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Welcome to the “You Can Handle Anything” podcast! I’m your host, Shira Gura, and I know firsthand what it’s like to feel trapped by emotions like frustration, anger, and disappointment—emotions that can keep you from fully enjoying your life and relationships. But here’s the truth: In every moment, you have a choice. You can manage your emotions… or let them manage you. That’s why I developed The unSTUCK Method®—a simple, practical technique designed to help you regain control in the heat of ...
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In this episode, I talk about living from possibility. Living from possibility means envisioning a better reality and actively shaping interactions to be more positive. It's about seeing past the cycle of negative experiences and using proactive communication to transform relationships. Embracing this approach can lead to more fulfilling connection…
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In this podcast episode, I explore the common yet often unspoken issue of shame that many people feel when confronting negative emotions, getting emotionally stuck, or facing relationship problems. It's incredibly normal to feel embarrassed about needing tools to manage one's emotional health, but this shame is truly unnecessary. Once individuals j…
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379: Use the Tool - It Works When You Use It!
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Have you ever signed up for a gym membership full of enthusiasm, only to see it go unused? That’s exactly what sometimes happens when it comes to using The unSTUCK Method. We know it's there, we know it can help us, we know it's within our reach and yet, we sometimes forget to use it. In this week’s "You Can Handle Anything!" podcast, I explain why…
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In this podcast episode, I discuss the significant role of language in managing emotions and enhancing well-being. The term "stuck" is pivotal in my approach; recognizing when you're "stuck" on an emotion is crucial because it signals that there's a method to help you move forward. I encourage rephrasing emotional states, such as changing "I'm angr…
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This podcast focuses on the importance of taking personal responsibility, especially when feeling emotionally stuck. Often, the instinct is to blame others for our feelings, but this approach means we're not fully owning our part. Taking personal responsibility involves acknowledging, owning, and processing our own thoughts and emotions. By doing s…
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This week's "You Can Handle Anything" is going to be slightly different than usual. Instead of sharing one of my stories, I'm going to share with you someone else's. And that "someone else" is the actor, Andrew McCarthy. I'm going to dive into the intriguing story of Andrew McCarthy and the infamous "Brat Pack" label that shaped his career. The fil…
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In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I explore the heavy and often sneaky nature of guilt, sharing a personal story from a recent family dinner. After deciding not to partake in desserts my mom made, I was unexpectedly overwhelmed by guilt, despite making a simple, healthy choice for myself. Guilt is a complex emotion that can quickly tran…
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Have you ever felt incredibly strongly about something, only to find yourself talking to someone who sees things the exact opposite way? Or maybe they just can’t see your side at all? It’s beyond frustrating. You might argue back and forth, but no matter what you say, they don’t budge. It feels like you’re the only one suffering, but it’s likely to…
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Ever felt stuck on how to respond when someone close does something you disagree with? Reacting impulsively can damage relationships and make you regret your actions, while staying silent might leave you feeling like a doormat. Here's a tip: try asking for permission to share your feelings. It’s a respectful way to communicate without overstepping,…
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Ever wake up feeling weighed down by regret over something you did yesterday? 😞 It's a heavy feeling, and it can linger all day—or even longer. This hit me hard after a recent Father's Day celebration. We planned to spend the day with extended family, about 3 hours from my parents' house. I decided to go, even though it meant rescheduling a regular…
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In this episode, I discuss the importance of morning routines and how they transform my day. I share how my morning starts with peace and quiet, using practices like breathwork, yoga, and my essential "Getting Unstuck" worksheet. This routine isn't just about starting the day; it's about clearing out leftover emotions and setting a positive tone. L…
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Big news—I’m about to hop on a jet plane and head to the United States for the summer! ✈️ Every year, I cherish this chance to reconnect with family and friends, but this summer, I’m hoping to do something special: an "Unstuck Summer." From my base in New Jersey to as far as California (or even Canada!), I’m looking to bring the power of The unSTUC…
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In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into one of the most common but overlooked issues in relationships: the "rulebooks" we create for others. These are the expectations we set about how people should act, speak, and behave—like putting away shoes or doing dishes. Often, the other person is unaware of these rules, leading to frustr…
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Ever catch yourself thinking, "I wish I could..." or "I wish I had..."? 🤔 Those aren't just daydreams; they're powerful desires pointing you toward your destiny. Most of us try to chase these dreams by setting goals. But here's the tough truth: most people don't achieve them. Why? Well, I want to share two big reasons: They get hyper-focused on the…
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Ever felt totally swamped by all the work on your plate, whether it's a project, daily chores, or even just tidying up the house? 🤯 It's tempting to blame the chaos around you for that sense of overwhelm, but what if the real cause is something else entirely? Tune in to discover the root of your overwhelm and learn practical tips to conquer it for …
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Ever been called a terrible parent by your own child? Yup, that's exactly what happened to me recently. 😢 And trust me, it wasn't fun. But here's the good news: Instead of getting defensive, the new Shira handled it differently. 🌟 I stayed calm, kept control, and responded in a way that made me proud. It's not that I'm special. I just had The unSTU…
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In this week's episode, I share with you a new project I'm working on, as I drop a fresh "Consideration" daily inside The Unstuck Revolution, inspiring members to rethink their responses and simplify their lives. Tune in to hear my plan to craft 365 Considerations, one per day, eventually bundling them into my next book. Join The Unstuck Revolution…
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In this episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, I discuss a personal dilemma between two appealing options and how I used The unSTUCK Method to find clarity. Faced with a decision that stirred mixed emotions at home, I turned to this structured process to guide my choice, ensuring it aligned with my values. This brief 10-minute episode ex…
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In this exciting episode, I'm thrilled to launch The Unstuck Revolution, a comprehensive platform designed to help you handle life's emotional challenges with more ease. Developed from The unSTUCK Method I created a decade ago, this platform offers training, community support, daily teachings, and ongoing Challenges to empower you to manage your re…
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Have you ever had a day where your simple plans just don’t pan out? Not the life-changing ones, but the daily stuff: a walk, cooking a specific meal, finishing a task. Out of the blue, things happen, and what you wanted to do just can’t be done. When that happens, you face a choice: stick with the frustration or move past it. Every moment gives you…
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In this episode, I share a personal challenge from my son's Bar Mitzvah day when everything was set up wrong. Faced with frustration and the dilemma of speaking up without causing conflict, I turned to The unSTUCK Method. Discover how I navigated this tricky situation, ensuring a joyful day. This 14-minute story could change how you handle your nex…
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Have you ever caught yourself worrying too much about what other people think? This happened to me last week while I was getting ready for my youngest son's Bar Mitzvah. I was busy making plans and found myself stuck on worrying about what my friends would think of my decisions. This worry made me super anxious and I just couldn't shake it off. It'…
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Ever been called out and it hurts? It feels mean and makes you want to fight back. Everything goes so quick, and you feel like all you can do is get mad. But there’s a way to deal with it. If you notice you're getting upset, you can work through those feelings. This is what learning to "get unstuck" with The unSTUCK Method is all about. Doing this,…
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In this episode, I explore the pitfalls of disappointment and unsolicited advice. Discover why managing others often leads to neglecting our own needs and how The unSTUCK Method can help. Join me for a personal story about trying to "teach" my husband a lesson, and learn why letting go is key. It’s an 8-minute listen with insights that could transf…
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Have you ever had the experience where someone asks you to do a favor for them - and you gladly help out - only to realize you didn't succeed exactly the way the request was intended? I just hate it when that happens. It's like no good deed ever goes unpunished, right? When that happens, it's so easy to get stuck on self-judgment, self-criticism, a…
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Have you ever wanted to jump in and help when you see something happening to someone else? It's totally normal! But sometimes, it's not our place to fix everything. I recently saw something happening between my husband and my son the other night at dinner. At first, I wanted to step in, but I caught myself. Instead took myself through The unSTUCK M…
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Over a decade ago, I created The unSTUCK Method to help me manage my emotions in real time. This tool has transformed my life. Now, I coach others using this method to break free from the emotional triggers they face. Supporting someone this way can profoundly impact their life. This week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast features an excerpt of "…
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Have you ever found yourself caught between the excitement of working toward a goal or a new project and the anxiety of awaiting results? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, patience often feels like a forgotten virtue. But what if I told you that embracing patience could be the secret ingredient to not only achieving your goals but also enj…
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In this episode of "You Can Handle Anything," I delve into a less talked-about phenomenon: getting stuck on positive emotions like excitement. It's common to find ourselves overwhelmed by excitement, impacting our daily routines and priorities. I share my personal experience of navigating this excitement trap, and how I used The unSTUCK Method and …
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When someone triggers you with rude or insensitive words or actions, it's natural to wish it hadn't occurred. The challenge lies in acknowledging that it DID happen. Refusing to accept reality leads to unnecessary suffering. While you may dislike the event or find it perplexing, embracing trust in the present reality facilitates a smoother journey.…
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Ever wondered why managing emotions "in the moment" in tough situations is crucial? When you don't, you can get hijacked by them, leading to behavior you later regret. And that can lead you to get trapped in a stuck cycle, holding onto negative emotions and feeling like you just can't let go. And, of course, over time that doesn't only impact how y…
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Have you ever gotten upset and acted in a way you later regretted? It happens to all of us. Even in those quick and tough moments, remember: you can choose how you react. I recently asked my husband, for the fifth time, to put something away. His reaction seemed too much, triggering me to react like I used to. But this time, I decided to be my best…
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Life is full of triggers that can make us feel stuck in a whirlwind of emotions. But guess what? "You can handle anything." But what does that actually mean? It means so much more than just "dealing" with things. And when you truly comprehend what this is all about, you learn how to be less reactive and in more control. Discover the real deal behin…
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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wronged someone, and they chose to forgive you? It's an indescribable and uplifting sensation, isn't it? Recently, I had the privilege of experiencing this profound power of forgiveness firsthand. Just a couple of weeks ago, I unintentionally offered unsolicited parenting advice to a friend duri…
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Ever find yourself pondering, "Why do certain people always seem to trigger me?" Ever feel like mastering self-control should be second nature by now? Ever entertain the thought that you might be the sole person repeatedly grappling with triggers? Embark on a transformative journey with this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. …
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Have you ever considered the impact of each moment in our lives? It's a chance to make some profound choices – like deciding what to think, how to feel, or who we aspire to be. The thing is, these crucial moments often slip by without us truly seizing them. Ever catch yourself thinking things like, "This moment doesn't matter anyway"? Those thought…
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Ever wondered if you could actually choose your feelings, steering them in the direction you desire? It might sound improbable, especially when emotions seem automatic and beyond our control. I pondered this last night while attending a national basketball game in Israel amid the current war with Hamas. The weight of the ongoing conflict triggered …
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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I'll be satisfied when this happens," or "I'll be happy once I achieve that goal"? Or perhaps you've found yourself waiting for someone else to change before everything gets better. It happens to the best of us. Life doesn't always unfold as we expect, and it's easy to fall into the trap of postponing our ha…
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Feeling that familiar frustration of being out of control? You're not alone—it's a common experience. But let me share a little secret: it's not a reflection of you; it's the stories you tell yourself that take the lead. Discover the art of reclaiming control by making intentional choices with your narratives. In this week's "You Can Handle Anythin…
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Ever felt that sinking disappointment when those close to you fall short? Whether it's your spouse, child, co-worker, friend, or even a stranger, the frustration of trying to change them can be overwhelming, only to realize it's beyond your control. The urge to alter someone else often traps you in a cycle of frustration and disappointment. But, th…
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Mourner's guilt, also known as survivor's guilt, is a natural response that can follow the harrowing experience of surviving when others did not. It can affect anyone, regardless of their sensitivity levels, and it often brings feelings of depression, anxiety, and, of course, guilt. Join me this week on the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast as I di…
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We all have those moments when our reactions happen automatically, almost like a reflex. It's a part of being human, a natural thing we do without even realizing it. But guess what? We always have a choice about how we react to the things that bother us. Sometimes, though, making that choice isn't easy, and that's when we need some handy tools to h…
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If you've ever felt like people were judging you based on how you look, the way they react, or what they say, you're not alone. It's easy to get upset and defensive when this happens. I recently faced a situation like this when I received an unexpected email. Instead of reacting quickly, I used The unSTUCK Method to respond thoughtfully. I realized…
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When you get triggered, do you ever find yourself sweating the small stuff, spiraling out of control, or turning into someone you don't even recognize? What if you could make every moment count and stop your emotions from taking over? How would your life change? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, catch an insider's per…
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What does it mean to be "emotionally balanced"? Is being "emotionally balanced" even something we should strive for? How can you become a more "emotionally balanced" person? In this week's episode of the "You Can Handle Anything" podcast, join me on a journey to discover how you can cultivate greater emotional balance in your life, starting today. …
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I'm turning 50 this month, and I've chosen a unique way to celebrate - by sharing the gift of music with the world. I'm passionate about composing music, and I've written many tunes over the years. However, most have never been professionally recorded or shared. For my 50th birthday, I've set an ambitious goal: to record and release one new tune ev…
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335: When Someone Causes You to Doubt Yourself
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Have you ever encountered a situation where someone's words or actions planted a seed of doubt in your mind, causing you to question yourself? Getting stuck in self-doubt can be challenging, especially when it's triggered by external sources. Tune in to this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast to hear how my 15-year-old son navigated the self-…
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Have you ever noticed yourself absorbing other people's emotions? It's as if their bad mood or their entangled stories become your own, leaving you feeling powerless. This dynamic can often make you feel like you're handing over your personal power to someone else. In this week's episode, I share a personal experience where my husband was feeling i…
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333: Not Everyone is Supposed to Like You
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Do you ever worry about how others perceive you? Have you ever held back from speaking your mind because you fear disapproval? Discover the power of The unSTUCK Method in this week's "You Can Handle Anything" podcast. Learn how to navigate your thoughts and emotions, freeing yourself from the trap of overthinking. Remember, getting stuck is a part …
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332: The "Silence Negative Self-Talk" Challenge
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Join me in a FREE 3-Day Challenge called "Silence Negative Self-Talk." This is a fantastic chance to interact with me in real-time, pick up some new techniques I haven't talked about on this podcast before, and discover more about how you can be part of my community. Don't miss out! Enroll now by clicking here. I'm excited to have you with me for t…
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