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Ever wonder why, despite seeming to have it all on the outside, on the inside you never feel like you measure up? Do you feel you’re on a hamster wheel of work, family obligations, and the general monotony of life and wonder how you can keep it all up until you can retire? Want the second phase of your life to blow your mind with how good it can be? This podcast is for motivated women who have checked all the boxes of success, yet still feel overwhelmed, unfulfilled, and stuck. Join Dr. Aman ...
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This episode is all about pivots. Specifically, I unpack the challenging decision of making a career transitioning and how to cope with the internal and external criticism. I explore the below topics: Recognizing the signs that it’s time for a career change Understanding the importance of timing in career transitions Being open minded to unusual op…
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In this episode I am joined by dating and relationship coach Jenny Richardson to discuss all things conscious and mindful dating. Jenny opens with discussing how loss led her to examine habitual patterns affecting her own relationships, and how this process inspired her coaching journey. We unpack the importance of mind and body connection, particu…
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In this episode I am joined by April Dávila, an accomplished author, meditation instructor, and founder. We delve into April’s journey from her beginnings as a writer learning her craft to a skillful writer’s coach incorporating mindfulness into her practice. April sheds light on the extraordinary influence of mindfulness on creativity and we disc…
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In this episode, I give discomfort a much needed rebrand. We’re so used to viewing discomfort as a feeling to avoid, and as an indicator that we must be doing something wrong. In this episode I flip this paradigm on its head: what if we used discomfort as our north star? Discomfort is an important indicator that we’re heading in the right direction…
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Today’s episode is all about the power of saying 'no' and setting personal boundaries. I explore how the fear of being seen as rude or unlikable, coupled with societal expectations of compliance and people-pleasing, can result in chronic over-commitment and burnout. I detail practical advice on how to navigate this saying no: this includes taking t…
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In this episode I explore the subject of confidence: what it is, what it isn’t, and how to build it authentically and sustainably. I break down the 3 pillars of true confidence, explaining their importance and gentle ways of incorporating them into your daily life.I also break down some misconceptions about confidence, such as the false equating of…
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With 2024 on the horizon it felt prudent to discuss resolutions, why they fail, and how to make better ones. At the core of every goal is desire and good intention. Despite this, many of us don’t stick to them. There is a self-critical narrative around failed resolutions but the truth is that not sticking to them isn’t a personal failing - it’s a s…
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Holiday season is in full swing and as we all know, the fun, festivities and family time comes with its own flavor of stress. In today’s episode I discuss three ways to manage holiday stress, that (spoiler alert) work all year long: * How to ditch perfectionism by making peace with ‘good enough’, * Understanding how to stop you brain's natural tend…
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You get to decide each day how you will live your life. Many people think life is just something that happens to them and it's their job to keep up. But living that way is exhausting. It's like you're reacting to live rather than living on purpose. In this week's episode of Is This All There Is? I teach you how to stop reacting to life and start li…
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Today’s episode is about confidence: the benefits of it, the consequences of lacking it, and how to cultivate it authentically. This topic is much more complex than one might first imagine due to the conflicting messaging we’ve received about it, women especially. We are encouraged to be confident but then programmed to outsource our power and intu…
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Nobody teaches us how to actually feel an emotion in our body. We resist it, we avoid it, we react to it by overeating, drinking alcohol, taking drugs, spending money or other means of escape. We think if we're feeling an uncomfortable emotion like disappointment, guilt, or shame that something has gone wrong and we need to "fix" it. But there's no…
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44. You 2.0 - Creating Your Identity From Possibility So, who is You 2.0? Who is the person you want to become? How is she different? This isn’t the time to go into a perfectionist fantasy of telling yourself that future you is going to be 50 lbs thinner and a marathon runner and only eats vegetables and lean meat and never drinks and never swears …
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Picture this: you’re yearning to make a change in your life, you know what you want and why you want it, but you don’t act because you can’t guarantee your success. This is a common narrative in many people’s minds: that we must have all the steps figured out before taking a risk. Besides the fact that this is totally unrealistic, it’s also a form …
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As women we have been conditioned to doubt ourselves, second guess and constantly default to others for guidance. Asking for opinions isn’t inherently problematic, but an overreliance on them can result in accidentally outsourcing your power and weakening your intuitive muscle. I call this ‘living from the inside out’. In today’s episode I discuss …
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You’ve done the courses, read the books, gotten the degree and yet you’re still not where you want to be. And it’s not because you’re lazy; it's ironically because you’ve worked too hard and overrepresented passive action. In today’s episode I reveal how to work smarter and not harder by leveraging massive action. Many of us remain in our comfort z…
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We’re all too familiar with the sociopolitical glass ceiling holding people back based on their gender, race, age, disability and more. Today, however, I want us to turn our gaze inwards to address the often unchecked INNER glass ceiling: limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are our brains' way of keeping us safe from the unknown, and unfortunately w…
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When we want to affect serious changes to our physical health we hire coaches to give us a systematic plan for how to get from where we are to where we want to be. Life changes require the same deliberate planning and strategy which I unpack in this episode. All change begins with mindset shifts, and mindset shifts can only occur when you identify …
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Most of us have tried and failed to achieve work-life balance at the expense of our health and interpersonal relationships. Work-life balance is an oppressive ideal that has women doing ‘the second shift’: working full time, just to come home and do it all again in the domestic sphere. In this episode I encourage you to shift from ‘wanting it all’ …
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We all have those days where we just can’t bring ourselves to be productive. Maybe we’re coming down from the high of a holiday, or had bad sleep the night before, or we’ve woken up on a Friday and simply have nothing to give. Unproductivity can freak us out because we think that its the beginning of the end; that its confirming our deepest fear th…
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We’ve all experienced confirmation bias. It’s the tendency to search for, interpret and favor information that confirms our prior beliefs or values. Think back to that one teacher you felt was hard on you, or a colleague who always took credit for your work, or the in-law who always undermined you at family gatherings. It’s true that bad actors exi…
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You heard me! Stress is entirely unnecessary, and in this episode we’re digging deep and interrogating our unchecked belief systems around stress fueling productivity. I begin by differentiating between occasional stress and long term stress, and explain the evolutionary role stress played in keeping us safe. I then dive into the widely held belief…
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For most of us success is never a fluke. Its building blocks are the decisions, habits and mindsets that help us crystalize a vision and then break it down into smaller goals, and then break those goals down into actionable steps. Understanding the anatomy of a good goal and a realistic roadmap to achieving it, is crucial. Today’s episode is a prac…
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Most of us have an unrealistic relationship with failure. We avoid it but desire what’s on the other side of it: growth, opportunity, self-development. Today’s episode is all about flipping this script. Prepare to be challenged! I begin by illustrating the difference between the comfort zone, the learning zone and the danger zone and how recognizin…
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Your mind is the most powerful tool on the planet. Yet, if you're like most people, you probably spend very little time reflecting on how you think. After all, who thinks about thinking? But the way you think influences your emotions, which influence your actions (or lack of actions) which give you your results. If you don't learn to manage your th…
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Today I’m joined by friend and coach Jess Johnson to discuss all things emotional regulation. Jess is an emotional wellbeing coach for entrepreneurs and specialises in body-based emotional regulation. We begin by exploring her body-centred techniques for releasing trauma and negative stories through EFT. We spend the rest of the episode bouncing be…
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Good relationships are the bedrock of a good life. So today I’m introducing a fundamental truth that will transform all of your relationships for the better: your thoughts – not the actions of others – are the foundations of all relationships. It is not what our friends, partners or kids say or do – but how we feel about what they say and do, that …
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Today is all about nervousness. Nervousness is an inescapable part of life, dreaded by most and avoided by many. But avoiding situations that make us nervous is self-sabotage: nerves indicate risk, and growth is at the other side of risk. So at the very least, I’m going to help you make peace with nerves, and at best – I’m hoping to encourage you t…
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Every day you wake up with the best of intentions to complete your unending to-do list. But as the hours turn to days and the weeks into months, some tasks just don’t get done. Grab a pen and paper, today’s episode is interactive! I’m going to demystify that lack of productivity is often not a discipline or time management issue, but an energy mana…
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It’s always an appropriate time to discuss boundaries! I begin by defining boundaries and conveying that they are a tool for connecting, rather than dividing. I explain that they aren’t a means to control or manipulate, nor are they a set of rules to dole out to others. Rather, boundaries are a standard you hold yourself to, and their violation tri…
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Today’s episode is going to be the permission you've been waiting for to dream big. I’m talking about how to approach and build your Next Level Life. I define your Next Level Life as the life of your dreams. The active word is “your”: not the dreams your parents, partner or friends hold for you, but the dreams you have a deep knowing about and migh…
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Saying “sorry” when you actually mean, “excuse me”. Prefacing a question with an apology. Apologizing to service providers who have messed up your order as if you are an inconvenience. Sound familiar? For many of us women, this will. At best, many of us use “sorry” an unintentional filler word, and at worst, we over-apologize because of a deep-seat…
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Too many women hold themselves back from the lives of their dreams not because of money itself, but because of a poor money mindset – no pun intended! Today I’m inviting you into a money mindset masterclass I held where we looked at money using my 5 point framework. Through listening in to the coaching session you will gain the tools to clear limit…
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Today I invite you into my world. What exactly is feminist coaching, how is it different to therapy, and do I need it? All questions I get on a weekly basis. I hired a coach at a very pivotal moment and they changed the trajectory of my life for the better. In this episode I share about this journey and how it inspired me to become a coach myself, …
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Episode 22: Overwhelm Most of us feel that overwhelm is out of our control. That it’s the result of demands that outstrip our capacity, resulting in stress, anxiety and feelings of failure. But what if I told you that there is one single cause to overwhelm and it also happens to be the one thing you can control? If you’ve been here a while, you kno…
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Today we’re getting into the nitty gritty of emotional ownership. Who is responsible for how we feel? And how can we better manage our emotions? I begin with distinguishing between empaths, and the result of being socialised as a woman – which is heightened empathy. I discuss how we can be empathetic to a fault, leading to emotional co-dependency. …
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How much do you trust yourself... To make good decisions? To figure things out? To not beat yourself up for all of the things? Self-trust is the secret sauce to living a life free of anxiety, overwhelm, and lack of fulfillment. It's the belief deep in your bones that whatever comes in your way, you can handle it. For most of us, myself, included, s…
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Today I am joined by Elizabeth Sherman for my final episode in my 4 part series. She’s a coach who helps her clients achieve their health goals alongside menopause without the toxic diet culture that often accompanies this. Her podcast, Done With Dieting, tackles the same issues with the help of experts across multiple fields. Today’s conversation …
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This week, we look into the intricacies of perfectionism and examine the reasons why it is so common among high achieving women, especially if you are already self-critical. I explain where perfectionism comes from, how it affects all areas of our life, and why it never works. I also share my coaching strategies for overcoming it and starting to be…
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In today’s episode I break down the road block preventing your dreams becoming reality: procrastination. I do this through three key concepts; reframing procrastination, discussing resistance and persistence, and providing practical behaviours to combat procrastination. Procrastination is an emotional management problem, rather than a time manageme…
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The myth of "Having It All" has left an entire generation of women feeling overwhelmed, unfulfilled, and insecure. In this episode learn how to have it all on your own terms, the one decision you need to make in order to do so, and the three things you need to stop doing in order to create a life you're excited about. Plus, learn how people-pleasin…
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Hey listeners, it is so good to be back after months off! Today I’m talking about my hiatus and the health scare that lead to it. I share my physical and emotional healing journey and discuss how I’ve been coping. The second half of the show is about the invaluable life skill of managing your mind. I define what this means and walk you through the …
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As we approach the holiday season we also approach the “unavoidable” aunts and uncles, the “offensive” siblings and “insufferable” old friends. This episode will equip you with the tools to navigate these relationships, but probably not in the way you expect. For one, we aren’t going to villainize people, as much as you might feel justified in doin…
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You’ve heard me say this before: we pursue things because we believe we will feel better for having them. Today we’re deconstructing this truth, we’re unpacking our relationship with negative emotions, and learning how to sit with them. Needless to say, this episode might be a bit uncomfortable if you’re used to avoiding them! I explain that the ro…
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Goals, goals, goals. We love them, we hate them and we keep making them despite how conflicted they can make us feel. For many of us, goals are a lose-lose. When we achieve them, we don’t celebrate but think “if I could do it, anyone could”. If we don’t achieve them, we berate ourselves and our self-confidence pays the price. In today’s episode rew…
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If your partner folds laundry haphazardly despite you showing them umpteen times how to do it the way you like, it’s upsetting. The reasonable solution to avoid you being upset by this, is to insist they correct their behaviour, right? Wrong. Today’s episode is going to ruffle some feathers, but it’s for the better, I promise. Today I challenge the…
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Every day, I speak to women who want to stop procrastinating but don’t know how. When they get a new project at work at first they’re excited, but then when it comes time to do it they just can’t get started. There are so many other things to do instead, like scroll through facebook, have a snack, fold socks… Then as the due date gets closer, panic…
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To Quit or Not to Quit, that is the question. In this episode I get personal and discuss my winding career path and all it taught me about when, why and how to quit my job. I explain that the act of leaving a job is the smallest, and probably easiest part. The real work is the inner work. I use a personal anecdote about my competitive horse-riding …
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Inner Critic work is central to living authentically, so in this episode we take a deep dive into what it is, what function it serves, and how to live a joyful life alongside it. I begin by defining what our Inner Critic is, and explain that it’s ultimate goal is a benevolent one: it wants to keep us safe. Historically, and even today our inner cri…
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In this episode I discuss the double-edged sword that is overthinking. As humans we are hardwired to perceive danger and prepare for it. But in these modern times of luxury and civility, overthinking becomes less of a safety mechanism and more a self-saboteur. I address how critiquing overthinking can feel ironic to overachieving women: their exces…
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So little time so much to do, the age-old dilemma. In today’s episode I discuss a topic that all of us have wrestled with and most of us have lost: not for lack of trying but because it seems like a logically impossible problem to solve. If I have more to do than time available to do it in, something’s gotta give, therefore peak productivity Is fun…
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