Unshakable Boundaries: The Warrior’s Guide to Saying No

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No is one of the most powerful words you can have.
Saying no can feel challenging, especially for people pleasers.
Establishing boundaries is crucial for healthy relationships.
A clear no can serve as an exit strategy in difficult situations.
It's important to not take shit while doing no harm.
We will encounter tests and challenges in life.
Setting firm boundaries is essential for self-protection.
Being in relationship with our no is vital for trust.
Peace and strength can coexist in our lives.
Getting comfortable with your no is a beautiful gift.

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"Saying no can feel challenging."
"Do no harm, but take no shit."
"Get comfortable with your no."

Chapters

00:00The Power of Saying No

12:20The Warrior Archetype and Boundaries

325 episodes

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Unshakable Boundaries: The Warrior’s Guide to Saying No

PEAK MIND

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published about a year ago

MP3•Episode home

Takeaways

No is one of the most powerful words you can have.
Saying no can feel challenging, especially for people pleasers.
Establishing boundaries is crucial for healthy relationships.
A clear no can serve as an exit strategy in difficult situations.
It's important to not take shit while doing no harm.
We will encounter tests and challenges in life.
Setting firm boundaries is essential for self-protection.
Being in relationship with our no is vital for trust.
Peace and strength can coexist in our lives.
Getting comfortable with your no is a beautiful gift.

Sound Bites

"Saying no can feel challenging."
"Do no harm, but take no shit."
"Get comfortable with your no."

Chapters

00:00The Power of Saying No

12:20The Warrior Archetype and Boundaries

325 episodes

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