
I do I still fear of it returning a
ferret returning my husband for me for
you know other members of my family
because you know you just think although
I've learned in lessons and I still
sometimes think like okay if it did what
would I do but then I just I do
sometimes just stop myself and going X
I'm like okay like I said earlier bit me
of being a bit of a hypocrite you can I
can only influence today that's a day as
far as I'm aware I don't have it and so
actually that make the most of today so
I think there's always going to be that
underlying fear once it's been there in
your life you know but then I suppose
that's maybe why I'm on over tribe of
cramming as much wonderfulness into as I
possibly can and so and I know I've got
the strength to deal with it in
whichever guys it does if it does so I
think sometimes I just take myself to
what is that fear acknowledge it think
about how I'd handle it and then put it
to bed so don't let it kind of like
overtake and so I think yeah I think
it's it's still there in the background
lurking that's fine that's fine and I
suppose that's probably you don't really
need anything to keep you motivated
I suppose in life because a lot of lot
of people I come in contact with on a
daily basis we're all trying to motivate
ourselves to make the most of life and
you just said a beautiful word there I'm
not even sure if it's a word but it just
sounds beautiful wonderfulness and I
think if we can all make the most of our
days and they're over driving that you
use in I think I think it's so important
I try to do that as well as ie 100
percent think sleep is important but I
think once you have enough sleep then
stop hitting that snooze button really
try and make if you if you want to do
something in life go out there and do it
if you want to connect with someone go
and connect with them if you want to
tell someone you love them then go and
tell them because your stories are
living proof of this you can't take
nothing for granted in this world no too
many of us do spend a you know life
taking a lot for granted absolutely and
people supplanted and I just think
there's something about the magic in the
people around us and
what they bring you and and to share
that with them and select them no
because we can't take anything for
granted
absolutely and I think I mean I'm not
going to sit here and say I take I don't
take things for granted because I I D
but what I've done is and it's just a
little tip for somebody who's probably
not gone through the harsh circumstances
that you have is to really try and have
triggers in your day so for me I have my
wallpaper on my phone I have a photo of
me and my wife have a photo of my family
and I have all these little triggers
where if I ever kind of revert back to
my old habits it will snap me straight
out of place and think I don't fix up
overdrive because because this fault was
there where people are missing as far as
there were people are ill and it's just
it makes you think completely
differently and I just you don't want
you don't want people to go through that
life or have those experiences but I
think sometimes like you said when you
struggle or you go through adversity if
anything it becomes I suppose I can gift
into curses and it you get the case but
then you get a gift from it as well at
the other side I was gonna say when you
get the suffering and I you know there's
something in that suffering but
suffering is also teaching you so much
if you allow it and if you don't fight
it Sam and I just think there's
something in the pain part and that does
then bring the gift when you're ready to
see it okay we are gonna shift gears now
actually we're gonna start smiling now
and what we're gonna do is this is
actually the fun part of the show where
I literally put my guests through just
60 seconds of the most random questions
you've probably heard this week so
there's no right or wrong answer just
try and obviously with your face thought
process and we're gonna start in 3 2 1
okay what did you eat for breakfast Oh
peanut butter on taste the ability to
fly or be invisible fly when your fame
I think Fame for this message your
biggest achievement to date surviving
cancer your favorite food
oh my mum's lamb curry Netflix our
YouTube each aid your number one goal
this year Oh
to to thrive everyday but I really
want to raise the game on how people
live their lives more fully and so to
help people understand how much they
matter would you rather not how you a
died or when you were dying
when love or money love books or movies
books if you could sit with one person
in the world for an hour who would it be
Maya Angela what is your biggest
addiction oh gosh don't know but I'm
addicted to anything really other than
this constant need to better myself were
to learn more and it's all more that's a
brilliant addiction your favorite place
in the world I have to say I took myself
off on a holiday to Brazil and there was
a beautiful hammock on my on my little
balcony I was on my own actually this is
me testing myself and that hammock and
that v---aids on a beach in Brazil was
yeah one I'll never forget if you could
abolish one thing in the world what
would it be I suppose it's ignorance or
people being unkind to each other love
that and finally your favorite song ever
oh my god actually cherish I'm gonna get
cherish cool in the gang
I've heard that played live and is
beautiful brilliant okay fantastic so
the next question I always like to ask
my guess is about reflection I believe
hindsight's a wonderful thing and upon
reflection we can always think of ways
to get to where we currently are quicker
easier or with less heartache but at the
same time the journey teaches us so much
and it's a real belief of mine that
everything happens for a reason so what
I want to know is if you could go back
in time to that one moment where you
struggled say as a younger vet Danny
well somewhere down the line and
suffered with adversity or an obstacle
or anything in life maybe the first time
and you could whisper something in your
ear knowing everything you know now what
would it be and I think it would be that
I'd want to say it's okay you're exactly
where you're meant to be right now you
know don't by to allow the lesson to
come feel the pain feel the feelings and
just trust that there's going to be some
lesson that your learner is as a result
of this and you'll be a better person as
a result of this so just trust and
actually ask for help I'm really bad ass
not asking for help and that's one thing
I've learned is ask for help
mmm-hmm are you better at asking for
help now I am and I know but I also know
who who I know so I've got you know some
space it probably is more my friends now
and you know and some family members I
just think I know what they won what
which ones will give me what I need love
it and if I can help in any way as well
I know you having a podcast soon or any
anything in relation to thrive sixteen
six five or even personally please do
let me know thank you you're very
welcome
sadly we're actually at the last
question now and the last question I
always ask is if in 150 years time
science fails to save us all and all
that's left is a book and this book is
about your life and it's about
everything that you've done everything
you've accomplished all your dreams and
everything what I want to know is what
the summary at the back of the book
would say and also what the title would
be okay and say I think it's gonna be
the summary in the back it's gonna read
something along the lines of no matter
what life threw at her she felt the pain
she cried the tears and then she chose
to rise and she took the lesson learned
something from it she found something to
spark the joy you know she was the queen
of finding the silver lining and I think
there's there's always gonna be fun in
anything that I do and and I there's a
beautiful Maya Angelou quotes and she
just says and still I rise and I think
that would be the title of the book
because I just think you know that life
is tough but then so am I you are that's
very very powerful thank you for sharing
that and just before we close the show I
just want the listeners to be able to
reach out to you if that's okay I know
you're busy and you're probably juggling
loads of things but I think
it'd be worth people following the
movement maybe maybe they can support as
well so I normally ask my guests to
leave one place but I think because you
do such a wonderful thing and it's you
know it's gonna serve the community
you're welcome to give as many plugins
as you as you wish okay lovely so the
the easiest one would be my Instagram
account and that's thrive bet so that's
one LinkedIn please follow me on
LinkedIn and please if you can introduce
me to your to your businesses or
somebody that can just come in and hold
that space and allow you to thrive and
that would be amazing the other thing
that I really did want to mention with
if anyone's heard of Simon Thompson who
is a lady that had her Instagram account
is free in cancer and she's permanently
going through a stage 4 lung cancer
diagnosis at a very young age so I think
she's just turned 30 and Simon has set
up a Facebook page baam e for cancer and
I think it is just about uniting the
ethnic communities so that we do start
talking about cancer and we you know we
open the debate we have the debate and
we start sharing a lot more so it's just
it's a supportive little community just
to hold that space for each other as we
navigate through and yeah and please
follow primer as well she's doing some
amazing work that's fantastic and what I
will do is I'll probably get those off
you so I can put them all in the show
notes just sort of anything you know for
anyone to reach out to you and also to
that Facebook page as well because I
think that's a really really important
thing I want to once again thank
everyone for listening and more
importantly I really want to thank you
for your bravery and your openness to
share your story and inspire many people
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Find your voice - Episode 14 - "And still I rise" - Bep Dhaliwal #14
Tagline: "No matter what life threw at her, she felt the pain, she cried the tears, and then she chose to rise..."
The Queen at finding the Silver Lining, Bep Dhaliwal shares her incredible story. You may recognise her from her fantastic movement, Thrive 365 which focuses on life coaching and empowering others.
In this episode Bep discusses her incredible perspective on life, having overcome cancer and seen the damage it has done throughout her family and friends. Initially having a career in the Corporate world she has now transitioned into something more self-fulfilling and purpose driven.
Her infectious and positive attitude is evident as she has had to re-evaluate her own mission in life, focuses solely on helping to empower others.
A truly emotional story, which resonated with me personally due to Cancer being a common theme in my own family, I am grateful Bep shared her story and encourage you all to follow her journey.
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[Music]
welcome to an episode of find your voice
a movement led by yours truly
Aren do a guy who has overcome
crippling anxiety adversity and
difficulty like so many of you in life
whose main goal now is to help you
combat your excuses take control of your
life write your own story and most
importantly find your voice so now
without further ado I welcome the host
of the show himself mr. Aren do what's
going on people thank you for tuning in
to another episode of find your voice my
name is Aaron and as always I am the
host of the show so what a fascinating
story I've got lined up for you today
you see this person is not only
inspiring but she carries so much
strength and I have so much admiration
for her because life hasn't been easy
for her however she's not sitting there
making excuses she's not sitting there
playing the victim card in fact what
she's doing now if she's thriving 365
days of the year and while she's doing
that she's helping to the people so I
think it's really gonna hit home with
quite a few of us that listen to this
and I think there's certain parts of
this episode at least not gonna resonate
with you at least they resonate with me
because some of her stories I've
suffered similar stuff in my life
and maybe you have too and I think
there's real beauty in the way that she
describes a struggle and how she's
overcame it and how she's coping with it
on a daily basis today so I think what
I'm gonna do is jump straight into this
one again it's always more fun listening
to the guest than myself let's get this
show on the way okay so I just want to
begin by obviously thanking the
listeners for tuning in to the show
today and more importantly our wonderful
guest today which is Bev Dahlia so how
are you doing today I'm really good
Winkie great too great to be on and
great to speak to as many people as we
can
fantastic fantastic so as we touched on
just before this off is always obviously
trying to get you on the show for quite
some time now mainly my fault I'd like
to rearrange because of my cold and my
tissues which I still have but I think
it's important for the listeners to get
to know you
a little bit and understand your story
so if you wouldn't mind if you could
just kind of tell us how you progress
through life and kind of ended up where
you are today okay and so as ayran said
my name's Bette I I suppose I'd probably
describe myself as a regular Indian girl
who was being brought up by some amazing
parents actually who have worked really
really hard so you know they were the
first generation to come to the UK they
put a lot of their dreams on hold in
terms of you know my dad wanted to be a
doctor and he ended up having to work in
a factory just you know bringing the
cash et cetera
they both had an amazing work ethic
which I think has helped me my brother
and my sister to really appreciate the
value of kind of working hard and you
know being respectful and looking out
for each other and caring and you know
family first sort of those kinds of
things so it was really privileged and
actually you know months all of that and
I was working hard
there was also loads of fun so you know
we've just laser fun things as kids not
with a lot of money but you know it's
just making time for each other really
and because my dad work shifts we'd have
a lot more quality time with him so that
was always really you know good so he
made sure that we played in that time
which was amazing and then went off to
university it was probably the first
Asian girl in our family to go to
university he see that had his ups and
downs so for me the ups were obviously
like loads of freedom and friendships
and it just felt like you know oh my I
had never really experienced freedom
before so it was just life with no
restrictions and it really sparked
something in me in terms of just being
independent and just on my own two feet
actually putting myself first you know
thinking about what it was that I wanted
and Load came from that so you know that
was a really important time in my life
after university and got married Church
you know chose the guy that I wanted to
marry because I kind of was
fresh to get married and unfortunately
that didn't really work out we you know
you kind of realized quite I realized
very early on that we were just living
life on very different you know my
upbringing had been different values in
life were very different
and there were later lessons you know I
really should have realized at that
point in terms of the power of trusting
your gut you know which I really should
have trusted even today and I didn't but
there was just a lot of pressure to you
know I suppose to live the dream that I
suppose for some respect you know my
parents had given me the freedom to go
to university I owed them something back
and although I chose this guy you know
but we we all learn a lot in that
process my parents in terms of a spaced
out strong and independent I can be for
me it was just a case of wow sometimes
it's really important listen to your
parents and their gut instincts but you
know don't worry about it and that's the
biggest thing for me is that you know
yes it was you know seven or eight years
of my life but who I then became was a
person that I just think wow I would
never become that person if I had stayed
in that kind of relationship or not been
through that yeah exactly not been
through that and then I suppose you know
had a few years of again being single
and enjoying my life and then I met the
right guy and got married and then
cancer came along and threw in some
curveballs so very early on into our
marriage
probably about eighteen months in I
think so yeah so that's me yeah faith in
terms of just that additional element of
Who I am I am I supposed part of the
other theme that kind of ran through was
I had a 20-year kind of corporate career
so I was working you know in a big
corporate business for 20 years in
various different roles sales marketing
PR and I were recently left in 2017 and
set up my own business called Wray 365
and it's literally about how you can
thrive every day I love it
okay thank you for sharing that you're
doing this thing now which is thrive 365
obviously I'm assuming because of your
cancer situation and it's kind of change
the whole perspective on life and I
follow use now on social media not in a
stalking way but I'm very inspired by
your messages and the work that you're
doing out there have you always been
positive inspiring motivational have you
always thought about doing something
perhaps like this in your life or is it
because of the circumstances that you
would doubt you felt no actually I need
to give up this corporate life and I
need to have a shift in my life it's
definitely been because of a second
sentence is not I've never ever thought
about running my own business you know
even than my parents
did you know my mom had a sound wave is
Ness and we all bought up in that and I
realized how much hard work cause that's
never been my thing my thing has eaten
go you know bring in you know a safe
salary and I think for me it was always
a case of them you know and bring home
you know a decent enough salary in terms
of living a nice quality of life and but
but then it was always that case of for
me it's factly I suppose even after the
divorce it was a case of actually
there's more to life than work and work
was my nine-to-five but it was what I
did outside of those hours was what
enriched me and really kind of like
bought more perspective to my life and
that's where I wanna see a lot of my
energy but the cancer definitely made me
made me really stop and think about what
I wanted the rest of my life to be about
and it wasn't necessarily my
nine-to-five I've have had cancer in my
family kind of ripped through it as well
and it does completely change your
perspective and I'm not I'm not saying
it was a reason I kind of gave up
corporate because I gave that up for a
different reason but I think if it was
to happen at that time I'd probably
start to reassess my life as well and I
guess that's kind of one of the reasons
I I want to do this podcast is because I
don't want people to wait for a
situation or a circumstance in their
life in order for them to kind of think
do you know what I better make the most
of my life all of a sudden because a lot
of us is just going through autopilot in
our life to this shame it's a shame to
see because we can do so many beautiful
and wonderful things out there
could we just if you wouldn't mind just
expand a little bit just so the
listeners know in relation to the Thrive
365 yes sure say and I think for me like
you said and I think you've already
recognized as well just you know cancer
made me really really stop and
reevaluate everything in my life and the
one thing I realized that you know that
I really wanted to do was to to make the
most of every day and there's something
about and thriving doesn't mean that
you're living life 100 miles an hour
sometimes thriving for me is literally
sitting in front of the telly watching
Grey's Anatomy because that is the bit
that that chills me out and that's the
program I just have to watch on my own
and it just settles me and it you know
it does everything and I am ready then
to face the world after I've had that
hour and so thriving but it's just
knowing you know knowing that actually
what is it and it's so personal and it's
so individual as to what it takes for
somebody to thrive every day and so
within my business that's what I'm doing
I'm helping individuals through
one-to-one coaching in terms of
understanding themselves better and then
also you know going into corporates and
I'm just the on-site coach that again
goes in it just holds that space for
people to be seen and heard and to feel
like they they value their valued and
that they matter because I think there
was something so I suppose about you
know not living life on everybody else's
terms and expectations and I think
absolutely for me it's that journey of
knowing who you are and I didn't really
know who I was until even I suppose
actually was the it was after when I
decided to get divorced I also decided
to invest in a life coach which was the
best thing ever and she really helped me
work on my values because I was so stuck
about who I was and everything obviously
had been turned upside down for me and I
just thought I don't know how to
navigate forwards and you know and she
appeared at the right time and just
helped me recognize my value you say
that every decision I then made with him
my values were embedded in those
decisions
and I think that really helped fantastic
I resonate so much with that in relation
to my corporate life I actually I did I
didn't employ a life college similar to
yourself but why did is I had somebody
he was a lot wiser than me at the time
asked who I saw as a mentor and he he
actually asked me the question Erin what
are your values in ethics and it's one
of the question where you know it as a
kid I suppose or you kind of live by a
certain way but then you kind of forget
it and you like the whole autopilot and
then all of a sudden i sat there I
thought I don't actually know the answer
to that and I remember sitting there and
I went home that evening us I used to
stay by myself in a hotel when I was
working and I sat there and actually
googled ethics definition and I was
looking around to kind of get some
inspiration and then when I started to
write it down it wasn't far along after
I say about five or six months later I
actually give up corporate world for
forever and I then went on to become a
social worker and kind of attaching
things that resonate with myself in
terms of giving back and stuff so yeah I
find that really interesting that you
said that I was gonna say that that's
great that you actually were able to
hear that and take action against it
because I just I don't think I
definitely didn't realize that I didn't
know what my values were I knew that
things would trigger me and I'd get
upset but I didn't realize it was
because something whatever that
situation was was treading on my values
mmm-hmm and I think there's so much in
that you know the corporate world is
amazing the you know for giving you
perspective and introducing you to
people that have that awareness and that
can mentor you and I've learned so much
in you know my 20 year career but I just
think you sometimes it's those life
experiences that still you know help
absolutely and I think you hit the nail
on the head when you said about knowing
who you are and the funny thing is I
think so many people including myself at
some stage I didn't know who I was and
it's such a simple question but I think
I kind of wish that everyone can just
maybe take time out of their day or in
the weekend or something just a
collective thing is everything I'm doing
in my daily life it
is it working towards my core values at
least because if you can align those in
whatever other sector is you will find
some level of fulfillment happiness I
mean that's kind of my take on it and it
is it's about the alignment piece and I
just think I wish this stuff could be
taught in schools in terms of I didn't
talk quite recently citizen teenagers
and I was desperate to say to them
please don't lose sight of what your
passion is now so be it sport BR keep
something that's just yours
because that will be also be a piece of
how you thrive you know almost every day
because you need to have something that
connects with you and and I suppose one
of my other biggest life lessons is
everything starts with you and you know
everything everything is centered but if
we don't take the time to know who we
are or our triggers are what our
passions are then that's quite often
when we last and we stand we get on this
we live life on other people's terms and
you know with other people's
expectations and then actually that's
when you then end up potentially getting
ill because you realize that you are
living you know very stressful life
because it's not in alignment and that's
when I think sometimes you know the
awareness hits and sometimes that's too
late you know because the illness or
whatever is that's happened is there and
i reaiiy mutl on that page of let's do
this early let's just realise now and
you know you you you can change you can
find a way absolutely to help in
understanding yourself better and live
life in a so you know so much more
empowered way but yeah I can relate to
what it's like in a corporate life
you've got early starts you've got late
late evenings and you're pretty much
working more than the state seven and a
half hours that you're contracted to
your life's change now and you're I
suppose you're kind of living it on your
own terms have you got any sort of daily
habits or anything in relation to
routine where people who perhaps are
going through this phase where they're
trying to find themselves and they're a
little bit lost could perhaps adopt or
maybe kind of alter and
use yeah I suppose one of the things
because my you know my my weeks my
months are all very very different
because I'm kind of out doing later
different things networking you know
meeting new people you know doing some
client work it's all really really
varied but something I realized is
especially in terms of you know walking
my talk how do i thrive every day and
and i think there is something around
that that i know i'm gonna have a good
day if I literally do you know start
with exercise in the morning but then
there's something about you know that
then triggers me to then eat well
through the day will be much more aware
of what I'm eating but then also I think
there's something about taking time for
myself so I you know I have I actually
really enjoy time on my own in terms of
you know either listening to a
meditation doing a bit of journaling you
know I don't have a set time in which I
do that and actually give myself a bit
of a break on some of that stuff and
think actually you know what do I feel
like today like what is going to enrich
me what's going to feed my soul today
and sometimes it's actually even just
connecting with certain people that I
know do that for me as well I spend a
lot of time with my family
and so I've got two young nephews and I
you know where I can they're probably
you know them and my parents are the
ones I think okay I'm gonna get a buzz
from spending some time and that's the
freedom and flexibility I love working
for yourself that you can factor in time
to do you know and suspend where you
know you're gonna get a lot in return
and it is going to enrich you and these
are things that I don't want to ever
look back on my life and think I didn't
make time for the right people and and
all of that so I think having the
freedom and flexibility is what I really
appreciate but also I've realized
stepping away from corporate now just
how free I am to learn and grow in
subjects and areas that literally feed
my soul so
I'm a passionate you know I just feel
this so much more I've got to learn and
so I do you know spend quite a bit of
time in terms of reading absorbing
thinking out how I can use some of this
information with my clients and so I'm
just constantly feeding myself like
knowledge but also experience and giving
myself time to still get to know myself
a lot more and I've kind of said my
husband and myself a challenge this year
that this year is all about us in on an
individual level so what is it that we
both need to do for ourselves so that we
are still connected and I kind of feel
like I although I am connected to myself
I still feel there's so much more I need
to know about myself and I think that
typically again the whole you know I'm
the big sister I all my energy goes on
everybody else and and I need to write
what I really want to just stop and
think actually stop focusing on
everybody else focus on you and what is
it that you need I think you need to
obvious if it's like the analogy you
need to fill your own cock before you
can fill out the people's up there's so
many fantastic points you saw you spoke
about there you walk in the taught
you're getting to know yourself and I
think in a relationship and being in
relationship myself as well just getting
to know yourself and your own needs as
an individual I think his song yeah so I
love my wife to bits she's my rock she's
everything and she allows me to do what
I'm doing today
but we've also I'm very fortunate that
she thinks similar to myself we both
realize we have our own needs as well
and I think you need to all as
individuals but ourselves kind of first
and I know it kind of sounds selfish but
in order if you can do that right I
think that we can obviously give so much
more out to the world yeah and I don't
you know I've kind of challenged you
know I've always thought oh my god is it
selfish is it selfish and I realize
actually it really isn't that self
nurture and that self-love and self-care
just means that you you do fill your own
cup first you know you are the best
person you can be
and then other people benefit from that
they don't burn a curd and InTouch and
all of those kinds of things I think
people it's so much more from when you
are in a good place so whatever you need
to do to get yourself into that good
place first that's what everybody
benefits absolutely i 100% agree i think
the hardest probably point is for anyone
who's very giving in the nature and
actually is to kind of flip that breath
but yeah i think you've hit the nail on
the head I've seen massive improvements
in my life my wealth my health and
everything and by taking that slightly
selfish approach and to be honest it
doesn't even need to be anything
extensive so what I do is I wake up an
hour before my wife and within that hour
I will listen to something that will
help me mentally and I'll go to the gym
within that hour so by the time I come
back I'm then fully present and focused
on like my relationship and then the
work and he just it just works so much
better so yeah fantastic the the next
thing I always like to kind of ask my
guess is about adversity and I know I
know some of your story and I know with
the kinds of scare as well I mean if you
feel comfortable could you explain
perhaps maybe for listeners who could be
going through a similar situation or can
resonate with your story a particular
example of when you've you've gone
through this adversity and it's like a
particular day and how you overcame it
and I think more importantly the lessons
you've learned from it because I think
that's really important that hopefully
that can give some insight to the
listeners yeah sure so and you know
cancer is my story really and if you'd
have said to me years ago you know what
do you want to be named or like I would
never have chosen cancer but it has
literally is big it's become the very
unwelcome visitor in my family who keeps
on showing up and bringing a different
friend every time which is just really
really annoying but you can either drown
with all of that or you can find a way
through and and I've chosen to find a
way through and I suppose our story
started I suppose in in 2012 and my
husband was diagnosed with lymphoma so
that's a blood cancer and that you know
obviously
just knocked the not Dez off her feet
completely because he was the one
actually narration when a relationship
who is a healthy one and actually my
family a lot of people would look at my
husband and think no this guy's me this
guy goes to the gym and he eats well and
you know and he's a good guy and and so
that really shook and it was the first
kind of real experience in my immediate
family of cancer and his family and so
we you know we didn't know how to deal
with it we didn't know how to cope with
it what we realized you know very
quickly was you know you lose all sense
of kind of control and you become part
of the system and so even for me I you
know being the person on the sidelines
that wasn't really able to do anything
so as a carer you know it took hist oh
because everything centered you know
around the cancer and everything
centered around his treatment is
all-encompassing and it's over thing you
you just think live breathe cancer what
are we gonna do and and then you get
stuck in the system of like okay we're
gonna do chemo and his and his chemo
started straight away and you know and
you get into a regime takes loads of
different drugs in between chemo cycles
and and yeah it was the it was it was
mental you know as a family like
everybody was just like how did we deal
with this and and that can cause tension
in itself because everybody wants to
protect to make him better
of course you know and I think so that
was really really tough in terms of
navigating how we were approaching it
and in the end my parents were amazing
and you know my husband fainted after
his first chemo when we were just at
home and so my parents said actually you
know you can't do this on your own and
so we moved in with them so that I could
still do a little bit of work work for
me were they saying as an employer and I
had an amazing boss who basically just
said he's your priority look after him
and work when you can so I was so so
lucky just kind of to it with you know
is really they were so supportive and I
know how lucky we are because that isn't
often the case in cancer journeys
and so we just kind of fell into a
routine in terms of managing symptoms
the one thing it really did bring home
was oh my god do we stress about stuff
that really isn't important you know and
use every day yeah I know because I
think we all think we're invincible and
nothing's going to happen to us and so
we get ourselves so caught up in things
that aren't important and so we realized
you know when he was on that journey and
and every day and you know in his 21
days there's always different as to how
he would feel and there are some nice
side you know like people get angry and
you know and and miserable because of
what the drugs are doing to them and so
there's lots of things you don't see in
terms of you know from cancer and and
but we did start enjoying simple things
so just going for a walk you know we're
going for a cup of tea in a cake all of
these simple things that we so take for
granted suddenly it became so big
because whenever he was actually up to
it and was able to do that that was a
big thing in our day so so that was
tough and then on a holiday to celebrate
the end of his cancer journey so he was
really lucky and he he responded really
well to treatment and he was in
remission and then we went on holiday to
celebrate the end of his treatment and
him going back to work and then on
holiday I found a lump in my breast so
look at that so that I mean that was the
bit that it was hard because you know we
obviously thought we were we were at the
end of it and and we were and for me
that was really hard because because I
just wasn't used to putting myself first
or even being the center of anything
will essential attention and and the one
the biggest learning I suppose from that
whole journey was it made me realize
that I matter I didn't realize that all
that should be eating had um a bit and
actually I'm so grateful for cancer for
making me realize that
you know it totally made me step off
that treadmill of life that was the
trigger for me in terms of you know okay
now it made me question everything
everybody in my life everything that I
did how I was living my life and
obviously I'm so so grateful that both
of us got through it you know I I have
obviously been part of some journey
sense where people haven't got through
it and you know a really good friend of
mine like one of my best friends who
really stepped up when I was going
through my treatment and she just you
know happened to be on maternity leave
at the time and so we ended up spending
a lot of time together and I can
honestly say that she since then has
become my real sunshine pal and so I saw
her whereas other people didn't know
what to say
and it's awkward and people avoid you
when and things like that she rose to
the occasion and she stepped in and and
she just became you know I'd like to go
see her and she just whisked me off for
tea and cake and do things you know we
didn't have a nice lunches some lovely
lovely things and who knew that
literally in that year in 2013 as I was
going through my journey her and her
husband then moved from where they were
living in Windsor up to Nottingham share
and which would be near her family
because she just had her second child
and then her husband got diagnosed with
bowel cancer and sadly he dies in 2016
at the edge of that overall and I just
think but you know mine and Louise's
relationship as a result of all of this
is it has become so tie and so strong
even though we've got distance between
us in miles how she actually has
inspired me beyond belief in terms of
how you how you face death because sadly
we hate talking about death but you know
death is a part of life and and actually
being at the end being there at the end
when you know George very peacefully
buried I'm seeing how she was and how
she shared that with her two boys who
were three and one and a half
literally today inspires me to my core
every single minute of how she dealt
with that and how she continues to deal
with it actually so much so that
shameless plug here we are going to do
overall cod cuts terms of adversity and
you know um what it how it can change
your life and in a way but better if you
if you allow it if you hold it yeah if
you choose to see things differently and
it is all about perspective and the gift
in the suffering you know so there is
something that can come from it and
that's why we do you know of course our
own little sunshine tribe people that we
know will always hold that space for us
and will always let us live loudly live
big dream big be the best that we can be
the first thing I want to say is uh you
you spoke about gratitude day I'm just
very grateful hearing your story and I'm
thankful that you're able to share this
for me I was getting I was getting a
little choked up myself a little bit
there because I can relate in terms of
cancer just ripping through families and
causing this heartache
and I sincerely hope that you know the
kinds of scares for yourself your
husband and for your friend and for
anyone out there really that you know
that they're long gone and that we find
a solution and you know your health goes
from strength to strength you you also
you touched on some amazing things and
one of my wallpapers on my phone is
actually there's beauty in the struggle
it's just a little quote and it comes
from a song but I think at that time we
always think you know it's just
happening to us and the world is
happening to us and it's it's all about
perception and I been through quite a
bit as I'm sure the listeners have and
yourself and I really have managed to
start changing my perception when
something bad happens to myself and I
think it's made me the person that it is
today you touched on beautiful little
things like just going for a walk and
having a slice of cake with a cup of tea
and I think we often forget these little
things because we're in this world where
we see social media and we chase and
this we're chasing this dream that some
celebrity or some improv
has got on there we get the beauty lies
already within us and it's within reach
yeah and I think sometimes we're chasing
this stuff because we think we're not
enough and you know and we need to
constantly be feeling like there's more
there's more you know and I just
sometimes I just think there's so much
in the simplicity of a moment where
you're not actually doing anything is
just you're with the right people you
know and there's just something magical
that if we stopped and and stopped it's
a really big word for me right now in
terms of stuff and just let it be or
fully appreciated it was you know I kind
of think this this one moment in time
right now is the only one that we can
influence absolutely and it's the one
that's going to be you know if we
appreciate how good we've got it right
now in this very moment then we realize
how blessed and how lucky we are because
we can't influence you know we all have
dreams on what we want for the future
we've got experiences in the past that
have shape does and I you know I've had
to realize that I'm not going to have
all the dreams that I wanted and my life
has not gone the way it when I was 20
that I kind of expected it to go but boy
am i a richer person because of air
sometimes we don't know what's good for
us and what is in and and if I don't
make the most of the rest of my life now
I've got the choice to realize that I'm
not forever and you know and right now
how blessed am I for the experiences
I've had up to now and I know that there
will be loads more twists and turns in
this life then was I've always got a
choice in how I respond and I've got a
choice - you know I would definitely say
acknowledge the emotions acknowledge
everything that comes your way give it
space to let it teach you something you
know I still know that a lot of my
cancer journey for myself I did it in
through denial you know I kept on
putting a smile on my face is what
people needed around me that's the other
thing I want to anyone going through a
cancer Joe
just just expect the family and friends
just know that that patient quite often
and is having to be really really strong
you I mean because they can see the fear
in your face and actually I know the
thing that really helped me through my
journey was having a counselor she was
the person that I could go to that you
know wasn't you know a close family or
friend and and she was the one I could
go to and say what if I die you know
what do I need to acknowledge in my life
how do I prepare myself if that is
because you when you get the cancer
diagnosis you face your mortality
it's a massive smack in the face you
know and you realize have I done
everything I've wanted to do up to now
and like you said earlier in the podcast
don't wait you know for the cancer
diagnosis don't wait for that you know
another massive illness or something
live like now because you know if you
trust any of them and they are true I'm
sure all like the stats that are out
there by 2020 so next year one in two of
us are going to be affected by cancer at
some point in our lives and although my
family's taking taking one for the team
in quite a big way I I still think it's
more you know just to stop and
acknowledge the power of you right now
and living the life that you want to
live on your terms absolutely absolutely
I I want to talk about something just
after this first point the first point
is that just in relation to what you
said there and you you you got yourself
a cunt counsellor sorry to speak to you
about having been through would you have
preferred your family to maybe speak to
you openly about it rather than kind of
see as the elephant in the room because
I only ask that because I find it very
very difficult if like when my uncle's
got it or when my uncle passed away with
it do you kind of speak to him about it
and it was always kind of we just
ignoring and pretend everything's happy
and we're all smiling yet we'd go home
and we'd feel sad and then I I know they
would be sad would you employ people to
kind of maybe have that conversation or
do you think it's best left with the
next day
source like a counselor I think
everyone's unique and everybody or you
know because knowing that I use denial
as a coping mechanism I'm not sure that
I would have been ready for certain
family members to say to me okay tell me
what's going on here and how you're
feeling it was actually safer for me to
have somebody outside of my circle and
because I was in denial
putting the smile on for everybody else
and you know and navigating through it
did help the other big thing I probably
really do want to share at this point is
within the Asian community we really
need to start talking about cancer
because it is here it exists and we run
away from it and I know these only my
husband was diagnosed and actually you
know there's a lot of people in our
family still don't know that we bake had
it because we bore a smile or carried on
and and you know I had the most amazing
wig and so I had the most amazing hair
every single day and and so I just think
you know I even turned up at family
functions where people didn't know and
partly because we weren't able to deal
with their handling of it so in a way
I'm not saying everybody should know and
everyone deals with it differently but I
knew that if the more people be told the
more you don't managing their emotions
about the situation than having the
energy to focus on yourself and to do
what's right to get you through it so
there's no right or wrong everyone has
their own way of doing dealing with it
but I think acknowledging it as a family
if that person I shared it with you and
taking the time just to say you know
what can I do how can I help the procure
thing I remember typing a friend of mine
who's whose friend had it I remember
saying to her she said what can I do and
said take her sunshine I said you know
she doesn't want to talk about so all
the time you know she actually just
wants you to acknowledge her as her she
wants you to
you know she can still talk about the
weather she can tell you what she
watched on telly last night
cancer is all-encompassing and sometimes
you just want to break from it and you
talk about other things and you want to
talk about things that you talked before
and the one thing I know I craved was
normality I was so desperate to go back
to the life I had before cancer
Peyman and and you know I can like you
know I'm so full that I can go back to
you know typically the life was like
before now because you know within a
much better place and I know that's not
the case for everybody but know that
when you're on the journey the one thing
you're craving is normality that's
really powerful thank you for sharing
that I think that's that's a great point
and the like you said the Asian
communities everything seems to be a
taboo in the Asian community whether
it's cancer whether it's mental health
it's kind of everything is just brushed
entirely under the carpet which is a
shame but I'm just I just want to go
back to my initial point I really want
to do just highlight you said earlier in
the podcast that I this unwelcome
visitor cancer and you'll be known for
cancer in your eyes and I just want you
to know and I sincerely mean this is
that I think you're an amazing soul and
you'll be remembered for a lot more than
that you'll be remembered from this very
short interaction with yourself now your
inspiring is half out your kindness and
your endearing nature and I think all
the good things that cancer has brought
out of you because I believe it was
always within you to help other people
is truly amazing and you know I would
never just see you as that and that's
from our very short conversation so I
just wanted you to know that I'll bless
you I was I was gonna say that you know
I really want people to know that
there's joy joy runs through my core so
no matter what I kind of think please
find the joy in the simple things and
the big things in through everything I
just think you know just live a life
that is just full of that kindness love
and joy so I just think and that is
where I do walk my talk in terms of you
know making sure that I do find a way
through and you go I know you go what's
your biggest fear in this moment today I
think it is you knowing about what the
cancer has
I do I still fear of it returning a
ferret returning my husband for me for
you know other members of my family
because you know you just think although
I've learned in lessons and I still
sometimes think like okay if it did what
would I do but then I just I do
sometimes just stop myself and going X
I'm like okay like I said earlier bit me
of being a bit of a hypocrite you can I
can only influence today that's a day as
far as I'm aware I don't have it and so
actually that make the most of today so
I think there's always going to be that
underlying fear once it's been there in
your life you know but then I suppose
that's maybe why I'm on over tribe of
cramming as much wonderfulness into as I
possibly can and so and I know I've got
the strength to deal with it in
whichever guys it does if it does so I
think sometimes I just take myself to
what is that fear acknowledge it think
about how I'd handle it and then put it
to bed so don't let it kind of like
overtake and so I think yeah I think
it's it's still there in the background
lurking that's fine that's fine and I
suppose that's probably you don't really
need anything to keep you motivated
I suppose in life because a lot of lot
of people I come in contact with on a
daily basis we're all trying to motivate
ourselves to make the most of life and
you just said a beautiful word there I'm
not even sure if it's a word but it just
sounds beautiful wonderfulness and I
think if we can all make the most of our
days and they're over driving that you
use in I think I think it's so important
I try to do that as well as ie 100
percent think sleep is important but I
think once you have enough sleep then
stop hitting that snooze button really
try and make if you if you want to do
something in life go out there and do it
if you want to connect with someone go
and connect with them if you want to
tell someone you love them then go and
tell them because your stories are
living proof of this you can't take
nothing for granted in this world no too
many of us do spend a you know life
taking a lot for granted absolutely and
people supplanted and I just think
there's something about the magic in the
people around us and
what they bring you and and to share
that with them and select them no
because we can't take anything for
granted
absolutely and I think I mean I'm not
going to sit here and say I take I don't
take things for granted because I I D
but what I've done is and it's just a
little tip for somebody who's probably
not gone through the harsh circumstances
that you have is to really try and have
triggers in your day so for me I have my
wallpaper on my phone I have a photo of
me and my wife have a photo of my family
and I have all these little triggers
where if I ever kind of revert back to
my old habits it will snap me straight
out of place and think I don't fix up
overdrive because because this fault was
there where people are missing as far as
there were people are ill and it's just
it makes you think completely
differently and I just you don't want
you don't want people to go through that
life or have those experiences but I
think sometimes like you said when you
struggle or you go through adversity if
anything it becomes I suppose I can gift
into curses and it you get the case but
then you get a gift from it as well at
the other side I was gonna say when you
get the suffering and I you know there's
something in that suffering but
suffering is also teaching you so much
if you allow it and if you don't fight
it Sam and I just think there's
something in the pain part and that does
then bring the gift when you're ready to
see it okay we are gonna shift gears now
actually we're gonna start smiling now
and what we're gonna do is this is
actually the fun part of the show where
I literally put my guests through just
60 seconds of the most random questions
you've probably heard this week so
there's no right or wrong answer just
try and obviously with your face thought
process and we're gonna start in 3 2 1
okay what did you eat for breakfast Oh
peanut butter on taste the ability to
fly or be invisible fly when your fame
I think Fame for this message your
biggest achievement to date surviving
cancer your favorite food
oh my mum's lamb curry Netflix our
YouTube each aid your number one goal
this year Oh
to to thrive everyday but I really
want to raise the game on how people
live their lives more fully and so to
help people understand how much they
matter would you rather not how you a
died or when you were dying
when love or money love books or movies
books if you could sit with one person
in the world for an hour who would it be
Maya Angela what is your biggest
addiction oh gosh don't know but I'm
addicted to anything really other than
this constant need to better myself were
to learn more and it's all more that's a
brilliant addiction your favorite place
in the world I have to say I took myself
off on a holiday to Brazil and there was
a beautiful hammock on my on my little
balcony I was on my own actually this is
me testing myself and that hammock and
that v---aids on a beach in Brazil was
yeah one I'll never forget if you could
abolish one thing in the world what
would it be I suppose it's ignorance or
people being unkind to each other love
that and finally your favorite song ever
oh my god actually cherish I'm gonna get
cherish cool in the gang
I've heard that played live and is
beautiful brilliant okay fantastic so
the next question I always like to ask
my guess is about reflection I believe
hindsight's a wonderful thing and upon
reflection we can always think of ways
to get to where we currently are quicker
easier or with less heartache but at the
same time the journey teaches us so much
and it's a real belief of mine that
everything happens for a reason so what
I want to know is if you could go back
in time to that one moment where you
struggled say as a younger vet Danny
well somewhere down the line and
suffered with adversity or an obstacle
or anything in life maybe the first time
and you could whisper something in your
ear knowing everything you know now what
would it be and I think it would be that
I'd want to say it's okay you're exactly
where you're meant to be right now you
know don't by to allow the lesson to
come feel the pain feel the feelings and
just trust that there's going to be some
lesson that your learner is as a result
of this and you'll be a better person as
a result of this so just trust and
actually ask for help I'm really bad ass
not asking for help and that's one thing
I've learned is ask for help
mmm-hmm are you better at asking for
help now I am and I know but I also know
who who I know so I've got you know some
space it probably is more my friends now
and you know and some family members I
just think I know what they won what
which ones will give me what I need love
it and if I can help in any way as well
I know you having a podcast soon or any
anything in relation to thrive sixteen
six five or even personally please do
let me know thank you you're very
welcome
sadly we're actually at the last
question now and the last question I
always ask is if in 150 years time
science fails to save us all and all
that's left is a book and this book is
about your life and it's about
everything that you've done everything
you've accomplished all your dreams and
everything what I want to know is what
the summary at the back of the book
would say and also what the title would
be okay and say I think it's gonna be
the summary in the back it's gonna read
something along the lines of no matter
what life threw at her she felt the pain
she cried the tears and then she chose
to rise and she took the lesson learned
something from it she found something to
spark the joy you know she was the queen
of finding the silver lining and I think
there's there's always gonna be fun in
anything that I do and and I there's a
beautiful Maya Angelou quotes and she
just says and still I rise and I think
that would be the title of the book
because I just think you know that life
is tough but then so am I you are that's
very very powerful thank you for sharing
that and just before we close the show I
just want the listeners to be able to
reach out to you if that's okay I know
you're busy and you're probably juggling
loads of things but I think
it'd be worth people following the
movement maybe maybe they can support as
well so I normally ask my guests to
leave one place but I think because you
do such a wonderful thing and it's you
know it's gonna serve the community
you're welcome to give as many plugins
as you as you wish okay lovely so the
the easiest one would be my Instagram
account and that's thrive bet so that's
one LinkedIn please follow me on
LinkedIn and please if you can introduce
me to your to your businesses or
somebody that can just come in and hold
that space and allow you to thrive and
that would be amazing the other thing
that I really did want to mention with
if anyone's heard of Simon Thompson who
is a lady that had her Instagram account
is free in cancer and she's permanently
going through a stage 4 lung cancer
diagnosis at a very young age so I think
she's just turned 30 and Simon has set
up a Facebook page baam e for cancer and
I think it is just about uniting the
ethnic communities so that we do start
talking about cancer and we you know we
open the debate we have the debate and
we start sharing a lot more so it's just
it's a supportive little community just
to hold that space for each other as we
navigate through and yeah and please
follow primer as well she's doing some
amazing work that's fantastic and what I
will do is I'll probably get those off
you so I can put them all in the show
notes just sort of anything you know for
anyone to reach out to you and also to
that Facebook page as well because I
think that's a really really important
thing I want to once again thank
everyone for listening and more
importantly I really want to thank you
for your bravery and your openness to
share your story and inspire many people
and thanks for taking time out of your
day and there's always people thanks for
listening well my pleasure and thanks
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